Hey guys, I need help.
I met this girl online, had some ok conversation but I really nailed it when she complained about a guy from Kansas she had over; her reply was wow your totally my type of guy. I flirted a bit with her, sayin maybe I'll give you a kiss on the cheek if your lucky, then arranged that I would meet her at her house the next day after work.
Next say. I texted her I may get off early, but she didn't reply so a few hours later I called confirmed. I mentioned earlier that I was a bit hungry and we should cook something together (intended to be a flirty fun activity), but it backfired because she said oh I'll just meet you at Boston pizza instead (if I said no I think it would of come across as me forcing myself into her house).
We sit down and start talking, I kept the conversation going and teased her a bit at first by making her guess my age. She tried to make me guess hers but I kept to my frame. From there I kept her talking about herself, and started to escalade. My opening question was "do you find your a relationship type of person or just a hookup?" It led into her mentioning her crazy ex who played mind games, and asked if I'm sure I wanted to hear it. I said sure. She opened up and said how he would play mind games with her, and she hasn't been able to trust a guy since. That's where escalation, and I should of replied with how a girl did that exact same to me but I dot have a story like that. I just commented on how nuts he sounds and lucky that she got out of it. After that it was just fluff talk, nothing flirty really.
After we go to the beach, walk and play, and one thing I noticed is when I replied to the conversation that I kept an even tone and told little jokes. I decided to be a bit louder and more outgoing later on which seemed to have a positive response. Ended up making her try a tree pose, and even though I had kino she accepted throughout the date (touching hands on the table, her taking my arm while walking) I still felt there was a bit of separation. We sat down on a log and she sat a foot away from me. Bad sign. What made it worse was her sister was texting her to come home soon, which was a big time constraint. I ended up saying "hey, I almost forgot I owe you a kiss on the cheek". she replied with "omg your so cheesy", which turned into a full makeout session for 5 minutes. We started to walk back and she was still more distant then she should of been. Still compliant to kiss me but refused to get in the back seat or anything. Before we left I said you that it's her turn to get a tour where I live next, but she didn't confirm anything just kind of danced around it.
I think I have two problems here.
My conversation isn't engaging/ entertaining enough (my body language is damn near perfect, especially eye contact), and my replies need work!! Like I have a problem connecting with her, I keep a conversation going and talk about her passions and stuff, but I'm missing the part where I say (insert blank) and she feels connected with me.
Even at work I find I can make a girl giggle and laugh and stay engaged for a little bit, but then it doesn't seem like after a few minutes she puts any effort in for the most part. I have two girls I'm meeting up with tomorrow, so help ASAP is appreciated.