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    Default Over thinking

    So I am new to writing something on the forum. I've gotten on here before and its helped me out a lot in the past.

    I've been practicing PUA skills, from openers all the way to the complete closing. I like to think that I have pretty good control of the game, but once I'm in with a girl that I actually like, which trust me it takes a lot since I'm in college, I tend to start over thinking things. I'm sure many of you go through this too. You are in, you have complete control of what is going on and all, but then somewhere in the midst of it all, it starts to change. The TESTING stage. We all know this stage, or have read plenty about it; when a woman knows that they have your attention and all, and they start acting maybe a little distant or not responding how they used to. In return, I then start to start over thinking things, like an average chump would, but even when I tell myself stop acting like that cause its not alpha, I can't help but keep thinking about it. We are all human, and I still haven't perfected this part of my game and it sucks. I want to just ask her straight up, but at the same time I feel that if I do it is going to present weakness and it'll just push her away even more. I'm the best at giving all my bros advice about women, but when stuff starts to happen to me, I'm the worst at it. Any advice on how I should deal with this?

    Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Over thinking

    I want to just ask her straight up, but at the same time I feel that if I do it is going to present weakness and it'll just push her away even more.
    Don't do that yet.your problem is showing her you like her.have you kissed her at least.at this point its best to keep on sarging whilst working with her till you're exclusive even then..for now see running game as a way of bringing the girl in then you can come talk about that

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    Default Re: Over thinking

    It's best to just wait and let her come to you. I had an experience RECENTLY where I was recovering from a breakup and got mistakenly attached to my rebound. Now, I still composed myself well, but she gave me signs she wanted more than just dating. And I approached her with the idea of a relationship. I got BLOWN OUT. Never was the same after that and we no longer talk.

    Did I misinterpret her signs because of my vulnerable state? Perhaps. Maybe she did want one at one point, but then changed her mind right before I approached her about it. Either way doesn't matter. I should've waited for her to approach me about a relationship.

    Don't worry. If they want one, they'll come around. Just wait and be patient. If she never does approach you then it means she doesn't want one and you spare yourself embarrassment and possibly losing her after that.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Over thinking

    Thanks gentlemen for the feedback.

    So, yes we have gone way surpass the kissing part. In fact up till Monday we would have sex pretty much 5 times a week. Now I do realize we saw each other a lot, which is my mistake to always giving in when she wanted. Now that I get to analyze my actions, I became submissive and so comfortable with her that my weaknesses began to show. So not alpha. Another thing too that I just happen to come across last night as I was going through Twitter. 4 days ago she posted a tweet stating how she "JUST realized that all the boys at [our current university] have been in hiding😍 my word" that's exactly what she wrote and that's the same time that she began studying with some guys from her math class. I hate and I mean hate stating the fact that this made me uneasy (aka jealous) but when you care about someone it's hard to overcome that.

    I'll fill you guys in more: Important info. I actually broke things off with her 2.5 weeks ago for one day because I thought she was not the right person for me. She is one of those girls that considers herself a "dude" and is always texting other guys which at first didn't bother as she reassured me they were just friends. But just after that day I took back my words, talked things through and began talking again. The hardest part for me to hear from when we first had sex was the number of guys she's been with. She straight up told me she was a "nymph" and that she loved having sex. Most girls don't say that specially after stating that she could hit up 3 guys at any time if she was feeling horny. Again not something girls usually say to a a guy. Now trust is something very important when trying to see where things are going and when I heard this it made it hard for me to have that trust. Now I am still very attracted to her but what most people are telling me is that I probably just like the "idea of her, but just not her" but I don't tend to believe that since I am attracted to many othe aspects of her personality.

    Now that all of that is a bit more clear, and I apologize for all the writing, we planned on going to my hometown, only 45 min away, to introduce her to the parents and go on a nice date. After these last few days though that she has been distant I'm having my second thoughts. She says she's excited and can't wait but I don't know if she is just playing me at this point to get what she wants out of me.

    I appreciate it. This is the only weakness I have that I'm still trying to get better at.


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