Its evolutionary.

Why are women careful about admitting they sleep around while men are careful about admitting they don’t?

Sleeping with a lot of women increases a man’s chances of survival and replication. If a guy hypothetically sleeps wiith 365 women a year there is the possibility of his having 365 children within 9 months from the last one, and because no effort is required on his part to bring the baby into the world other than plant the seed his chances of survival are not diminished.
Sleeping with a lot of men decreases a woman’s chances of survival and replication. She cannot have any more babies from sleeping with a variety of men than she can from being faithful to one, and every pregnancy takes an incredible toll on a woman’s body, in terms of effort and pain. Until recent times there was even a very large chance of either the mother or the baby not surviving childbirth – 1 in 10 chance of death to be exact. On top of all this, the more men a woman sleeps with, the less chances she has of one man being faithful to her and sticking around to protect her and her babies, once she has them.

Is it any wonder girls surround themselves with bitch shields and shit tests just to keep themselves as far as possible from the possibility of ending up in bed with a man? The traditional ‘Shit tests’ – ‘Are you a player?’ ‘Are you trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me?’ ‘Are you trying to pick me up? If so you’re doing a terrible job,’ are a woman’s way of keeping herself from getting with the wrong guy. If you can’t stand up to her how will you be able to stand up to the world on her behalf and protect her babies?
The other thing that a shit test accomplishes is that if the guy doesn’t pass it, she will not become aroused which in primal terms will lower her chances of getting pregnant. One thing some very hot girls are known to do is to touch a guy, or be overtly sexual with him to see how he responds. They know in some part of them that if the guy gets aroused and is not a high value man he will act inappropriately, this will turn them off, and they will not sleep with them. The best way to deal with any form of a woman’s shit test is to be unaffected. An even better way is to take on the frame of a hot girl and playfully shit test her with exactly the same words women traditionally use on men before she has a chance to – ‘I am not a sausage with feet. I have feelings too!’ or ‘I get the feeling you only want me for my body. What are three things you like about me besides my body?’

Men traditionally have the first choice of whether they want to be with a woman, for example it is custom that he asks a woman to dance, on a date, or to marry while the woman has the final say in the matter.

A metaphor for a girl’s power is in the following joke about two little kids, a boy and girl, taking off their clothes so they can play a game of “doctor.” The boy points to his equipment and teases her: “I have one of these and you don’t.” The girl points between her legs and replies, “I’ve got this, so I can get as many of those as I want.”

Conventional wisdom warns women that the more men they allow in the more they run the risk of abusing their power and lowering their value, so their tendency is to hold out and wait for Mr Perfect. Women are encouraged to hold onto to their ‘prize’ for a guy who is worthy of it, with the knowledge he will appreciate it more if it has not been given easily before hand.
If a guy has kids with many different women the implication is that he has good seed and was able to knock down their barriers, meaning that a lot of women were attracted to him enough to lower their own survival value in the hope that he would stick around and offer them his protection value. If a woman has kids from many different men the implication is she gave up her value to many, was not able to keep any of them long enough to fulfill their primal duty, and likely has saggy breasts. The implication is that if she is not ultra selective of who she sleeps with the implication is that she must not be ultra selective about who impregnates her which is a reflection of how she values herself… and so she must not be high
value.

A girl is like a club. If anyone can get in, it is not considered as exclusive and therefore worthwhile. Yet at the same time a girl wants a guy who could, hypothetically, get into as many clubs as possible. If one club denies him access that will lower his value in the eyes of another, and an exclusive club can afford to be selective. Like with a hot girl, if at any point you act like you don’t deserve it the door shuts on you and you are escorted out.

To drive the point home picture the following scenario. You are having coffee with your friend and girls keep walking by and for every second or third girl who walks by he says – I had her. Had sex with her. Oh yeah she was good. Legend? Legend. Now switch genders. Not the same.

Case#2
A girl asks her boyfriend what is the most sexually adventurous thing you have done and he confesses that before they met he was invited to a party being held by the cheerleading squad – 14 attractive girls who, when he came into the room basically jumped his bones, and he ended up fucking them all – safe sex only of course, and he enjoyed it, partly cause it was so random and meant nothing – his value will skyrocket through the roof in that girls eyes.
A guy asks his girlfriend what is the most sexually adventurous thing she has done and she confesses that before they met she was invited to a party being held by the soccer team – 14 fit guys who, when she came into the room basically jumped her bones, and she fucked all of them – safe sex only of course, and she enjoyed it, partly cause it was so random and meant nothing – her value will plummet through the floor in that boy’s eyes.

Case #3
If a guy takes a girl home the first night they met it is considered a victory - something to brag about to his friends. The girl’s quality hardly matters (unless he paid for it, but even this would not be taboo for a guy as it would for a girl. Can you imagine your best girlfriend calling to tell you she was so horny last night she hired a male escort?). If a girl goes home with a guy the same night it is considered a loss, and it hardly matters what his quality. The implication is that to get a guy to sleep with you is not a challenge. What is a challenge is whether you proved yourself to be high value enough in his eyes for him to call you again after you did, despite having slept with him the first night. You’ll rarely hear a girl bragging to her friends - I went home with a guy I didn’t know last night! No, I wasn’t drunk! I really wanted to fuck and this guy was ok, so we had sex!

If she did she would risk getting bombarded by murmurs of disapproval, worry for her safety and sanity and query of whether he even liked her or not. Implication being that if the guy was respectful and really interested in the girl he would not push for same night sex

An exception to the rule would be Samantha of Sex and the City, the archetypical cougar, who allegedly uses men for sexual pleasure and advocates one night stands and in general waives any limitations the double standard presupposes onto women. But even she proves to be the exception that proves the rule: more than one episode has been specifically devoted to the difficulty she has welding between her sexual appetite and her emotional/ biological needs and societal conditioning.

The following is a routine for building comfort, taken from Love Systems and a great segue from the previous topic. Again, the idea behind these routines is that when a guy shows a girl he knows the score this leads her to trust him and let go of some of her own defenses - he is talking in ‘girl talk,’ and regarding such issues, coming from a guy, this is sexy. She can identify, not as in like a brother but from a place of deep connection.

You know some people say that women have it easier when it comes to dating, others say that men have it easier? I think that’s bullshit. I think there’s a very Zen-like balance to the universe that applies to relationships as well. Think about it. When a man first goes to approach a woman, he’s taking all the risk. He’s investing the most in the interaction. The woman is chilling. She’s kicking back, saying “Okay, let’s see what this guy’s got.” Her risk level at that stage is minimal. As they talk more, she starts to get invested in the interaction. Guess when her investment and risk overtakes the guy’s risk? That’s right, when they have sex. At that point, the woman is heavily invested in the interaction and taking all the risk,`Is this going to be a one-night stand? Is he going to call me after? Are all my friends going to find out?’ Now, the guy is chilling, he’s kicking back and relaxing. After that, what actually makes a successful relationship is not two constant and stable levels of investment (which is boring, and basically like a friendship), but alternating periods of investment from each person, like a sine wave.

So you see, no one actually has it easier — we go through alternating periods of risk. Men and women both invest equally in relationships, just on two distinct time frames but it all balances out in the end”