I wanted to bring this back up....especially considering that you two, Batman and I M Mortal gave such insightful answers.
i havent really been able to totally move on from this girl, I have spent some time with other girls and to be honest none of them have really floated my boat. I probably haven't totally put myself back in order, but am working on it.
but saturday I texted the girl (it was like Colombian valentines day) and told her I hoped she was happy. she said same to you, I then told her that I hadn't responded to a text she had sent me a few weeks before because I really wasn't interested in talking about the past, she said the same. we ended up agreeing to meet up, me saying that on this day for lovers why don't we see each other happy again.
my intention really was only to spend a little time together and really just see if the attraction returned. we met up, and then afterwards we were both going to meet up with friends in the same part of town, so we shared a cab. I told her I was happy that we saw each other and that it was cool between us. we were both laughing and having a good time the whole time. I said we should do it again, she said the same, then as she gets out she lays a big passionate kiss on me.
later in the night I ended up going to meet up with her and she came home with me. obviously the attraction on both ends is still there. And I mean, its something explosive. granted by the time I met her out at the club I was a pretty drunk, but being back dancing with her and kissing her was great. some guy her friends were there with commented on how in love we looked.
anyway after talking to a mutual friend, it appears everything is still a go as far as the other guy is concerned. I guess I had figured maybe not after all that. now I'm kind of back to where I was on what I really want to get out of this. I guess I do worry that if she does leave that guy and this fantasy life she's built in her head, it could come back to bite me. but part of me really feels like things never ran its course. I don't really feel so bad for this guy, I mean trying to play on a girl in the third world's insecurities with promises of marriage and a house for three years without making it happen is I think pretty low. I do worry though, that anything good could come out of this between us if it were to go down that road, and also psychologically what it could do to her. I mean I really care about her. I think if I wanted I could turn this into strictly sex, but not sure if I want that emotionally.
Comments, thoughts? what the heck is going through her mind? This is a time where I wish I could have that crystal ball man.