Been doing daygame all summer long. Very comfortable doing it. Its my second summer but took 3 yr off during a relationship. Practiced DD stuff about 5 yr prior to that. I can't tell if my game has areas that need major improvement or if it's just a matter of good days and bad.
This will be a long message but will try to short form. I go about my day to day life, work, groceries, walk my dog. If I see a girl I'm attracted to I approach. Once a day I spent 1-2 hours walking around my hood purposely looking. I find both ways yield equally. I'm picky with looks and do not approach for the sake of practice unless its the start of the day and I feel rusty.
Everyday of the week I approach 1-3 girls. Here is my summary per week;
I have a boyfriend/wedding ring - 40%
Number Close - 40% (never a fake number)
Great body, but up close not pretty - 20%
I feel like my number close is good I think? But out of that 40% most will play the text game and some will not respond at all. I usually end up on a date once every 2 weeks, not happy about that.
I'm experiencing all kind of weirdness. Girls that I feel are not that into me or the interaction was short....surprisingl y things go well. Girls that stop and talk to me for 10mins, give IOI's most of the time backfire. I have yet to go on a instant date but I'm trying.
My trouble is after getting the number. Here is my breakdown;
-See a hottie, approach immediately. Usually walk past them 3 sec later and turn around and tap them on the shoulder.
-"Excuse me, I noticed you as you walked passed. You're the cuttest girl I've seen all day or I really like the way you dress you've got great style. I know that if I didn't stop you I'd be kicking myself all day."
-Introduction, followed by false time constraint.
-"What are you doing today?"
-Mention a cool restaurant with a patio that I haven't' been too in a while. Tell them I'm going sometime this week, invite them to join.
-Exchange numbers, try to put mine in her phone with funny name.
-a few more minutes of chit chat and off I go
- 3 or 4 hours later send a simple text. Usually they bite and I either respond with a little bit of banter or not at all.
-Next day start some playful funny low compliance texts. Set up a date for drinks.
50% of the time I lose them when I set up a date, 30% turn into dates and 20% I never hear from after the number. Radio silence at that point. So I give it a day or two and start up low compliance texting again. If nothing then a phone call the following day or two and if voicemail then I leave a funny message. At this point I'm done. Only recently have I been trying to resurrect dead numbers by pinging every few weeks just for my own knowledge and humour. I've read over the texting guide by love systems, very helpful.
Now onto the questions;
1. I'm blinded by my methods, see any areas of improvement?
2. Are my percentages normal?
3. The phone numbers are real, I know this once I hear there voicemail. Should I call before setting up a date? This I really want to hear about.
4. My gut is telling me that part of this is a security issue for the girl, I mean I am a complete stranger and they have invested a 10 min conversation with me. What's a good 1st date that they will feel secure?
Note: The last 2 girls is what really spawned this post. I felt a good attraction coming from both of them. One was 22 the other 28. Got a loving hug from the 28 year old at the end of it. Absolutely nothing from either of them since that moment. I sent 2 texts per day since I've met them, over 2 days and on day 3 a phone call and left a funny call back humour message today. This is the first time I changed my strategy. My date invite went from wine on at a restaurant patio on the beach to sitting or walking along the beach with a glass of wine watching the sunset. It's either a fluke or they sense danger with my new choice of date?
Thank you so much guys, I really feel like the hardest part is over. All that's left is to be in an area with more girls so I can do 10+ approaches per day and tweak everything so I go on more dates