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    Default girl trying to make me jealous

    so this girl ive been sorta texting/seeing long term, almost a year, and have f closed, who has a bf, has recently been trying to play with my head. Shes actually told me she loves me many times. im pretty sure shes playing games and trying blowing hot and cold and i feel like ive lost control of the situation.

    now she is trying to make me jealous. she keeps name dropping a guy (not her bf) who she knows i dont like and dont get on with into text conversations, almost trying to insinuate there is somthing going on with him. im nearly sure this is bs cos she wouldnt b mentioning him if there was! ive tried to just brush it off and pretend it doesnt bother me. but actually it does lol.

    now she text me this morning really early telling me about how she spend the nite in the pub with this guy and her friend. this is second time this has happened actually, the first i just passed it off as a shit test n brushed it off .now this really has farked me off n i would love to know wtf she is playing at! how do i deal with this?

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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    You already answered yourslef:
    ive tried to just brush it off and pretend it doesnt bother me
    But, don't pretend, really don't care. The way to do that is to have other girls you can talk to.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    is no contact the way to go ere now? brushed it all off this morning, but lately feel like she really trying to pound me with this!!

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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    No, not even freeze out just don't care
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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    I wouldn't tolerate that childish behavior. I do think it's important to keep your cool and keep brushing it off....but it seems like she's not going to quit. Boundaries need to be set at some point if she keeps doing it otherwise you will begin to look weak for letting her get away with that behavior. Try to focus on your own standards and expectations when you say anything. There's a big difference between saying "Don't do that" and "I don't like when people do that." Once stated, you show indifference. Remove your attention until she realizes that her behavior is unacceptable.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    When a girl brings up another guy to make me jealous I will tell her to go sleep with the guy and then tell me all the naughty details from beginning to end. I tell her I want know the positions they tried, how long it lasted and where they did it.

    When they ask me why? I tell them that I am an open minded guy who believes that girls should be just as open minded if not more than the guy. They should use sex for enjoyment without any guilt. I tell them that I can appreciate a girl like that and it's fun to hear what others have tried. ( I am showing that I don't judge girls in the wrong way if the fark around and gaining their confidence at the same time.)

    Once they know it doesn't bother you they won't bring it up anymore to get under your skin. Also they will be much more willing to share their sexual past. It's very easy to escalate into full blown sex talk from this point forward. It helps in f-closing ( in your case you already have done that).

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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    thanks for the advise guys.

    so after no contact it seemed to work and she started showing IOIs again.

    however she has since heard that i farked some1 at the weekend and has mentioned this to me. she says 'im too mad for her' and has since went off the boil. does she want me to be nice to her? is now time to show her some emotion?

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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    If you're jealous about another guy, it implies you believe he's higher value than you. At least that's how they perceive it.

    If my girl is teasing me saying she's going to see another guy, I just say "ok, say hi". I'll probably make him sound insecure and not confident if I have the time, because why not, but I don't really care.

    I know I'm better than whatever guy she will talk to. And if she cheats on me with a guy worse than me, well, I'm better off without her, no?
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Default Re: girl trying to make me jealous

    I say to just hit her with some good old painful honesty. Don't be nice to her, because she was messing around with you. If she is yipping and blabbering on about the fact that you had enough of her poking and prodding to get a reaction out of you, then tell her that. Personally, if a girl was trying to drive me onto the jealousy train like that, I would have done exactly what dave said. If I decide the girl isn't worth it and drives me insane, then I just dump her ass and move on to the next one. Now that one I have done before, and I won't hesitate to do it again.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X


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