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Thread: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

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    Default Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    Been talking to this late teen early 20's hb8 that works in a grocery store for awhile now. She seems very attracted to me and even gets jealous when I talk to other girls in front of her and if I go through another cashiers line. The other day I ask her on a date and she turned me down. Is she testing me? Should I give a little while and try again?

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    how did you ask her out on the date.did you go for it when you got indicators of interest or you just asked out of the blue.did you state place and time and where you will meet.all these things go into asking a girl out.Give it a while build more attraction when you start getting iois go for it.

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    Sometimes you think you're getting IOIs but you're not. Some girls (specially the ones with jobs that involve dealing with people - i.e. bartenders, cashiers, waitresses) are just really flirtatious by nature. Pretty much with every man. It just makes them feel good, because they do get the attention from the men they're flirting with. All girls like attention.

    At the moment I'm about to finnaly start dating a girl that goes pretty much by those standards, the difference is I pretty much differentiated myself from all the others. In those situations you do have to be straightforward, but more importantly persistent. I've been negged by this girl like twice already. But always mild negs. So I did change my approach. She has been saying she doesn't want to date so I pretty much say that now, I just want dates. No bullsh1t, no going out just to build a friendship. I'm talking the whole package: chatting, kissing, sex.

    Show how much of a man you are, how hard it is for you to give up on something you want. A real woman will find that attractive. Take the negs gently, make fun of them and keep on expressing your interest until she gives you a full rejection (i.e. you're ugly as fark, I hate you; I'll call the cops kind of thing ) or eventually gives in

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    Hmm attraction built properly should get you iois.Period. well the girl who flirts with every other guy .you may tread cautiously.

    as for giving up never EVER chase a girl to the determent of your status.your chasing, that is if you will ,should garner RED HOT ATTRACTION. no dlv.on girls touching all guys well theres the friendly touch which indicates your in the friend zone and there are indicators.so if you are even infront of so called flirts as you put and they are laughing at your jokes touching their hair, asking you questions then sure you successfully attracted them, take the number or push it as far as you can even though taking the number would be best.

    When a girls says she doesn't want that date.she is saying she may not be interested yet or may be getting the vibe from you that thats all you want which may be making her feel uncomfortable.in this situation if you pursue by stating your intent blatantly its not the best .there are ways of showing intent.

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    It always depends on how you approached her and how she reacted. I'm not telling him to try and rape her. It's progressively "opening" her up.

    Taking my situation as an example, this girl pretty much flirts with everyone (really outgoing, bla bla). She negged me once, I didn't stop going to her workplace though. Didn't insist for a while but I made fun of the situation. At the moment it has reached a stage where all her co-workers are asking her if she's dating me. And pretty much now she gave in. Kinda like subliminal messaging

    I maintain my posture. OP shouldn't give up. Keep on going to the same grocery store, mess around with her and test her feelings for you.

    And FYI asking her out (even with the neg) was still a good move. You pretty much set yourself different from everyone else. She might have flaked because she wasn't expecting it, doesn't mean she doesn't want it or that you didn't get her interested in you.
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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    asking her out (even with the neg) was still a good move. You pretty much set yourself different from everyone else.
    Woah man ..You set yourself apart with game, that should net you indicators and create opportunities for you to see her again.

    She negged me once, I didn't stop going to her workplace though.
    bet you handled that well but..
    keeping your options open is key, which keeps one a bit engaged,and that should not get the guy to go to the store much.its what you make of the shots you get thats count.you could have chosen a few times in your dynamic.

    At the moment it has reached a stage where all her co-workers are asking her if she's dating me
    People may have been wondering cause you appeared too much which is not really bad but then were you making that count.cuz if you just keep coming there and not runing game, showing intent blatantly you may look like the chaser.in a nutshell in your dynamic 3 - 4 times should have gotten her open enough.


    She might have flaked because she wasn't expecting it, doesn't mean she doesn't want it or that you didn't get her interested in you.
    Getting a girl to come out to meet you is like a bridge in attraction phase(a place in relation where you must advance to the next stage usually requires taking a certain action).Women really screen that and she can reject if she didn't like how it went down.why?Because many guys might have done the same thing.Sometimes they are attracted to you because they felt you were different.when that is nulled..

    There is nothing wrong with pursuing a girl you may like.but at the price of your own detriment.NOPE.so going to the store and not having her attracted which is just when you know how to run game and have probably heard about kino.. is not the best.Get her engaged first have a plan, escalate.ALWAYS

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    Nice post HardRock!

    I agree with you on everything. It wasn't that much the fact that I still went to her workplace but what I did while I was there. In fact what I did was chat up with other girls I knew already, with her nearby. Nothing that would make me look like a dick, but like someone that gets attention from many other girls other than just her. She eventually asked me once "Who was she?" to which I simply replied "I've already asked you out", didn't add anything to this but a smile on my face.

    The co-workers ask that because she talks about me often (and due to her reactions when she sees me - big smile. I did mention this to a co-worker of hers "It's fantastic how much she smiles when she sees me", to get her a bit defensive).

    I reckon in these situations where a neg happens (OP's case and mine) the trick is to be even more upfront but in a cheeky and apparently harmless way. A girl can only be defensive for so long... Again, it's not about being a creep.

    But if I may add, I've reached a stage where I value myself so much that I know that if I sense any form of attraction/chemistry, a flake is nothing but just a doubt crossing her mind. *Cocky alert* I'm too good to get a neg for any other reason
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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    But if I may add, I've reached a stage where I value myself so much that I know that if I sense any form of attraction/chemistry, a flake is nothing but just a doubt crossing her mind. *Cocky alert* I'm too good to get a neg for any other reason
    Woah man your confidence may be on fire but i know you know a flake can be handled on most levels

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    how did you ask her out on the date.did you go for it when you got indicators of interest or you just asked out of the blue.did you state place and time and where you will meet.all these things go into asking a girl out.Give it a while build more attraction when you start getting iois go for it.
    Thanks for the reply I asked her out of the blue when we were talking about something else. I think it caught her off guard. But she kept bantering with me after she made an excuse about having to babysit.

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    Default Re: Chick is acts very attracted but turned me down for a date.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jok3r View Post
    Sometimes you think you're getting IOIs but you're not. Some girls (specially the ones with jobs that involve dealing with people - i.e. bartenders, cashiers, waitresses) are just really flirtatious by nature. Pretty much with every man. It just makes them feel good, because they do get the attention from the men they're flirting with. All girls like attention.

    At the moment I'm about to finnaly start dating a girl that goes pretty much by those standards, the difference is I pretty much differentiated myself from all the others. In those situations you do have to be straightforward, but more importantly persistent. I've been negged by this girl like twice already. But always mild negs. So I did change my approach. She has been saying she doesn't want to date so I pretty much say that now, I just want dates. No bullsh1t, no going out just to build a friendship. I'm talking the whole package: chatting, kissing, sex.

    Show how much of a man you are, how hard it is for you to give up on something you want. A real woman will find that attractive. Take the negs gently, make fun of them and keep on expressing your interest until she gives you a full rejection (i.e. you're ugly as fark, I hate you; I'll call the cops kind of thing ) or eventually gives in

    Jok3r
    I know exactly what you're saying but she is not that type at all. She is very reserved and quiet.


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