This happens to me way too much and I need to fix it.
Say you had a good prospect for an f-close. Wherever the situation lie (still in your favor or far from it because of mistakes since you last saw her) you still haven't had her tell you to never text/call her again, and you've never had her say anything explicitly rude to show disinterest either.
If you haven't spoke in a few weeks (you're both busy, or you're trying to freeze out, etc.)...how do you go about contacting her?
Clearly the goal is to get another date. But do you choose to show that in your first opener for a few weeks?
Some options are:
"hey you seems like its been ages, lets catch up soon! I'm free this weekend, if youre interested "
seems too afc. but also insists she either shows interest or not...kind of a final answer type of text.
"hey punk its been a minute! guessing your phone got nabbed by an angry elf, been there b4! haha get back to me when you're free, lets catch up!"
this seems too desperate. why mention the lack of contact? but it's also more fun...and what to think of the "get back to me when you're free" part? hmmm
"hey ____! havent heard from you in a while! I take it a rabid raccoon stole your cell? been there before! lets catch up soon, I'll be free this weekend "
kind of a mix here. again not sure about mentioning the lack of contact. Also not sure what to think of proposing a date without havent spoken in so long
"Hey ___! been a minute! How are things with moving out*? We should catch up soon, pizza party/pepperoni fight on Sunday?"
This one avoids mentioning lack of contact. The moving out thing is just hypothetical, but basically fill in the blank with whatever you know shes busy with and might not be contacting you because of. The date proposal again makes me iffy though. But it does sound fun?
What do you guys think. These are just hashed out, but in a situation like the one described at the beginning typically this is what I am thinking of for stuff to open up with.
What do YOU do that WORKS? Can anyone vouch that mentioning lack of contact, or proposing a date right away or whatever is a bad or good thing?
I feel comfortable sending ANY of these really. But the real question is which one is she going to let slid the most and not think anything like "that seems desperate" or "why's he so needy?"