Re: Should I have been more aggressive
Yea it is a tricky situation. But I always tell myself that I have no obligation to the bf. SHE DOES. And I am not physically forcing her into anything she doesn't want to do. Therefore I don't feel much guilt....sometimes :P
I get that he is a cool guy and that is a shame. I don't think it was a bad choice to respect this guy since you liked him. In fact, we are taught that if your gf has guy friends, that you are to make friends with them so that they would feel guilty about hitting on her. Maybe he could be a Master PUA Just kidding. However, you have no idea if you will see this guy again or if he will add value to your life that is greater than the prospect of sleeping with her (Ex: Offer you a job, car, access to the playboy mansion, etc.) so don't feel obligated to respect him until he proves to you that he has more value as a friend than her as a sexual prospect.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."