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    Default Complementing a girl. When is it wrong

    I know That complimenting agirl about her facial appearance like telling her she's pretty or beautiful is not the best approach. Like complimenting her on other characteristics about her is unique and better.
    So there's this girl that i sneak in some conpliments like "bla bla bla but your pretty so thats fine". Is it okay to sneak some compliments about how pretty she is wrong? Because she treated me a little differently after those few compliments( maybe just like twice ). Or maybe im just being an AFC getting to paranoid about this?
    Appreciate the help.

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    Default Re: Complementing a girl. When is it wrong

    You're being paranoid. Complimenting someone's physical beauty is good if done well. The approach I take is to drop a compliment to frame the scenario when I'm just meeting someone.

    "Hi there. I just wanted to say... you're really cute and I had to meet you. I'm Lunchbox. What's your name?"

    From then on, the only time I compliment someone is when they're doing something I enjoy. If I like what someone is talking about, I tell them that they're interesting and to carry on. If they're amusing me, I'll compliment their storytelling ability. This leads to them wanting to impress you with more stories.

    Your job isn't to prop up their self esteem. That's what the beta's do. Leave the comments out and go direct.

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    Default Re: Complementing a girl. When is it wrong

    Id say paranoid but your logical grasp on the concept doesnt seem too far off.
    A compliment can be used in many ways depending on the personality of the target, you want to use them to a girl who maybe doesnt seem as outgoing and is a a little shy, to boost her self esteem and get her to open up more. However if this target knows she is attractive then you want to stay away from compliments, dont give her what she is so used to getting, dont even acknowledge her!
    Also, you can sometimes supplement a neg with a compliment to make it less harsh, i sometimes neg first, then follow up with a slight compliment just so she doesnt loose interest completely.

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    Default Re: Complementing a girl. When is it wrong

    Quote Originally Posted by Lunchbox View Post
    You're being paranoid. Complimenting someone's physical beauty is good if done well. The approach I take is to drop a compliment to frame the scenario when I'm just meeting someone.

    "Hi there. I just wanted to say... you're really cute and I had to meet you. I'm Lunchbox. What's your name?"

    From then on, the only time I compliment someone is when they're doing something I enjoy. If I like what someone is talking about, I tell them that they're interesting and to carry on. If they're amusing me, I'll compliment their storytelling ability. This leads to them wanting to impress you with more stories.

    Your job isn't to prop up their self esteem. That's what the beta's do. Leave the comments out and go direct.
    What do you mean leave the comments out? I thought you said when you see something that you appreciate about her you should acknowledge it?

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    Default Re: Complementing a girl. When is it wrong

    honestly i never compliment a girl on her physical aspects except after the comfort or during. keeps them guessing...

    sometimes i tell her that she's cute IF she asks something like "what made u keep talking to me?" (or some sort). then i list a couple of non-physical stuff like interesting, like ur stories, fun, and then sneak in "plus u looked cute"... and move on to another topic... if she hangs on to that compliment specifically i simply reply with "well... i said looked.. past tense... dont get cocky!" ofc with a big playful smile!

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    Default Re: Complementing a girl. When is it wrong

    Quote Originally Posted by DwightKim View Post
    What do you mean leave the comments out? I thought you said when you see something that you appreciate about her you should acknowledge it?
    Not quite.

    You should compliment her when she's DOING something you like. Simply being attractive in your eyes isn't her doing anything. That's just her being her. Perhaps I should've been more specific. If she's doing something you enjoy, compliment her relative to the thing she's doing.

    If she's offering to buy you a coffee, complimenting her on her looks would be inappropriate in context. Complimenting on her generosity and pointing out how you like generous people would be more effective in gaining compliance.

    Sneaking in compliments for no real reason will harm your game. Most girls get told they look pretty on a daily basis so save your kindness for a time when it's relevant and beneficial to do so.

    That's what I was trying to say.


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