Re: How to Recover from Bad Text to HB9
Ok so I noticed a few things. Some have to do with style while other things I feel that could've been improved.
Being cocky/funny, a lot of guys forget the other part....which is funny. If it's not funny then it's just cocky. HOWEVER, I don't think your messages were bad. I actually liked them. I believe it was how you used them.
First, you used 3 of them. That's like using 3 negs. You should NEVER use 3 negs. It's overkill and could easily ruin your game. Also, were you cocky/funny when you got her number in the first meeting? If you came across as a sincere genuine guy then switching to a cocky/funny guy likely gave buyer's remorse. You have to be the same guy from the very first second to the last. Be cocky/funny when you first meet or stay sincere and genuine. At least until she feels a bit more comfortable with you. One is not better than the other. It's just about being consistent throughout your persona that you present to her.
But the BIGGEST mistake you made with her was to EXPLAIN yourself why you didn't set a date with her.
Now, I'm not that hard headed. I believe that there are some occasions where you should genuinely explain yourself to a woman. But she has to be worth it and for a pretty legitimate reason. This situation was not one of them my friend.
You know about frame control, yes? She set the frame that it was rude to not contact her over the weekend to at least attempt a date with her. You accepted that frame by explaining yourself and trying to "get her back" on track with you. Bad move. Who the hell is she to say that it's rude? Huh? ....Exactly.
You change the frame. Either by making a new one, throwing the same frame back in her face, or by ignoring it. Setting up a new frame is usually the best way.
Here's what your new frame should've been: When we first met I saw you as a real laid back classy lady. But it's important to me for a woman to get my sense of humor. Otherwise what's the point right? Lol. I felt our last convo could've went a bit smoother. I don't like to feel uncomfortable talking to you. And I know you can be easy to talk to.
Whichever frame prevails wins. Downplay her frame by not acknowledging that it's serious and set one up yourself. Too easily guys think that when a woman says something is rude or wrong we think "sh1t. I better do what she says or I'll lose my chance." When a lot of the time you just have to recognize what she's doing and set up your own frame. That YOU are the prize and SHE better not mess up her chances WITH YOU. Hope this helps and good luck.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."