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    Default Bf destroyer technique?

    Met this girl at my place of work and really hit it off but couldn't get her number cause I would have been fired so I let her walk away. 2 weeks later, I am working out and she walks into the gym. She comes over and says aren't you that guy and I say yes. We continue to chat for about an hour instead of working out (that bitch. I need my pump) and I get her number and we schedule to meet up the next day and have a workout together. We text the rest of that day and the next day we have a killer workout, lots of sweat and she was laughing the whole time. She said it was the most fun she had had at the gym in forever.

    I tell her before we each leave to go to our respective places of work that I am going on vacation for 2 weeks, which is true I leave today. She replies "awe, that sucks" and I say "for you maybe. Try not to miss me too much" and she says "I'll try!" and leaves. 6 hours later I get this text (word for word):

    "Hey, sorry I've been thinking all day on this...The workout was totally fun, but I am dating someone...I just don't think that he would like, or approve of me working out with another guy."
    To which I replied: "Hey I appreciate the message. I can completely understand where he is coming from. He must be a pretty perfect guy with broad shoulders and dark eyes and buys you lots of gifts for you to be with him! I will respect your choice. If you ever want a friendly training partner for a day, give me a shout girl. Thanks for the fun gym sessions!"

    She replied: "Hahaha he's really not...I have only seen him 3 times this summer with how busy we both are (to which I thought "I was able to hang out with you the next day after I met you....and you're too busy to see your BF?") He doesn't give me gifts because I don't like them (?). For sure I will, you as well haha. And no problem, it was a lot of fun!"

    I have not replied and that was yesterday morning. Not sure whether the bf is a true story or she is just making it up so I don't talk to her anymore. Maybe it didn't go that well for her? If it is true, how do I attack this? She is very attractive and we get along so well. Do I text her on my vacation with a picture saying "look what you're missing out on!" and then work on her while the relationship of her and her bf is weak? Or do I just wait for her to text me first and pounce?

    Thanks guys!

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    Default Re: Bf destroyer technique?

    You worked your game pretty well. Wise move on the workplace. I may flirt with some of my coworkers, but I never take things up a notch. Just light, playful stuff, and they all love me for the fact that I am the most fresh and entertaining of things they will get all day. The gym stuff was excellent, and your response to her bf stuff was good bf destroyer technique.

    I don't think I have heard of anybody passing by a moment of chance or opportunity just because they were in a negative circumstance. The British defeated Erwin Rommel at the Battle of El Alamein because they saw a potential moment of weakness and they struck hard at it, even though they were outnumbered and almost near loosing WWII. George Washington was low on men and in one of the darkest points of his military career when he made one of the greatest turnarounds in military history. It's a matter of taking your negatives and transforming them into opportunities.

    She may show a unrelenting commitment to her man, but at a close inspection things are weaker than they look. The boyfriend is not around, you know he doesn't give her the due attention that should be given in an LTR, and you know that he is not the perfectly ideal man. You know you can give all three, and you seem like a guy who knows how to run his game well. Go ahead with your gut instinct, and move in to bring yourself a win.
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    Default Re: Bf destroyer technique?

    That was incredibly motivational Swagman. Have you ever considered public speaking? Lol. I agree with you that now is my time to strike. Would you have any suggestions as to how I bring about the subject that I can treat her better than him? Obviously I don't directly say it and it has to be subtle enough that she won't get defensive. Any suggestions are welcome!

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    Default Re: Bf destroyer technique?

    Haha, thanks man. Funny you say that, because I did do a lot of public speaking back in high school. I was one of the leaders of a group that got a $70 million referendum passed, and I had to do a lot of public speaking on that to educate the public. So yeah, I'm no stranger to speeches.

    As for how to take down the boyfriend in question, this upcoming bit is going to be a load of information.

    For starters, let me ask you a question. What do you envision as the perfect boyfriend? Taking the general rules of being a man, attraction, how to treat a woman, and a lot of other things, we can come upon this:

    A perfect boyfriend is a real man. He embodies everything that a true man should be. In a relationship, he does not get jealous, and he does not try to control his girlfriend's life. He treats his woman with respect and gives her the attention and love she deserves, but he doesn't give the world and his life for her. Whenever she is sick, upset, or in need, the boyfriend is there on the double to catch her when she falls. He is chivalry reincarnated, the kind of man that women, untouchable and easily obtained, all wish that they had.

    In order to instill ideas that her man is not the guy for her, you have to build him up as the perfect boyfriend. The more you assume and ask about this guy in relation to being the greatest man in the world, the more she will think that he is almost nothing. Here is an example of a conversation that could occur:

    You: So when was the last time your boyfriend was in town?
    Her: About a month ago
    You: Wow, that's a while (This emphasizes the length of time). I bet with that sort of scarcity in meetings, he did something like take you to a really nice restaurant and have a really romantic night together. (Over-assumed reality)
    Her: Umm, no, we didn't.

    Of course there is the possibility that this guy may have done something remotely nice, but the goal of bf destroyer is persistence. You just have to poke and prod at the weaknesses of the relationship until the house of cards come tumbling down. Of course you shouldn't dwell on this alone. Your conversations should mainly be entertaining, flirtatious, and sprinkled with the occasional DHV. Like I said before, you seem like a guy who knows what he's doing, so figuring out what to say and when to say it shouldn't be a problem for you.
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    Default Re: Bf destroyer technique?

    Thanks so much for the input brother! I appreciate everything. One last thing, do you think I should text her right away or wait until I'm back from my vacation and go for another hang out? I'm leaning towards waiting but I'm open to other opinions

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    Default Re: Bf destroyer technique?

    You should definitely not wait until after vacation to contact her again. Two weeks is way too much time to not have any contact with her. When on vacation, you could do a brisk conversation every other day or so, just to keep the ball rolling and things fresh. Flirt with her, tell her a fun story from the past few days, and throw a pinch of BF Destroyer into the mix.

    After two weeks, I think it should then be safe to push for another meetup. The best place I can envision is the gym. Until you get the attraction really pumping, you want to avoid a date setup as much as possible. If she gets too scared, or she doesn't like what you are doing, she will run away.

    Tread carefully on the coals, my friend, tread carefully.
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