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    slider1985 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default I was hooked up, need help to send a FB Message

    Hey,

    A friend of mine recently hooked me up with a girl he works with and we all went out for drinks one night. She had checked me out on Facebook before agreeing to come out. I think the night went well, I felt the attraction and plenty of conversation however I found her to be quite shy and nervous.



    Anyhow, I didn’t bother asking her for her number because to be honest she seemed really nervous and it felt kind of awkward as we both knew we were there to hook up.


    I want to send her a message on facebook to arrange a date. Not really sure if the best approach line is to say “Hey ____” hope your week is going well. It was nice meeting you the other night. I’m free on Sunday; we should grab a drink on the patio.”



    I believe she is expecting to hear from me, however is that too boring or forward… or should I throw her the typical PUA line...?


    "Hey, just saw something that reminded me of you. It was really hilarious, I'll tell you about it next time I see you. What's happening ur side?”


    I’m not sure if this is the right line to use considering I don’t really know her at all other than that one night.


    Any help would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks


    S

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    Default Re: I was hooked up, need help to send a FB Message

    "hey, i just saw something related to (topics she discussed or liked) and it reminded about your talking. You were talking every minute ahah"

    Personal one for shy, idealist girls.

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    Default Re: I was hooked up, need help to send a FB Message

    Never a good idea to invite on the first few messages you sent to a new HB, probe the temperature be funny, joke around see if your jokes/humor come across well, probe her again then decide if it's wise to bust a move or keep working on her some more.

    And by the way, you said she was shy and nervous, so yes you know something about her, so make up a story to go with that line opener her and start a normal convo.

    Good luck.
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    Default Re: I was hooked up, need help to send a FB Message

    I have generally discovered that with shy girls, it is very hard to get them going on the first time around. This is especially true for the ones with a lot of insecurities. However, the more you flirt with them and prod them to join in on the jokes, the more they will warm up to you.

    You have to watch out, though. A few of the shy ones usually become social and chill. This is something I have not seen often. The one outcome I have seen most often involves the girl going crazy and launching into full-on needy mode when she wants to be with you. I tend to duck out and evacuate when this happens.

    Anyways, onto answering your actual question.

    With your opener, I think you would have better luck arguing why the Kansas City Chiefs were the best team in the NFL last season than trying to pick her up with that line. It just rings boring like a fire truck. If you want to attract a shy girl like this, I have found that opposites are even stronger mode of attraction. She's mellow; be exciting. She doesn't do much; go out and do a lot. bmr is on the right track with entertaining. One opener that pops into mind would be this:

    Hey [blank]! Now that we are away from the matchmakers and can move this at our own pace, how about we start fresh with the introductions?

    I like this opener because it has a little pop to it in terms of words, but it still remains simple with the short and easy hey in the beginning, which will remain easy on the current audience you are dealing with. The opener also addresses the elephant in the room that was around last time and is an encouraging way to not only build up the attraction, but to also create for a very fun conversation. I can see it going into a little play game where if she agrees, you two can joke around and introduce yourselves and go on in a entertainingly formal fashion.

    One last tip for pua: doing "the norm" will get you nowhere in the long run. You can memorize a bunch of techniques and fancy magic tricks, but in the end it won't bring you the everlasting success. Let's take for example your opener. If it is typical, all you will get is a typical response, and you can only give a more typical response until the life has been sucked out of the interaction and she isn't interested anymore. You have to be able to improvise, and you have to be unique. Although I gave you my massive explanation and idea for how to carry out the interaction, it can only take you so far. You will find that in the end, when it comes to the make it or break it time, it is you and you alone to make the decisions.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X


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