Re: Wondering about truisms
With everything that is confusing you, and what can end up being a great weapon for PUAs is the saying Looks can be deceiving. In fact, during my meditations I came upon the realizations that almost everyone who I thought was popular in high school really were not. I may have thought they were charismatic, smart and a load of other things, but after a step back and a look through the lens of reality, I realized that they were overemphasized chumps that have gone down to a position most comparable to nothing. They were stale with no intuition, never changing or challenging themselves for higher. That's why they fell, and doing the opposite was the reason that I became so popular in my hometown this summer, even among strangers as I discovered when people I didn't even know were calling me out by name and telling me how awesome I was.
We tend to create our own illusions of people, and the illusion of the majority is the one that wins out. That's why people that were perceived as popular back in the day are no longer so today. The explanation to the shyness-bitchiness dilemma is that we tend to create illusions about ourselves. Here is a quote that I heard from Chopped All-Stars by one of the competing judges that explains this pretty well:
"We are our own worst critics"
While we are quick to lash out, judge, and label the people in front of us, we rarely take a step back and judge ourselves. Those who are bitchy may have never even asked why they are so. However, the first step to solving the problem is recognizing there is one, and they may not readily admit that they are a bitch. They will try to find every reason outside of themselves, but in the end they will have to look inward to find the answer.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X