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Thread: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

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    Default Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Great forum. Hope you can give me some quick advice:

    Bear with me. I want to learn from it.

    Met her online. Second date we had sex. Then when I text her two days later she says "I am so glad you texted me, you made my day".

    Two days later we randomly text at night for a hookup on a Monday.

    So I text her on Wednesday about something amusing she responds "OMG I can't wait to tell you about the whole story". I reply "Cool tell me about it on Friday".

    No response. I got drunk on Thursday at 1am and just text a "?".

    Then Friday at 1:40 she says "Sorry I have to work tomorrow so Im staying in tonight & going to bed early."

    I respond "No sweat, I'm going to the beach Sunday. YOu should come."

    No response until 1:03pm on Sunday "What time are you going. I'm going to my friends company party at 8."

    MY ANALYSIS - She's blowing me off. She set a pole at 8pm to prevent spending the night or, if i reply she will say "Oh, that wont get home in time."

    Am I overthinking this? I am deciding how to respond. It's now Tuesday.

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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Hmmm very interesting. Nothing really sticks out to me as to the reason why she is being aloof. But she is being aloof. May require a freezeout. Along with no more invites. Let her invite you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Hmmm very interesting. Nothing really sticks out to me as to the reason why she is being aloof. But she is being aloof. May require a freezeout. Along with no more invites. Let her invite you.
    Exactly. I really don't get this one. There was no 'tell' or reason to. She just is. One day she's great, the next, she's aloof.

    Do you think I should not reply at all, or just send her a text with something unrelated that doesn't acknowledge her prior one? Can you explain Freezeout - everyone's definition seems different.

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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Like batman said it nothing really sticks out. Maybe she just wanted a one night stand did you think about that? But at this point you can't assume anything.
    Looks like she is begging for a freeze out if you ask me, just occupy yourself, get busy, hell go back and re-read the game. And no more invite for her until she go back to behaving herself and then, you can reward her.
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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    She definitely wants (generically) a relationship. She told me several times and joked about how I should stop "banging those other hoes".

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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    A freezeout, to me, simply means to not initiate contact for a period of time.

    I think you should re-initiate with a whole new thread. Not even acknowledge her previous text. If she brings it up then tell her you never got it. Then she'll likely begin to text you more if she believes you don't always get her texts. Be indifferent. Meaning, be involved in the convo, but short. Almost like you're waiting for her to entertain you with clever conversation. Girls respond with things like "Lol" "Yea" "Ok". Well guess what....so can we. And it works.
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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    A freezeout, to me, simply means to not initiate contact for a period of time.

    I think you should re-initiate with a whole new thread. Not even acknowledge her previous text. If she brings it up then tell her you never got it. Then she'll likely begin to text you more if she believes you don't always get her texts. Be indifferent. Meaning, be involved in the convo, but short. Almost like you're waiting for her to entertain you with clever conversation. Girls respond with things like "Lol" "Yea" "Ok". Well guess what....so can we. And it works.
    Awesome. Got it. Could you help me out and tell me when you feel the ideal time is to come out of the freezer? Her last text was Sunday, 1pm.

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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    I don't like waiting too long because attraction fizzles out so fast. Plus she didn't outright reject you. It was more subtle. If it was more direct I'd say a week. But for this....2-3 days. Find something in your day that reminded you of her and you had to share it with her.
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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Guys, especially Batman, you did it!

    I sent this text at 6pm, 2.5 days after the blow off:

    ME: "Lol reminded me of you, and i had to share: I just walked by [place] and a huge jenga pile collapsed, knocked over pitcher of beer.

    Then 2 hours later she responds:

    HER: "A true jengamaster would have saved the beer. Just got home from [thing]. I'm exhaused and covered in sand. Shower time.

    10pm, me: Lol

    then get this:

    she CALLS me at 10:42. I'm with another girl, so I don't answer.

    BATMAN, MY MAN - what's the next step?

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    Default Re: Urgent: Am I Getting Played Here? What's my next move?

    Cool man. Sounds good.

    Well I'd keep it simple. That's my style.

    Text her in the morning.

    Me: Sorry I missed you call. I was passed out.

    Or if you want to create a little curiosity then say:

    Sorry I missed your call. I was busy then passed out.

    If she asks why you were busy keep it vague. If she playfully accuses you of being with another woman then say "Lol you would think that." Then change the subject.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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