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Thread: flaked the first time, after DHV now she propose a meet up.

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    Default flaked the first time, after DHV now she propose a meet up.

    So i number closed this HB a while back at a fast food joint, then after i tried to set a meet up she flaked on me saying that she would be out of town for 2-3 weeks. i told her it wasn't a big deal, then started a new topic, then ended it on a high note telling her i had to go to the gym.

    After that, i froze her totally, because i rarely text a girl just to fluff talk. i usually try to set a meet up early on after number close, then kino, and DHV, and cocky/funny when we hang out, and then more DHV and cocky/funny via text, since i used her to that during the date.

    so to make a long story short, after i froze her, about a month later she initiated contact back and we resumed the texting (to a very minimum on my part).
    so after she texted me about two times in a row with just fluff talk, i had to make her understand something clear and sound. Like Mystery say " to win her, you gotta be willing to lose her." so that's how it went.

    HB: blah blah blah (no meet up, just random talk)

    Me: I feel like you are trying to turn me into a texting buddy, so i can keep you up until the next episode of Real Housewives of Orange County. I did not sign for that job.

    HB: Ouch!!! Wow! i was just looking for conversation, but obviously you are a very busy person. So, why don't you spell it out for me in plain English what is that you want from this?

    Me: You're just like my litte sister, adorable but kinda dorky *thanks to Style*, and i won't write a book about i want with you, as i'm the type of guy that shows it instead.

    Hb: wow! you are very good at this game!!!

    I stop texting at that point and opened a new topic about 2 days later, and here it is.

    Me: Just drove pass something that reminded me of you...
    HB: and do I dare ask what was that?

    Me: lol i dont know if i can trust you with that information yet!!you have to answer this question correctly first.
    HB: aw come on!! That's not fair!!!

    Me: here it goes, guy meets girl at fast food, girl flirt and try to seduce guy. guy flirt back, take girl number. and finally girl kiss guy.
    Does it happen a lot with you or it was just the luck of the draw?

    HB: i did not kiss you!!!!!!!
    Me: Lol i will give you a spanking from now on whenever you put more than two exclamation mark in a row!!! *notice i have three exclamation mark on here* Oh yea, my fault i remember now "I" kissed you

    Hb: What and hypocrite! you just put three exclamation mark in a row! lol. and i wont lie i have a very terrible memory, i dont remember any kiss. I guess i need to be refreshed lol.

    ME: you're a mess. lol. you gonna need more than "guesses" if you wanna taste these blackberry lips again honey.
    HB: oh i do want a taste!! I can't believe i dont remember!! But i was having a bad week that week... i even asked my daugther if you kissed me lol.

    Me: Anywayssss. I drove pass this tatoo/piercing shop the other day, which reminded me of your perciengs junky ass lol. Where you have all those piercings again?
    HB: EH, there is worse things to be addicted to lol. i have ear, nose, spectrum, tongue lip, and some other places lol. 7:46 pm

    Me: ahaha some other palces huh!?! alright i gotta go rob a convenient store real quick, talk to you later. 7:56pm

    HB: So when are we going to get together again? 7:57pm

    So here's my issue, since i tried to set up a date the firs time and she flaked on me, i don't want her to feel like everything has to be on her terms and also i don't want to set the tone as i was waiting around the corner for her green light and right away jump on it.
    So how can i tell her i'm busy and we can meet but it has to be quick because i gotta go back on a project i'm working on. make her wait and burn of desire to hang out?

    Any help and advice is appreciated.
    Nikee --Just did it--

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    Default Re: flaked the first time, after DHV now she propose a meet up.

    First in general conversation find out what her schedule is like.


    Tell her," My next few days are crazy busy."

    Then ask her a question:


    "What's on your agenda this week? (weekend?)"

    or

    "What part of the city will you be destroying while partying this week (weekend) so i can avoid that area (bar, restaurant, house party etc)"

    Once you have some clues to when she is free then TELL her:

    "I am going for drinks at XYZ Bar either on Thursday at 7:30 . I might even allow you to come but it depends on your answer to this question. OK, I am going to rob a bank will you be the driver of the getaway car? "

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    Default Re: flaked the first time, after DHV now she propose a meet up.

    thanks the advice dave_xxx greatly appreciated. and actually she asked me out herself yesterday and that how it went.

    Hb: blah blah blah... what you think?
    Me: There is only so much I can say via text. Eh, would you dare play a game with me?
    Hb: yea what is it?

    Me: ill ask you a simple question, and if you get it right, you get to ask me something you always wanted to, but if you don't, its the other way around lol. the catch is that you gotta say what you want before starting the agme, so nobody would be tempted to cheat. I wont laugh at you if you chicken out at this point.

    Hb: ok, if I win I want a date.
    Me: ahahha... fair enough, "when" I win I want you to write me a poem. do we have a deal?
    Hb: yes, what is the question?
    Me: what is the capital of Bangladesh * making sure she can google it, therefotre win the game* (credit: Trickortreat)
    Hbhaka
    Me: Cheater!!! lol... hope your not an expensive date, coz I think you got me on that one.


    Then HB goes silent all night, until now. I'm a very patient guy so ill wait til she reinitiate, then go with the advice you gave me t set up that date in a non AFC way.

    Thanks again my friend.
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