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    donerro is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Girlfriend not replying my messages first

    we've been dating for 8 months. shes 20 i'm 23.
    she says she loves me and am 1 in a million.
    we are planing a week long holiday in the next two months.

    the problem:

    when we text she usually replies within 15- 45 mins.
    she can reply whenever she can ,i dont care.
    but sometimes and its becoming more often..
    i can see that she's been online and read my message but decided not to reply mine but someone else txt.
    am i not a priority? a simple question does not take long to reply.

    obviously im not going to ask her why she doesn't answer my messages first.
    should i be worried?
    is she loosing respect, attraction?

    any suggestions would help.

    thanks bros!

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    Default Re: Girlfriend not replying my messages first

    I would say don't worry too much about it. Maybe she doesn't know what to answer that quickly. What you could do, is being less available to her. If she texts, don't respond instantly but wait a while. See if that helps.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend not replying my messages first

    How are the conversations in the relationship looking? If the conversations go stale, she may lose interest in you. Try to flirt with her and make things fresh again, like they were way back when the relationship was beginning.

    All too often, guys and girls get comfortable once the relationship has started, and they end up not putting that much into keeping the ball rolling. Eventually, we roll into the same mundane routine, sprinkled with the occasional date or "I love you". It can drive one or both of the partners crazy, but they won't flat out admit it because they are afraid of hurting the other partner's feelings.

    Although you're going on a trip, try to spice things up starting now. When you're with her, all of a sudden tell her that you two are about to do something spontaneous. When you're talking to her or texting her, do so as if you want her to be your girlfriend, like she is not already in your grasp. Try this out for a week and see what happens with her responses.
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    Default Re: Girlfriend not replying my messages first

    Honestly I think you should worry. The real question is why. There is no back story so it's really tough to pinpoint the reason. But any good gf would be considerate and not have you thinking the way you are right now. She's losing interest for some reason, but not sure why.

    Swagman has got a good point. But we do need more info to really pinpoint this.
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    Default Re: Girlfriend not replying my messages first

    we are planing a week long holiday in the next two months.
    Swap it out if you can it may cause you a break up.she is not replying even though she was once attracted.i think week long holiday is a bit too much.

    in a relation.. too much of everything is bad.don't feel the need to make conversation much if you may.instead learn texting and running game more.get in touch with your inner alpha a bit mo...what ur doing is a bit needy but could be avoided

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    Default Re: Girlfriend not replying my messages first

    probably because your replying rather quick, and when you keep doing it she may become less keen to replying at the same rate.

    Imagine sprinting for 1 hour...fuck that. Jog.
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