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    jsquire93 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

    So there is this girl I realized I kind of have a thing for, but have not really done anything about it. We do work at the same place I found out that this is what she thinks of me.
    "Sometimes people touch you, and you want them in your life for a long time. Relationships ruin that for me"
    Is there any chance for something to happen, or should I "cut my loses"? We get along very well with each other and have the same type of humour. For example today, she was telling me how she was treating her bikini line for ingrown hairs. She also got a little surprised and agitated, when she mistakenly thought I was leaving my job. The closest we have come to a date, was when we both decided to have dinner at a casino restaurant at 4.30am after a night of karaoke and clubbing.
    I've been told that she does not "want anything" from work due to potential awkwardness. Further to this, I've found out that I'd be her no 1. choice
    What complicates and confuses me is
    1. She is 9 months out of a 4 year relationship
    2. At work she suggested that act /pretend to others that we are getting married. Also on a night out with work colleagues, she asked me to pretend to ne her husband/bf if anyone hit on her.
    3. Because we have a similar style humour it is hard to tell if she is just being her self or stepping it up. Case in point:She came over to my place for the first time, she noticed how my dog was kicking when I was rubbing/scratching her belly, and she said " You sure know how to find your dogs g-spot".
    4. The way she slept when we were crashing at a friends place.
    Feel free to ask any questions

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    Lunchbox is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

    Sounds to me like she likes you but you've waited too long and she's given up so she just wants to be close to you however she can.

    Addressing your complication points;

    1. This is a non-factor. 9 months is plenty of healing time. Make your move and make it quickly.
    2. This is worrying turf. On the one hand, she considers you attractive that she wouldn't be ashamed if people thought you were married. However, women also do that with their less effeminate gay friends. That however seems unlikely when you consider point three...
    3. That's a weird comment. Sounds like she's trying to be really obvious and flirt with you but in a weird way.
    4. Elaborate. What's confusing and why?

    How long have you worked with this girl?

    It sounds like you have good odds but a sharp change of strategy is required to pull yourself out of the Friend Zone quick sand. Make yourself scarce and unavailable to her. If she texts you/facebooks you, don't get back to her for a while at a time, she'll fight harder to keep you around. Then, she might say something about how long it's been since you guys hung out. Arrange a date, somewhere near you that's inexpensive. Pull out the usual mechanics of flirtatious comments and chase framing coupled with good conversation then take her back to yours within three hours and seal the deal.

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    Default Re: Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

    I agree. Make yourself scarce and make sure when you reemerge it's more alpha-sexual type. Her seeing you with beautiful women always helps that. She needs to see you as a sexual being (DHV stories can help). Let her chase and the hard work is over.
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    Default Re: Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

    Quote Originally Posted by theBOB View Post
    I agree. Make yourself scarce and make sure when you reemerge it's more alpha-sexual type. Her seeing you with beautiful women always helps that. She needs to see you as a sexual being (DHV stories can help). Let her chase and the hard work is over.
    I agree, except for the part about DHV stories. As soon as you start jostling to look valuable with tales of your legendary battles, you put yourself into a competitive frame. You're straight away putting yourself in a position of competition against everyone she's met before, better or worse.

    If you don't try and demonstrate high or low value verbally, but instead just be confident and strong in your conversation and language (using active listening and chase framing) then you'll have far more success.

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    Default Re: Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

    Fair enough, but if your doing it right it SHOULDNT come across like that lol
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    Default Re: Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lunchbox View Post
    Sounds to me like she likes you but you've waited too long and she's given up so she just wants to be close to you however she can.

    Addressing your complication points;

    1. This is a non-factor. 9 months is plenty of healing time. Make your move and make it quickly.
    2. This is worrying turf. On the one hand, she considers you attractive that she wouldn't be ashamed if people thought you were married. However, women also do that with their less effeminate gay friends. That however seems unlikely when you consider point three...
    3. That's a weird comment. Sounds like she's trying to be really obvious and flirt with you but in a weird way.
    4. Elaborate. What's confusing and why?

    How long have you worked with this girl?

    It sounds like you have good odds but a sharp change of strategy is required to pull yourself out of the Friend Zone quick sand. Make yourself scarce and unavailable to her. If she texts you/facebooks you, don't get back to her for a while at a time, she'll fight harder to keep you around. Then, she might say something about how long it's been since you guys hung out. Arrange a date, somewhere near you that's inexpensive. Pull out the usual mechanics of flirtatious comments and chase framing coupled with good conversation then take her back to yours within three hours and seal the deal.
    Our sense of humour is diverse. We have joked around to friends at work that we are into BDSM and other random things like that. Also talk/flirt about her and twerking.
    Regarding point 4, in 2 occasions we have slept at a friends place on his couch. We were both on the couch. On both occasions she was in the foetal position, and I was sleeping sitting up, however on the most recent time she saw the i was awake and just resting my head, she changed her position so that i had clear view up her skirt.
    Technically we have worked together for 6 months, but only really started talking/paying attention to each other in the last 2 months.


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