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    Default Possibly oversold myself? I built too much attraction..

    Okay so I went on one date with this girl, went pretty well. Light kino but no close, she seemed really into me. Then for the summer she moved to another city so I couldn't see her at all. During this month, I texted her a lot and built a lot of attraction via text. We texted quite a bit but they were always sexual texts (including explicit sexting).

    She's coming back next week, but the person I portrayed in my texts isn't who I am in person. I am actually shy and introverted, but in the texts i portrayed a confident sex god who can get any girl he wants. Now we're going to go out and I'm sure she's expecting to be with this overtly sexual guy who is suave and smooth.

    I'm planning to fake it till I make it. But any suggestions? Ultimately I'd like to get sexual as early as possible but that's never been me.

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    Default Re: Possibly oversold myself? I built too much attraction..

    The fake it model goes something like this I've left out what I think is not relevant for your date:
    - Act like you own the place. Walk in confidently. Keep your head high, walk slowly, don’t be afraid to take up space, and smile. my feeling here is perhaps to tone down the bit about acting like you own the place.
    - Stand up straight, make eye contact, and don’t lean in to hear a woman. In fact, never lean in.

    However your inner game is letting you down which is leading to you being in congruent with your texting.

    I've started a series which might be of help to you. Check out http://www.puaforums.com/ask-expert/...tml#post102738

    hope this helps
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    Default Re: Possibly oversold myself? I built too much attraction..

    I am no expert but I wanted to chime in. I am very shy also, I pretty much live in my head, and I am my own worst enemy. That being said I found myself in the exact same situation but via email. This is how I pulled it off with some good advice from my friend who has nailed 100's of women.

    1. Realize that you are the person that you portrayed in the texts. You wrote them.

    2. Relax when you are around her. Easier said than done. Remember she is just another person. Fortunately for me, I had the benefit of alcohol which always loosens me up. Don't get drunk! Just take a little of the edge off if you are drinking. If she throws some sh!t tests at you don't freak out or retreat. Stay relaxed and confident.

    3. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD. She already likes you, don't sweat the small stuff. She has already been on a date with you and she continued to contact you, sext you, and wants to see you again. This is a done deal.

    4. By now you know what your common interests are. Do some research on the internet to have a few key topics, something new and interesting, in mind that will keep the conversation flowing in case you stall out.

    I hope that helps. My date went awesome and I was really nervous for no reason. It was awkward for less than 10 minutes. There was a reason we were attracted to each other =)


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