Re: First date at a bar
Nuh-uh. We usually say first couple of dates should be cheap. Why? Because she isn't there to have fun with your money, she is there to have fun with you.
Let me start with your little technique. You pay for a dinner + "something fun" date, then supposedly seal a second date because you paid for the first one and now it's her turn. This is NOT healthy, bro. She might seem cool with that, but I don't think so. She will want to go on a second date because she liked you and she wants to get to know you more, not because she has to pay her 'first date debt'. You should focus on having fun and creating connection with your date rather than focusing on your wallet or "making her drunk".
Don't think about the second date while you're just on the first one. Go with the flow, live the moment. If she enjoyed her first date, there is no reason she will flake on the second one.
If you're gonna feel obliged about paying for the drinks, simply tell her that "everyone pays for themselves." That is not rude or anything. Or you can just change the date and have more fun while paying less money.
Here's a list of fun & cheap first date ideas:
Just make sure you pick the right one for the right girl.
It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.
It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.