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    Default Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    Hey players, pua's...

    I am writing this to see if someone can crack this case and give me an interesting advice!
    I am usually good with women, never had a real and serious problem to get a women in bed.
    However, this woman I am going to talk about is one exception. Why? I have no idea, but trust me, she is!
    I met her last year while she was doing some tourism, so yeah, we don't live in the same country.
    I was able to isolate her from her friends, and was able to spend 3 days with her alone.
    First day we had a long and innocent conversation (learned about eachothers lives and stuff). Second day I grabbed a bottle of some nice liquor and took her for a nice walk. We spent like 10 hours together, talking and talking. At some point we were laying down on the grass, and I asked her to give me a massage. She didn't think twice, she absolutely started giving the massage, and then asked one in return. So when it comes to Kino, this was considered a huge step for me. I was able to make her feel really comfortable while touching her all over her body. But for a reason I don't know, I just couldn't make a move, to kiss her or anything. And I was really surprised about it (this is why I call her an exception). And I am quite sure she wasn't that impressed about my innocence. The next day, I asked her to come to my place, and she came. Surprisingly, I messed up again. Couldn't make a move at all. Next day she left to her country, but we kept talking via texting.
    Few months later, she told me that she used to have strong feelings for me, but it just can't work out because we're far away from eachother. So here I suppose she friendzoned me immediately.
    We kept talking and talking, months went by and I started to have some feelings for her. And I told her about my feelings like 3 weeks ago. She was like "I don't know what to say, I really don't have the same feelings anymore, I have to meet first and see what happens".
    So eventually, we're still talking, and I invited her to my country, and she's going to stay at my place for like 2 nights.
    I really don't want to screw this up, she's really a catch! Do you think that this is sort of a green light from her? If she comes, it really means that she's giving me another chance to make my move so I can get out of the friendzone. Right?

    Sorry for this long story guys, but I would really appreciate some real solving here. Thanks

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    Sweet so she is coming back, that means that there is still some interest. But please becareful long distance relationships can really ruin you. Trust me I was in one for 2 years me being in the USA and she was in the Philippines. The thing about long distance relationships is that when you are together you better make your moves quick because time is limited and there is only so much you can do on skype. I wish you the best but in my opinion I would only take it as a quicky and move on. You will have a lot of trust issues when going long distance. No matter who you are and who she is, its just human. When you do see her next just get back into kino steps and then f-close!

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    Thanks for your reply man!
    I know exactly what you mean. Long distance relationships are never easy and can take you down easily for sure. We discussed it and she doesn't want one either.
    But I was only wondering whether or not she will be expecting a move from me after telling her about my feelings. Personally I guess she is, and she's totally okay with this, or else she would've made an excuse for not coming. Right?

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    Long Distant Relationships is Definitely not the way to go... Since she is coming Back,entertain her have fun and lead it to your bed if she's sleeping in your room you have it covered... Just make the move, if its real then you wont have to worry let your passion take over... Do not ask about it act on it.

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    In fact, I owe her another massage. So leading her to my bed will be pretty easy. So I got this part covered. My question was whether she's expecting a huge move from me and if she's up to it? But i guess you mean that either way I have to make my move and figure it out by myself without thinking much about it?

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    BaNick,

    Echoing what the above posters said, long distance relationship is a sure-fire way to kill attraction. I rarely ever hear of any success out of long distance relationships. The ones I've witnessed succeeding in ldr's are those who are already in a long term relationship. But in a player's world, it's a language we don't speak. So ultimately, as it already happened, that will be the outcome with you and her. So the first thing is not to get so attached that you get hurt because your expectations didn't happen.

    Texting is not the way to go long term. It's a poor man's form of attraction. I had a girl I flirted with who always laughed at my texts and sometimes texts me. And after one month because of missed opportunities to set date, it fizzled. She stopped returning my texts. Same in your case. That is why the attraction died.

    So you got a second chance. You need to try to rekindle attraction. So whatever you did the first time to make her attracted to you, do it again. If it is not broke, then don't fix it EXCEPT this time try for the F-close, but don't force it or make her uncomfortable. It is important to try to keep your confidence high like when you first met. It will be a challenge the second time, but your innergame needs to be there because now it is compromised by doubt.

    The reason why I think you locked up the first time is because you really liked that girl. You respect her more than the other girls you f-closed. I felt the same way and ran into something similar. Girls I don't care for I fvck. But the one girl I really like, I treat her differently. Alot of players, run into this. This is a natural occurence.

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    I.M.Mortal, (and all the other guys),

    I never said this before, but I would like to add that it hasn't only been one year that we know eachother.
    First time we met was 3 years and a half ago. But it was really fast back then, only took her msn name before she left and we chatted there for few years non-stop. Last year, she was the one who asked if we could meet, but because she was already coming to my country (she had the feelings for me when she came but never knew it that time). And she came with her friends and I was able to isolate her for those 3 days.

    About what I did last year, I am still the same with her, that's the thing. I did nothing special to impress her. I was just myself. But you can't make a girl wait for ever, especially if she has feelings. That's what I did, so she friendzoned me and was able to get over me after we met.

    Why I didn't make a move, you got it. It's because I know she's special. But again, can't make a woman wait for too long.

    Now that she knows how I feel, and that she agreed to come, I am sure that she's expecting a move from me. And to be honest if she's expecting a move, then she's interested to get straight to the point.

    But I need a confirmation for that, someone telling me that I am right with all my thoughts...

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    I wouldn't wait for a clear sign from her. Just make your move. If she is not into it then her body language and her words will match. (Ex: No! While pushing you away with a serious look. Though I doubt this would happen) I remember a girl laying down next time me with her arms folded. When I moved in closer she backed off. I almost took it as a bad sign. But I persisted, without coming across as a sleaze, and eventually we did sleep together within a couple of hours. She then went on to be my gf for the next 6 months. She admitted later that she was just shy. So be the leader and lead her. Don't wait.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    I'd honestly like to consider that accepting my invitation and coming to stay at my house for 2 nights is her move. So once she does that, any kind of move from me towards her would be appreciated. Is this way of thinking fair enough?

    Again, this girl had feelings for me a year ago. Now I am the one who has feelings for her. That's why I invited her in. And she knows everything. So since she knows, would she accept staying all alone at my place if she doesn't want to do anything with me? Every woman knows that if she stays at a man's house, this man's going to make a move.

    Any comments?

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    Default Re: Interesting Case to Solve...How to get this girl into bed?

    Yea man, even on regular dates, if you invite a girl you just met to your place, she knows what's going to happen.

    So she knows. You know.

    It all goes back to confidence. True confidence is not being afraid to show "vulnerability." You've shown vulnerability which in effect showed "authenticity" when you finally told her your real feelings for her. That allowed her to give you this second chance and be real with you.

    So when getting intimate with her, keep that confidence with her. You guys knew each other for 3 years so it's time to end this game. Find out where you going to take this relationship or is it going to end in a friend zone.

    But you were warned - Long Distance relationship sucks. You were never boyfiend/girlfriend first in a stable close distance relationship. So there is a reality to this you are not going to like .


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