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    Question Making friends using the Game ?

    Hey guys quick question (sorry for my bad english as it's not my mother tongue) :

    I'm 23 and I have a huge problem : Making male friends. The M3 model gave me the tool to attract/make friends with almost any women I meet in social siuations, thanks to its reliable evolutionary psychology foundation and that's cool.

    However I'm terrible at connecting and making friends with guys despite my efforts. I tried almost anything : being funny, DHVing, teasing ... Now don't get me wrong I usually have fun with them but I really feel like something is missing that would make them think "damn this guy is cool I wish I could hang out with him again".

    So in order to keep it simple I will formulate my question like this :
    "We know thanks to the MM, how to take a woman from the stage where she has no interest in you whatsoever to the stage where she just digs your company and affection (via a set of rules/principles like S&R value, comfort, body language...). But how could we use another model to make guys that have no interest in you to want to hang out with you ? What are the friendship switches ? "

    As a side note I'm absolutely not gay, the reason I'm asking this is because I've seen a couple of guys enter my group and shine so much (whitout even DHVing) that when they left the whole vibe collapsed and they were kind of missed. I wanna be that kind of guy.

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    Default Re: Making friends using the Game ?

    Awesome question dude. He game has made me a whole bunch of make friends, but in the end you ARE responsible for your own time. Just like with women, men like men of value, I've kept and made friend with big-time musicians and DJs (and other cool dudes) but you need to provide them something in return. My friends see me as a dude who is great with women, so I use that as a source of value. I give advice, bring women around, and that of course makes guys like me at first.

    After your in, it is easy to keep relationships up. Just be friendly and always the person people want to be around (non gender specific). One of the biggest suggestions to apply to ALL life is always be positive, even if things are bad. If someone asks how you're doing, always say "great, ..." And smile.

    Try the book "how to win friends and influence people" and the "social circle mastery" by love systems for some extra help.
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    Default Re: Making friends using the Game ?

    This is exactly what I'm talking about. Poeple generally advise to be yourself when trying to make friends but I'm conviced that friendship is actually value based juste like romantic relationship.

    We already know what makes you a valuable lover and I'm trying to discover what makes you a valuable friend so that I can convey this value when I meet poeple.

    I already thought of being good with women but sometimes it creates distance because the other person kind of see you as having too much value for them or whatever, just like money... It's not enough. I was thinking more of how to convey value through your behavior.

    Anyway I'm probably overthinking the whole thing but I'm glad that you got my point

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    Default Re: Making friends using the Game ?

    You are. If I walk up to you with beautiful women and say "here's some women" your not gonna think I have too much value. t's actually a form of supplication; I'm bringing you a present (wrapped in a skin-tight dress and heels, god willing). Any insecurities you have of my value or your value in our friendship are GONE because I saw you worthy and am willfully helping you (without your asking).

    It's the same reason we don't buy women drinks. But with dudes it's okay, because I'm not trying to sleep with you.
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    Default Re: Making friends using the Game ?

    Excellent advice from theBoB.

    I will add a couple of things.

    1/ Have more than one social circle. Social circles for work, gym, high school friends, university friends, sports teammates etc.

    2/ When it comes to social circles don't make yourself "too available". Pick and choose when you decide to hang out with any particular circle. Spread your time around and it will increase your social value within each group. Notice the "fun guy" who came and left your circle? Their absence is noted.

    Just think of time spent within a social circle as a commodity. When something is "too available" it's price decreases and when something is "limited" it's value increases.

    3/ As theBob said, "Be POSITIVE in your attitude". Also don't talk negative about any other members in the social circle. Don't partake in gossip. It always gets back to the person you are putting down. This will cause friction and others will also then gossip about you. This is DLV. Praise friends when you see them do something positive. This can't be false praise, it has to be genuine. People can spot false praise from a mile away.

    4/ Don't brag about what you own or how many girls are after you. This causes resentment within the social circle. Some guys will think you are rubbing it in with your abundance.

    5/ Set up social events like a poker night, have the guys come over to watch the big game or a night out etc. Don't pressure anyone to attend your events. Be a host.

    6/ Find out about every other guy in your social circle. What are their strengths and weakness. What do they like or dislike?

    Examples:

    Do they drink?
    Do drugs?
    Gamble?
    Cheat when they are in LTR or married?
    Do they play sports?
    Do they volunteer their time for a good cause or charity?
    Are they focused on their studies?
    Are they focused on their work?
    Are focused on gaming girls?
    Are they focused on music?
    Are they focused on sports ( playing or watching)?

    Knowing the strengths and weakness of each individual can be used to target that individual to build rapport. You will have talking points to have excellent conversation with these friends. This is DHV.

    7/ Drink in moderation so that you are aware of your surroundings. This isn't high school anymore where you felt the need to out drink your friends. Now, if you do the same most people will consider you an obnoxious drunk who won't get the invite to their next party. Always be in control.

    8/ Just go, have fun and people will gravitate to you.

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    Default Re: Making friends using the Game ?

    Jesus himself said that the tree isn't judged by the roots or the stem or the leaves but by the fruit that it bears. Jesus, the man who said "Love thy neighbour" and "Believe in me and ye shall find peace", even he realised that humans only care about what you can offer to them.

    There's a really good article I read called The Six Painful Truths That'll Make You A Better Person and it basically says that the key is to be the person people need in their lives. That's how you obtain value. Learn skills to a level that you can impress people, develop your talents and associate with people who will appreciate the said talents. Learning a second language? Hang out in communities with those types of people. Playing Basketball? Join the team.

    This and a healthy dose of being able to banter with your friends will ensure that you're a good guy, provided you're loyal, not a loud-mouth, you don't bury your friends with criticisms but you don't let them walk all over you.


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