Re: How to dump painlessly?
For one thing, depending on my past experiences, flaking on a girl on a daily basis with some crappy excuses is more upsetting for her.
If you prevent her to come see you by saying things like: "Uh yeah, you know I have a lot of work to do.", she might not be satisfied with your answer and keep coming after you. Depends on the chick but, it happens. Most of them can easily turn into dreaded stalkers because you were too nice to give an appropriate response and now she's in suspense.
What I'd do is, I'd be honest without being harsh. There's nothing wrong in saying that: "I really like you because ___, but I don't feel like you're the one I'm looking for." If you can hold this frame successfully without getting defensive or insulting or whatever, she'll accept your thoughts and will thank you for not keeping her on the pedestal. If she gets mad eventhough you introduced and held that frame in good fashion, beep beep crazy girl alert!
It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.
It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.