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    Default what should i do with this girl from instagram??

    So i started talking to this girl about 2 months ago that i got from instagram, we always texted back and forth everyday and we hung out like twice, kiss closed on the second date, i think we were both attracted to each other and it all seemed good, but lately like the last week and half it hasnt been the same like she wouldnt initiate texting because sometimes she would before and we dont text as much like we used to or she waits like a day to reply,but she said her cousins are here from new york and she has to show them a good time so everytime i tell her we should hang out or do something she says shes got other plans like literally everyday doing different things because i did invite her and her cousins to come to this lounge and she said she didnt know yet but ended up not going(i dont know if its because im not at the top of her priority list or what).

    like last week i went without texting her for 4 days and ended up texting her on the 4th day so i dont know what that says but she posted up on instagram of a pic of her and some other moroccan guy saying my favorite moroccan, im just saying that because im moroccan also but i kind of felt different when i saw that but mind you this girl has a lot of guy friends and said shes been making new friends because she just moved here like a year ago, and now i havent talked to her in about 2 days, i dont know if im over reacting and maybe shes too busy because her cousins are here or i mean i dont know if im starting to like her or maybe i am but i havent liked a girl in a really long time and this kind of sucks. what do you guys think i should , sorry for the long post.
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    Default Re: what should i do with this girl from instagram??

    It's hard to make sense of the timeframe in your post, but if you are indeed texting her everyday to go do things (regardless of being considerate and inviting the cousins along), that's too much. Try to match her level of response or slightly below it... if she doesn't text you for a day, get back to her in a day and a half, but occasionally mix it up so you are not predictable.

    Make sure you are going out and having fun despite her being busy, both for the sake of not getting too attached to her, and also so she can see you are a busy, interesting person, too. Maybe post some of your adventures on instagram, so it doesn't seem like you're just waiting around for her cousins to leave and her be less busy. If you do post something on instagram, don't just copy what she did.

    It does sound like you did well at first, and then lost attraction somehow. Brush up on your game and try to see if you can figure out what happened (we don't have enough detail here to call it). You lost her attention, but that doesn't mean you cannot get it back if you play it right.

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    Default Re: what should i do with this girl from instagram??

    Amen to what Magnum said; if there is one way to fix the issue, it's to go out and get pictures and throw em up for the world to see. Game other women and have a good time. Set a goal each day if you have to, five pictures of you with other women or in some kind of cool activity. You have made yourself very available, which is exactly the opposite of what you want. She, on the other hand, has become unavailable, and you find yourself wanting her more. Also, while you are throwing up the pics each day, I wouldn't contact her for an entire week. This combination has worked magic for me in the past.
    If you want to take it a step further- when she sees how cool you are and messages you to get together, make it a challenge. Don't accept the day and time she gives you, because you'll be busy. Offer another day and time that meet your terms.

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    Default Re: what should i do with this girl from instagram??

    Like Magnum said, asking her to do stuff every day was a bit excessive. I think that's what broke you. She dropped the ultimate test by backing off and you failed it by continuously trying to pursue her. This translates to her that you are needy, and she doesn't want anybody who is needy.

    The photo of the other guy is probably both just show and tell and to tell you off. She might be doing that to show that she's going after other guys, and they win over you. It's painful to think about, but it's just the way it is.

    I would disagree with posting a ton of pictures of you with multiple girls. You have to be careful about that, because other people are going to see that and immediately view you as a player. When this happens, it severely cuts down on your ability to game those people. You're way better off posting pictures of you with your friends or doing things that you love to do. Those will display just as much value without the consequence of telling everybody that you're bringing it around town.
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    Ayo flyazpelican is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: what should i do with this girl from instagram??

    Hey guys but i meant that she was going out literally doing stuff everyday not that i texted her everyday to do things, i would not do that. But yes i think that she became unavalaible and i became available because i guess im not at the top of her priority list because she tends to make plans with all of her other friends and not me, so i guess i will fall off the radar and not talk to her for like a week so she can get curious, do you guys think that if she doesnt text me after that or get in contact with me should i contact her first or still go cold until she texts me?

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    Default Re: what should i do with this girl from instagram??

    Typically, a freeze out should only be done for two or three days, not a week. If she doesn't reply in that time frame, then you should respond. However, you shouldn't do multiple freeze outs. Once or twice should be your limit.

    If I can make any recommendation to your game, it shouldn't be to fight against her friends for the target's attention. Instead, win over the friends. If the friends think you are awesome, they will boost you up in the target's eyes and help you out with getting her. There may be no "i" in team, but teamwork does help a lot in PUA
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