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Thread: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

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    Default Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Many people here on the forums know me as a frequent poster. I love to help others out and contribute my opinion because it doesn't only help them grow, it helps me grow as well. I am very sure that the other veterans on the forums have either the same reason or just as good of a cause.

    Recently, however, I have taken a second look at some of the answers that not only I have posted, but that everyone else has posted. Looking back quite a ways, I have noticed this:

    Many people look at the "frequent flyers" as a single category: a group of posters who come and go on the forums only for the purpose of getting their question answered. Some of the members are annoyed by it, while others like the constant activity, apparent growth, and good popularity of the forums. I have noticed that within this group of posters, there are actually two subcategories.

    The first subcategory consists of the content posters. They are confused over that one lady, and any answer is going to make them happy. Even if that answer means that they must walk away, they view themselves as a better man now because of the advice that they have received and they accept the negativity with a cup of sugar.

    Then, there are the posters that are the target of this thread: the posters who wish.

    These posters come onto the forums with the hopes for an answer that will lead them to the solution that they want. When they get it exactly the way that they want it, they are happy. On the other hand, when they don't get it, they are not happy, they are not fully grateful to the forum members who helped them out, and they aren't very appreciative of the help that they got.

    Although the members from the forum still benefit from the advice given, the asker himself does not benefit fully. The poster who wishes does not grow at all. Instead, he is upset at the lost opportunity, and he regrets having made the mistakes he did. He may or may not move on, but it will be so in bitterness.

    This post is for the frequent flyers, the people who come and go on the forums for only one girl. This post is for the AFCs who are hoping to get the answer that they want. If you are truly content with receiving any answer that you please, and if you are willing to receive an answer that consists of forgetting about and moving on from that one girl that you want, then you can disregard the rest of this post.

    My message to you is this: before you even lay your finger down on that keyboard to begin your post, remember this:

    Don't expect to get the answer that YOU want

    The veterans on this forum are experienced and have an abundance of superior knowledge at their disposal. Just like you, most of them have had rookie beginnings. They have worked their way up to where they are today, going through many mistakes and hardships. If they tell you to do something, that decision is for the best possible outcome for you. If you don't like it, well, then you are going to have to take the advice with a cup of sugar and know that this is a learning experience for yourself.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Thank you for this. I agree. (30 chars)..............
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Woah swagman that was a mouthful.I think what he may be saying is you can get help and you will be given one but don't expect help..overall i think he had good intention but on the the other hand do not refuse to post your questions if you may.remember this is a journey and like any skill it may take time.as said everyone had their begin most importantly if i may add side of game they are interested in mostly even though generally good i may add.everyone is good at something or has the potential so do not hesitate.

    I read somewhere that everyone is an expert at something.Smart guys take action.when you take action via the boundaries and you fail it may be salvageable.Many people have taken action and reaped results in their game.a few months of being in this could change your life.

    Whether she dumped you, she is not returning your calls, you want the one ,building attraction, etc. you will get help.if you take action like many do not expect not to have an awesome life in general. in the long run.

    Imagine knowing the right attraction triggers, making her you girlfriend etc.ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE IF YOU ACT FAST.you may get typing.

    don't forget to use the forum search buttons and if you still have a question..go with it.I came here with a soar heart and thankfully am not the same.SHE IS STILL IN MY LIFE.

    Got oneitis?Be uncensored say it like almost everyone did.the others well may have asked other questions.You will get a great feedback on how to be better.within a few months of practicing the right techniques and aligining your self with the right ways.you will be golden.
    game is always evolving so veterans may ask questions but if you think you can give your 2 cents pop by.

    these days it more about a certain wave than pickup lines per say.Once you gain success stick around if you may even across yur journey STAY ACTIVE HERE.

    Overall : EXPECT HELP IF YOU NEED IT,TAKING ACTION AND IMPLEMENTING ALONG THE WAY LIKE MANY YOU WILL BECOME LETHAL soon.Peace

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Oh no, I fully encourage people to post their questions, stories, and so on. I'm saying that when you get an answer back, don't have expectations of it going towards what you want. Sometimes, they are going to be the exact opposite of what you want, and when that happens you just need to accept it as it is.

    Overall, I'm saying that those who are not happy with the answer don't fully grow as a person. They may learn a thing or two, but it is not nearly as much as those who brisk through the forum for the sole purpose of learning.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Hmm well it goes both ways its seemed for a bit the other.However either almost anything can be handled.am i an expert well i work very hard in my pua endevours and have had relations with all my one itis, and been studying and applying for a long while before coming to this forum. point.never inhibit yourself.BELIEVE.... that had a double meaning sort of.

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    If they tell you to do something, that decision is for the best possible outcome for you.
    actually, I must add something to this post, it is hard to figure out the best possible outcome if you don't give us details!

    also, we are pick up artists, not genies. we don't read minds, and sometimes we don't always have solutions, and we cannot fix mistakes you've already made.

    as a matter of fact,(I know a lot of guys don't want to here this) the solution to 70% of the posts here is all too simple, "man up and move on"

    pua is a lifestyle, the guys who just come for magic solutions, or for that one girl aren't pua's, they are just sad men who are lazy in their pursuit of women.

    getting good isn't something that happens overnight, of course depending on how good you were with women when you started, It could easily take months or even years of cold hard practice to get to the point that you want to be at.

    in todays society we live in an era of instant gratification, so many people just want a better shortcut to getting women, pua is no shortcut , if you want a shortcut to getting women go get yourself a mail order bride.

    simply stated; changing your life is no easey task.

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Fully agreed on that detail bit meteora. There is a point though where too much is too much. When it's a text conversation, I would like to know what you sent in the moment you are asking about. When it's a public interaction, I want details on what went down. However, I don't need a whole novel on your love life. The poster may not necessarily know what would be important or not, so just post anything that is debatable but is still relevant in some important aspect to your question.

    It's just like basic English essay formats in high school: your paper should be just like a skirt: short enough to be interesting, but long enough to be appropriate.
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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    This the only bit i disagree somewhat calling men who don't mind the one in their lives sad.
    you can find the one with pua and can get the woman you really love using pua.bet your relationships must be awesome and you may know how to hold a womans attention but for those who may want to compare notes theres a way.There are sections for that on this forum.(get girlfriend)
    In a nutshell it all depends don't limit yourself.

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    turning up like the houdini here, However, I don't need a whole novel on your love life.

    i disagree, every detail counts cause it tells you about the poster, the situation and the chick he/she is after, more pieces of the puzzle

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    Default Re: Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    This the only bit i disagree somewhat calling men who don't mind the one in their lives sad.
    you can find the one with pua and can get the woman you really love using pua.bet your relationships must be awesome and you may know how to hold a womans attention but for those who may want to compare notes theres a way.There are sections for that on this forum.(get girlfriend)
    In a nutshell it all depends don't limit yourself.
    I don't think you understand what I meant when I said that, I meant that men who obsess over that one girl across the room, who want a magic solution to get her are just plain pathetic.

    I didn't mean that there is anything wrong with monogamist relationships, as a matter of fact I am a big supporter of the idea of only having one girlfriend at a time (it keeps things from getting too complicated)


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