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Thread: Gaming through email - need urgent help

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    Default Gaming through email - need urgent help

    Hi guys,

    I saw a smoking hot girl among my friend's Facebook friends but I could not add or poke her for some reasons. I cannot let my friend know I like that girl. Don't ask why!

    I found that girl on LinkedIn and added her. Once she accepted the add I messaged her (she is from Ukrain) and wrote a bit of Russian to her. She replied and said she was impressed by my slobby Russian and that she was happy to help. She also mentioned she was after a Test Analyst position (in IT). I replied that I knew some people so I connected her to some recruiters etc. Then she sent me her CV and while she was excited to get connected to some good head hunters she asked me to review her CV. When I returned her amended CV I asked (via email) what was her weekend plan and she said nothing. Although I knew the level of attraction was low I told her that I was going to visit a show on Sunday and she could join me. But then she replied that "Thanks for the invite but no". Later in another email I teased her by saying "there is also a great event in blah blah... I am going to join on Sunday. You can go and visit it by yourself ".

    I don't know how to build attraction to convince her to see me or give me her mobile number. Can you guys please help me a bit?


    Thanks heaps

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    Default Re: Gaming through email - need urgent help

    Waow, LinkedIn pickup. That's new.
    Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.

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    Default Re: Gaming through email - need urgent help

    Your name sounds Russian, come on man give me a hint ;-)

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    Default Re: Gaming through email - need urgent help

    Well, first of all, going out of your way to help a girl you don't know was a chump move (I made this mistake too during the AFC days don't worry). Getting a girl to go out with you out of obligation just plain doesn't work. It was pretty counterproductive to your efforts. She didn't do anything to deserve your help and the whole idea of attraction is she needs to qualify to you that she is worthy of your time. And by going out of your way to help her, you DLVed yourself.

    The end remark you made was pretty much a "salvage pride" move and women will see through that. It was too late at that point.

    Attraction is the key and you know it yourself that it was pretty much non-existent.

    I can't really get into an extensive post on generating attraction via social networking, email, etc. There's numerous resources out there on that. Some free. Some paid. If you are serious about it, you are going to have to invest time reading up on it.

    But couple important pointers is you need to make your intentions known from the start. Flirting, teasing is very important. If the girl is not interested, then you resolve it right then and there. You save yourself time and energy.

    I'd be lying to you if I said if it was easy. Even facebook pickup is difficult. According to Cajun who wrote a guide on it, a cold pickup without any mutual friends could take months. It will involve "staying on her radar" (by liking posts, occasional comments). It's not like POF and OKCupid where you can close in a few exchanges.

    In your situation, LinkedIn just the wrong place for pickup because it is a professional networking venue. So you were fishing in the wrong pond. You appeared professional, then you suddenly flipped the switch. It just doesn't work. Thus, you got her authentic response.

    Once a girl says "no thanks" It's cut and dry game over. She just did you a favor to save you time. So time to move on.

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    Default Re: Gaming through email - need urgent help

    Yes you should have not offered her your value without her earning it. It's an illusion to think that offering compliance gets you compliance. Read this and maybe it'll give you some points on how to build attraction.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Gaming through email - need urgent help

    Thanks guys for the help.

    I.M.Mortal, After the HB sent me her first message I left her my personal email address so furthur communications happened through our private emails. No LinkedIn involved. I know I should not get out of my way for a girl, however, I needed to establish a connection and so I needed an excuse to keep the email exchanges continue until I could grab a hook. Moreover, she first offered me help with my Russian and so in return I had a look at her CV so there is no DLV here. What would be a better approach for establishing a connection and building up some comfort?

    Also in my initial message I told her that I had found her an attractive girl and so I wanted to get to know her. How would I clear my intentions in other ways? If I said I don't know you but I want to have sex with you I would look damn creepy.

    At the moment she asks me questions such as when did I come to Australia, what do I do for work etc. Should I take them as some sort of interest? What I really need and my question was about is how to build up some attraction from here?

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    Default Re: Gaming through email - need urgent help

    A woman can be interested, but not attracted. Be attracted, but not sleep with you. It's your job to create these things. Check out this post on attraction. Maybe it'll shed some light.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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