Re: Need help with ASD and mixed signals
Within every person, man or woman, is a little warning light that goes off in a sexual situation. The reason that most people can't turn this warning light off is because they haven't built up rapport properly. However, that is not your case. Your case, from what I am seeing, is that you are trying too hard to get that kiss, and thus it is setting off her warning light.
You had no problem whatsoever with escalating things up to the kiss. The massage was perfect, and her reactions were golden. However, you should have not pursued the kiss after she said no. Your best bet would have been to push instead of being in a constant pull state. Back away, stop the back massage, and give it a few moments of silence. This is like a punishment to her. She rejected you, and now you are rejecting her.
Another thing you could say, and I credit Asian_Watts for this, is to fully agree with her and threaten not advancing anymore. Say something like this:
"You know, you're right, it is a steal. Perhaps it would be a good idea for me to just stop all together."
It's risky, it's dangerous, but it can pay off big if she reacts in a panicked manner. When she does react, make her earn you back. Ask her what will she do to get you back. In all likely cases, it will lead to you getting a kiss-close.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X