Re: new please help
Don't worry my man, being nervous is natural for those just starting up in the game. It's a whole new field, and you're forcing yourself to do things that you normally wouldn't do. It's pretty scary for anyone, and screw-ups can make you think negatively, but just remember that it's all a part of the learning process. I can say that going into the eighth month of the game there are still things that I'm working on and trying to improve. It's all about the concept of practice makes perfect.
I would definitely say it's a good idea to learn as you go along because it allows what you just read and learned to sink in. However, since you are starting up with The Game, I should warn you on what to avoid. Because you are a rookie, DO NOT try negs. If used incorrectly, negs can be hurtful and very detrimental. You would be way better off with just flirting with her. Flirting is fun, it's almost never harmful, and a lot of people like it (I avoid generalizations like "everybody" because we have to be mindful of those damn norm-breakers ).
On a last note, don't worry about that three second rule. I can say that I don't strictly follow it. It's more so there to force you into the mindset of "I need to approach her as soon as possible". Doing so builds confidence and it makes you more likely to approach someone on the fly. Eventually, it just gets to the point where you can approach her whenever you want because you understand the mechanics of the game and you just don't care about winning her over in the end.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X