Met a HB9, she's the best friend of my buddy's new girlfriend. First met her at a club on girlfriends birthday, and wanted to hang out more after the club but she left really early because she was "tired". I was able to number close, and I did send her a text that night, but it took her a day and a half to get back to me because she was "run down" and had to rest. This became a pattern and it was really frustrating to me, because she would be really interested for a few days and we would text and talk on the phone a lot, and then she would go cold without explanation, and when she finally came back she would play it off that she was "resting" and "sleeping". I talked to my buddy and he said she was definitely interested, so I didn't understand. We have gone out a few of times and while it seemed to go well and there was lots of flirting and kino, she always wanted to leave and go home even though it was early. She even cancelled once because she "wasn't feeling up to going out" although she did immediately reschedule. I haven't been sitting around waiting for her, and have been going out and meeting other girls, but if I mention this (subtly) it doesn't faze her.
Twice I have taken the bull by the horns and told her we are going out, once it worked but again she went home early after not seeming energetic, I tried to convince to go come back to my place but that got nowhere. The second time no matter how much I tried she wouldn't budge and made excuses and didn't come out. I was so confused with all her excuses and her selfish behavior because she only wanted to hang out on her terms. I talked to my friend and he said something about how his girlfriend had mentioned she was sick. Then on Facebook I saw there was one of those awareness ribbon things for liver disease, as well as a status update about some fundraiser event (so she has time/energy to go to a fundraising party but not hang out with me) I causally mentioned the party while talking about my own partying and she said it was a cause close to her heart. When I asked to elaborate she told me she was born with liver disease. She said it takes a toll on her and one of the side effects is low energy and fatigue (so this might explain why she was always going home early or not wanting to come out and possibly sleeping so much when she took forever to answer my texts) She also said she used to get jealous when she saw other people out living and having fun, but that she has made peace with it and now looks after herself first, even if it means she misses out on things.
So she says she is tired all the time from being sick, and makes excuses and won’t come out with me or a group often, and if she does than she leaves early. But then I do see Facebook statues where she is up late and at fundraisers, or I hear that she has been up all night texting her girlfriends (my buddy’s girlfriend included) I think she is just playing up her illness and using it as an excuse to play games and avoid me. I know the saying about interested people acting interested, and I think if she was interested she would come out, even if it meant not feeling her best sometimes. I want to take the bull by the horns and let her know her behavior is unacceptable, and show I won’t just play her games and jump at her call. Her excuses and thoughts only for herself have gotten on my nerves, but she is really hot so I want to get and keep control of the frame because I know I lost it, and show her I am in charge and the prize but I have no idea how to do this. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance if you read this.