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Thread: How to Recover from Bad Text to HB9

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    Default How to Recover from Bad Text to HB9

    Alright, normally I would just move on but for experimental reasons I'd like to see what would become of this.

    I did a direct daygame approach on a HB9. Number closed but honestly didn't think anything would come of it because my game was shaky that day.

    Started texting that night and to my surprise was very positive responses. Out of all the texting I made 3 comments that I thought were funny but were on the cocky side. See below;

    My opener was "put my number in your phone, its the most important one you'll ever get"

    On day 2 started with "guess what?" "Dr says my awesomeness level has increased 20%"

    later that night "did you get approached by any charming, tall Italian men today"

    I'm a well-dressed, in shape attractive guy and she took these comments as conceded and arrogant. Texting started on thurs and due to me being non responsive on fri and sat night got stretched out to 4 days. On day 4 I asked her out. She sends this long text explaining that she enjoyed meeting me and was looking forward to getting to know me better. However I took 4 days to ask her out and my messages since then were arrogant and conceded and she's no longer interested.

    I did the best I could to recover. I simply said my weekend was full and I don't flake so that's why I didn't ask her out right away. I continued to say that she took my texts the wrong way as I'm a playful guy but I could see why the written would could be taken that way by someone that does not know my personality in real life.

    This did not work as she said again she's no longer interested.

    I waited 2 weeks and send a low compliance funny ping text. Got nothing. She goes to my gym but honestly after 2 years I've only seen her there once.

    There must be some way to recover enough from this to start texting again or where if I do see her at the gym I can start over. Yes Yes I know there are many other woman out there and this is not stopping me from meeting any. Basically she's a hottie and I feel as though one more strategic text is harmless. Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: How to Recover from Bad Text to HB9

    Ok so I noticed a few things. Some have to do with style while other things I feel that could've been improved.

    Being cocky/funny, a lot of guys forget the other part....which is funny. If it's not funny then it's just cocky. HOWEVER, I don't think your messages were bad. I actually liked them. I believe it was how you used them.

    First, you used 3 of them. That's like using 3 negs. You should NEVER use 3 negs. It's overkill and could easily ruin your game. Also, were you cocky/funny when you got her number in the first meeting? If you came across as a sincere genuine guy then switching to a cocky/funny guy likely gave buyer's remorse. You have to be the same guy from the very first second to the last. Be cocky/funny when you first meet or stay sincere and genuine. At least until she feels a bit more comfortable with you. One is not better than the other. It's just about being consistent throughout your persona that you present to her.

    But the BIGGEST mistake you made with her was to EXPLAIN yourself why you didn't set a date with her.

    Now, I'm not that hard headed. I believe that there are some occasions where you should genuinely explain yourself to a woman. But she has to be worth it and for a pretty legitimate reason. This situation was not one of them my friend.

    You know about frame control, yes? She set the frame that it was rude to not contact her over the weekend to at least attempt a date with her. You accepted that frame by explaining yourself and trying to "get her back" on track with you. Bad move. Who the hell is she to say that it's rude? Huh? ....Exactly.

    You change the frame. Either by making a new one, throwing the same frame back in her face, or by ignoring it. Setting up a new frame is usually the best way.

    Here's what your new frame should've been: When we first met I saw you as a real laid back classy lady. But it's important to me for a woman to get my sense of humor. Otherwise what's the point right? Lol. I felt our last convo could've went a bit smoother. I don't like to feel uncomfortable talking to you. And I know you can be easy to talk to.

    Whichever frame prevails wins. Downplay her frame by not acknowledging that it's serious and set one up yourself. Too easily guys think that when a woman says something is rude or wrong we think "sh1t. I better do what she says or I'll lose my chance." When a lot of the time you just have to recognize what she's doing and set up your own frame. That YOU are the prize and SHE better not mess up her chances WITH YOU. Hope this helps and good luck.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: How to Recover from Bad Text to HB9

    Outstanding advice. So is that 2nd last paragraph my new frame now or is this too late to salvage?

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    Default Re: How to Recover from Bad Text to HB9

    I think it's possible to use the frame now. I mean....things are looking grim. But what have you got to lose right? Just know that if it doesn't work don't beat yourself up. Put your ego aside and walk away. There'll be others.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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