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    Question Don't know what to do next, help!

    I had just made a very long and descriptive thread and when I went to preview the post I was logged out so I lost it all, so I'll cut this short.

    Backstory:I have been on two dates with this girl, both were okay and pretty much served to get to know each other better (no touch or k-closing) could have gone better but I haven't dated before (only recently have I really heavily built up my self confidence and changed my looks for the better). I could have easily dated before but I didnt want to waste my time on sub par women I wouldnt be interested in. So there is this chick, I really like her (she doesn't know the extent of this, I've been pretty vague). I have texted her a few times, called her 3 times (two she picked up but she was with her friends so it was short, third time is explaned below), up until recently she seemed pretty interested. She isnt one to play games, really kind, but her friends could be messing with her.

    So heres the situation, I called her on tuesday but she didnt answer because she was with her friends, messaged her afterwards and the resulting convo went well, pretty sure I made her laugh, found out she was on a ski trip with some friends and would be there for the week. Okay, cool, didnt message her for 4 days because I wanted her to have fun with her friends, on the fifth day i asked her how its been going (was going to end with asking her out), joked about her ski friends being in a gang to add some humor to the question, no reply. So the next day I messaged her again, thought she had gotten back (she was tagged in a image with her friends where the description was "what a great way to end the camp") and it was raining hard outside so I said she would need water skis soon, kinda dull but I was sure she would reply, nothing. So after working out later in the day (i work out 5 days a week, absolute life changing hobby for me) I found out that a football buddy had died in a car accident that day which wrecked my day hard(I was sure this would have gotten her to reply because I asked if she had heard what had happened to him).

    So this is where I am now, I sent that last text at 6 and its 11 now, usually she replies at the end of the day, I don't know if I screwed up the last time I messaged her, shes busy, doesnt want to bother me later in the day (past texts were at 9 pm or so when we both no neither of us are up to much but these current texts were earlier in the day) still at the camp, or lost interest. Its too late in the day to message her today but I meed to know how I should act next, best i can think of is:
    1. Wait the next day out without messaging her and do something the following day
    2. Message her tomorrow and hope for a reply
    3. Call her tomorrow or the following day
    4. Ask her friend whats up
    And thats it, open to suggestions, could really use some good advice and this forum seemed like the right place.

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    Do NOT message her again. Its no surprise she is not responding since its clear you are too invested. You need to go out and meet 30 new girls and forget about this girl. No one will tell you anything different. You need to read and study game now.

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    Im not one to go and pick up girls and try them out, im still in highschool (grade 12 soon), I know this would be a clear sign to just keep dating other girls but I don't like juggling women around. How am I too invested, is it because all the contact has been done by me or because I'm just focussing on this one girl, elaborate please.

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    U got it! Both of those. Girls go for guys they can obsess over. Not guys they know r interested. Ur behavior is very weak, u gotta learn to b a man. Read!

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    You definitely need to back off and freeze out. For at least a few days. A week would be better. To continue contacting her without response will eventually make you look needy in her eyes. Alpha men don't reward a woman's bad behavior (her not responding) by constantly doing the same thing that she is suppose to be punished for instead.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    You're asking if you should

    1. Wait the next day out without messaging her and do something the following day
    2. Message her tomorrow and hope for a reply
    3. Call her tomorrow or the following day
    4. Ask her friend whats up


    1. is a good course of action but I would wait longer than just a day

    2. keyword in this is clear to everybody and probably her too "Hope for a reply" If you keep texting her without response it's a huge DLV. it just screams "I'm going to keep texting you until you feel guilty about not texting me"

    You have given her too much control over the situation. If she doesn't text you back you should punish her by removing your attention. Don't text her for a week, if she texts you, don't reply for an hour or so, if you do text back right away it gives the impression that you've been staring at your phone for days waiting for a text.

    When you do text her keep it simple like "Sup nerd"

    and FYI you might have oneitis.

    3. Refer to my response to option 2.

    4. No. Just no. If there is anything worse than DLV to this girl it's DLV'ing to her friends. You know the way laughter is contagious? Well so is yawning. If her friends aren't impressed by you, she'll think why and you'll be farked. Don't text her friends asking whats up.

    Personally I'd text other girls so you can distract your mind and learn more options for when this happens again.

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    Okay, some pretty good advice so far, thanks. I guess I'll just wait her out (how long would seem good, after X many days should I just phone her and bluntly state whats goinin on or what) maybe scout out another good looking girl (which is pretty hard, there arn't many). I'm just feeling relunctant to wait her out since I already waited 4 days for her to message me, today will mark a week since I last talked to her. I admit I sound like a major wimp, it kind of how I've always come off as on the internet. Outside I'm pretty much the alpha of my grade, my actions and words are far different, the internet serves as a place to open up.

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    Okay, I'm thinking I'll call her tomorrow (around 8pm so there is a good chance she isn't busy), how should I approach this?

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    If you really are going to call her lead up to it.

    Send her a text that would allow you to call her. A good text opener for a conversation I saw was...

    "I just saw this cat that totally reminded me of you! If you don't text back I'm going to assume the worst"

    Reply doesn't matter

    "Thank god you're ok! I was about to called the pound so they could get you, wait a second how do I know this is actually you and somebody pretending to be you?"

    Call about five minutes after that text. Keeps the tone playful and gives you a conversation topic or an inside joke for later on.

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    Default Re: Don't know what to do next, help!

    I don't think calling her tomorrow (or today) is the best thing. Actually, if it were me, I would just forget about her. However, if you have to contact her again, just wait a week. Then text her with a "hook a brotha up with a phone call, gots to tell you something" it's a cliff hanger because you're not explaining what you have to tell her and it puts her out of her comfort zone because shes the one calling you!


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