I need some help here. Iím 27 years old and I am not a great fan of online social networks like facebook, but about 4 years ago I created a facebook page because at that time I noticed that everybody had one and I was the only person who didnít have a facebook page. When I was meeting girls Iíve noticed that most of them thought that I was weird because of not having facebook. I always told them that I prefer talking face to face not through the internet and so on, but they always thought that not having facebook was strange and creepy. So I decided to create a facebook page, but now the situation is a lot worse than before.
I have around 100 friends on facebook and the only comments I have there are from 5 or 6 people saying ďhappy birthdayĒ everytime I increase my age. I donít have recent photos with girls to put there (in order to show other people that I am an alpha male) because my only friends right now are nerdy guys from work. Basically Iíve been working on the IT industry for the past 6 years with a bunch of nerdy guys (most of them donít even have facebook pages), and unfortunately I donít talk with women as much as I wish. Iím trying right now to talk to women during weekends at some local activities and thatís it.
Iím not very handsome, Iím bald, but I always dress nice and clean, so everytime I start conversation with a new girl and ask her to go to the cinema/take a coffee or something like that, she thinks to herself ďwell this guy is not a model for sure and he does not seem to be an alpha male, however he seems cool so I will give him a shot. 50/50 chanceĒ
I live in a medium sized town and my issue here is that everytime I speak with a new girl, she sooner or later is going to check my facebook page or ask someone to show her my facebook page, and when she sees that I only have 100 friends and no comments/likes there, she automatically thinks that Iím a loser. Then when we meet again, she will always ask me: ďwhy donít you have friends on facebook? Why does nobody care about you and give you happy birthday?Ē and so on. I start saying that I donít care about facebook, blablabla, but inside her head she always thinks ďbald + not cute + few facebook friends + no alpha male photos = loser and creepy guyĒ.
Basically Iíve been a loser since I was born but Iím trying to fix this right now because I want to change my life. I am able to make decent conversation with women but my facebook page is ruining it all.
I donít know what to do. I donít like facebook and I donít like the idea of start adding random people and girls to be my facebook friends because I donít want to be known as a desperate guy. I didnít make much friends and contacts when I was younger so right now Iím on this awkward situation. Everyone has +300 friends and lots of comments from other people on their facebook pages. My facebook page is the opposite.
Is it better to have a loser facebook page or no facebook page at all? 27 year old with no facebook = strange. 27 year old with no friends and comments on facebook = strange.
I really donít know how to deal with thisÖ