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    So there is this young 22 year old I met ( I'm 29). Number wise she is honestly a 8-9/10 . We were both looking for a fwb (though I'm generally open to more nowadays).

    We texted for a couple weeks, met slept over and it was great. More of less we text back and forth every other day and I see her about twice a week. We bang the shit out of each other , have some food. She is leaving to join the army in a month and though it may be my mistake I've invited her to do different things, which we haven't done.

    We kind of chill besides just banging so I figured if there is fun shit I'm doing in the city before she goes why not invite her. She keeps bringing up about how she could absolutely not care if I was sleeping with other people or had a gf or this or that. I think she's pretty cool , the sex is mind blowing, and I think that if she wasn't going to the army I'd be down to chill with her more (out side the bedroom too). I wasn't really sure if it was defense mechanism or if she really doesn't care, which if so is kind of a turn off .

    I'm gonna enjoy it while it lasts but my issue is that shes going out of town for a week, and I know she'll probably hook up with guys. While I talk to other girls the guy in me is slightly jealous but I am mature enough to be over that. My issue that is my main question is how do I broach the subject of sleeping with other people without looking needy or like I am suffocating her. Personally if if I'm going down on a girl , Id like to know safety wise how many other people are touching that area.

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    Default Re: FWB Advice

    Sexual jealousy is a quick and easy way to ruin a good FWB. How much do you really want to invest in the future on a girl who is probably banging lots of other guys and has questionable morals (doesn't care whether you have a GF). In my experience, girls at her age (18-23) are often times in a period of transition, don't know what they want or what they are doing, and just want to have fun.

    You can bring up the subject casually but if she shows any kind of resistance to the question, I would drop it at the risk of coming across as jealous and needy. Just don't make her feel like a slut when you ask the question. Ask it in a light/playful way and you'll be fine. If you like banging her, just keep wearing a dome. There are plenty other women that are better relationship material if that's what you are looking for. Avoid developing 'oneitis' on this girl. Cheers.

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    Default Re: FWB Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Dizzie View Post
    Sexual jealousy is a quick and easy way to ruin a good FWB. How much do you really want to invest in the future on a girl who is probably banging lots of other guys and has questionable morals (doesn't care whether you have a GF). In my experience, girls at her age (18-23) are often times in a period of transition, don't know what they want or what they are doing, and just want to have fun.

    You can bring up the subject casually but if she shows any kind of resistance to the question, I would drop it at the risk of coming across as jealous and needy. Just don't make her feel like a slut when you ask the question. Ask it in a light/playful way and you'll be fine. If you like banging her, just keep wearing a dome. There are plenty other women that are better relationship material if that's what you are looking for. Avoid developing 'oneitis' on this girl. Cheers.
    I agree with you. I think she does care. I was telling her about a situation at some party where a girl had given me her number since she asked. She asked if remembered the girls name , and then mentioned to me later that I had. I think its a defense mechanism. She doesn't have questionable morals but I'd kind of like to know for safety concerns. Should I not invite her to do things out side the bedroom

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    Default Re: FWB Advice

    It's your life man. You get to decide who want to be a guest in it or not. There's no harm in hanging out with her outside the bedroom. If you want to get to know her better, that's the beauty of having her established as a FWB first before a relationship. If you think she has good dating qualities then take her out. Like I said earlier, as long as the conversation is light, you can ask her if she's been seeing lots of other guys. If she shows resistance it's better to drop it.


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