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    Default Field Report #2- Feedback Welcome!

    Hey guys, I did a few approaches yesterday on my university campus and I'd like a little feedback to help myself improve. All comments are welcome.

    The first set was at a coffee shop. I only had a few minutes before I had to walk to class. I saw this cute chinese girl studying at a table, so I bought my coffee and walked over. I've been getting more comfortable confidently sitting across from girls. So I sat down at her table and delivered a modified version of the direct opener I've been using all week:

    Me: "Hey, I just saw you from over there and you look really cute. I had to come say hi."
    Her: *Smiles* aww thanks!
    Me: I can only stay for two minutes because I have a class.

    We talked about the course she was studying, what she was doing in school, and how her day has been. I found out she has a boyfriend, but I said that we could still be friends and that I'm not the jealous type.

    I literally had to go to class two minutes later so I told her it was nice meeting her and that I'd text her later. She smiled, said goodbye and waved.

    I texted her a half hour later:

    Me: Nice meeting you. Here's my number : )
    Her: Nice meeting you too : ) 902? You from Nova Scotia?
    Me: Yeah that's where I'm from. Been living here for the last 3 years. Shame I had class so soon.
    Her: Haha it's okay. Enjoy your class : p
    Me: Play nice now. : p do you play sports?
    Her: blah blah blah sports
    We talked about part time jobs, how she works at a chinese restaurant her parents own and I teased her a bit.
    Talked about her ethnicity.

    Then:
    Her: Lol, so what's your last name?
    Me: XXXXXXXX. You just want to creep me...
    Her: No lol. Your last name in my phone is currently ------------- haha
    Me: you could always just put a happy face by mine : )
    Her: lol

    This convo ended yesterday at 11:22am. It's 8:44am the next day.

    Sorry for the long post. I'm curious if I should have handled the boyfriend differently. I know you can push past it, because sometimes they throw it at you as a shit test. She definitely really has a boyfriend though.

    Did my last text come on too strong or is she seeing how invested I am by whether or not I respond to one word texts?

    This was an interesting case and all feedback is helpful.

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Field Report #2- Feedback Welcome!

    I think you did very well mate. good on you. I think you have created a very good level of comfort so that she gave you her number even though she had a boyfriend. If you don't feel bad about it maybe use some BF destroyers and see how you go? ;-)

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    Default Re: Field Report #2- Feedback Welcome!

    You did great.

    You may have friend zoned yourself a little bit when she brought up her b/f. Instead of your answer, when she brought up the b/f you could have replied, "That's great we're going to need someone to make us breakfast in bed."

    Most people here recommend not using smiley faces, other emoticons or to use them to an absolute minimum if you have to.

    You did great. You showed lots of confidence with your approach and opener. You built good rapport and N-closed.

    There are many directions you can take this text conversation or just meet up for coffee to continue to build rapport and escalate from there.

    I would tell her that my friends and I haven't had good Chinese food in ages. Find out when she is working then go to her parents restaurant with a bunch of friends. If they happen to be female that's even better. It will show social proof.

    Introduce your friends and build them up. Know what you will say about your friends before you get there and say only positives about them. A confident, ALPHA guy does that. A beta will try to put down his friends. Remember that winners hang out with other winners. Losers hang out with other losers. Drug addicts hang out with other addicts. What you say about your friends is a reflection on you especially when you have just met a new girl. When you get to know her better then you can mention a flaw or two your friends have. She will be able to see those flaws for herself.

    Pay attention to your body language at the table. Most of all make it look like you are having a great time.

    I am assuming that this girl is a waitress at the restaurant. When you are leaving and she asks you how was everything just reply, " The food was great but the service was terrible. You can make it up to me next time." Then give her a wink.

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    Default Re: Field Report #2- Feedback Welcome!

    @ Aussie- Thanks for the compliment.

    @Dave- She is actually a cook there, not a waitress. It would be a solid plan if she was a waitress though. I'm trying to do at least one approach a day. I approached a hottie here at the library ten minutes ago and had a 15 minute conversation, but she's leaving the province in a week and has a bf. bad luck.

    Back on point, I don't think the chinese restaurant idea is as effective since she'll be in the kitchen. I do love chinese food though.

    The information I read promoted the use of emoticons. The contradicting information is definitely interesting. Everyone has their own style.

    Any other tips? If anyone else has some good feedback I'd love to hear it.

    It's crazy how much my confidence has grown and I've only done 6 or so approaches in the last week.


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