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Thread: Confuesd...too much too soon?

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    Default Confuesd...too much too soon?

    Had met this girl, started out more of a booty call situation in that she would text me around 12am and tell me to meet her at the bar and then afterwards we would go to either my place or her place and have sex. She would post pics of me on facebook with her and people even thought we were a couple who didnt know the situation. Well this went on for about 3 or 4 meetings. Then more recently we went tubing on the river and had a really good time. Afterwards we went to her place, ate pizza, watched a movie, had sex, and literally hugged and kissed for hours. we would tell each other romantic things like "never let go", "why does this feel so good", "never stop holding me." She also told me she liked me and liked spending time with me, I told her the same thing. We saw each other the next evening and it was even more intense cuddling and told each other more romantic things, we didnt even have sex, we just hugged and kissed and talked the whole night. I spent the night and the next day she texted me she was thinking of me and wish she could be cuddling with me, i texted back something along the same lines and told each other we missed each other. Well now comes today...I woke up early and texted her 'how nice it would be to have have you in my arms again...i remember hugging you and thinking i could hold you forever." Just more of the stuff we were saying while we were together. Well this was around 8am and its been 9 hours with no response and she was off today. Im interested in getting things more serious with her so what should i do? Should i text her or call her again if she doesnt respond? What if she texts me should i bring it up? How do you guys think i should play this?

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    Default Re: Confuesd...too much too soon?

    you have been a bit needy because you guys hugged.. all night and you are at home and you still want to hug all night.always take those things girl do with a grain of salt. i think a bad precedence has been set and you should go get another woman and come from a point where you have built attraction.she is attracted to you but you came off too strong.slow down things with moving ahead let things develop on their own and sarge more girls.

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    Default Re: Confuesd...too much too soon?

    Maybe she just didn't get your text lol.

    Hit her up with something that happened in your day that you wanted to share with her that has nothing to do about the text. I wouldn't bring it up. There's a certain way to do it, but let it go for now.

    I understand how good it feels to do what you're doing with this girl. Trust me. It's the best! It's passion. An emotional high. Don't let anyone tell you it's bad. BUT...

    There is a certain risk involved. If she starts to see it as routine before you do, then she'll begin to feel you are needy. And that's bad. So be cautious about that. Keep your eyes open and realize that passion fades. And that's ok. It can grow into something else or not. Enjoy it while it lasts and when it goes away don't try and get it back because I'm telling you now, in the words of Adam Lyons, "passion has a shelf life."
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Confuesd...too much too soon?

    You need to know what you want with this woman. Sounds like what started as a booty call is getting serious. Which is fine. It happens.

    But it is too soon to let down your guards. Emotions are chemical in nature and can be addicting as scientifically proven and make us compliant to things otherwise.

    I believe the best way to approach this is to "mirror" her texts. Keep it as long as hers and if you are the first to start the text, you be the first to end it, and also the interval between texts. You don't want to respond to her texts immediately if she doesn't.

    So in your instance, you said "how nice it would be to have have you in my arms again...i remember hugging you and thinking i could hold you forever." She didn't respond for whatever reason, so don't go chasing. Leave it at that. Also, don't bring it up why she never respond. Just do your best to keep your frame and look unaffected and just go with the flow. She may respond or she may not. She may text you one day with a new text, in which you respond. If she doesn't respond at all, hit her up on a new day with a new unrelated subject matter.

    All this will prevent you from appearing "needy." And we all know neediness will kill attraction.


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