Disclaimer: Don't Expect the Answer that You Want
Many people here on the forums know me as a frequent poster. I love to help others out and contribute my opinion because it doesn't only help them grow, it helps me grow as well. I am very sure that the other veterans on the forums have either the same reason or just as good of a cause.
Recently, however, I have taken a second look at some of the answers that not only I have posted, but that everyone else has posted. Looking back quite a ways, I have noticed this:
Many people look at the "frequent flyers" as a single category: a group of posters who come and go on the forums only for the purpose of getting their question answered. Some of the members are annoyed by it, while others like the constant activity, apparent growth, and good popularity of the forums. I have noticed that within this group of posters, there are actually two subcategories.
The first subcategory consists of the content posters. They are confused over that one lady, and any answer is going to make them happy. Even if that answer means that they must walk away, they view themselves as a better man now because of the advice that they have received and they accept the negativity with a cup of sugar.
Then, there are the posters that are the target of this thread: the posters who wish.
These posters come onto the forums with the hopes for an answer that will lead them to the solution that they want. When they get it exactly the way that they want it, they are happy. On the other hand, when they don't get it, they are not happy, they are not fully grateful to the forum members who helped them out, and they aren't very appreciative of the help that they got.
Although the members from the forum still benefit from the advice given, the asker himself does not benefit fully. The poster who wishes does not grow at all. Instead, he is upset at the lost opportunity, and he regrets having made the mistakes he did. He may or may not move on, but it will be so in bitterness.
This post is for the frequent flyers, the people who come and go on the forums for only one girl. This post is for the AFCs who are hoping to get the answer that they want. If you are truly content with receiving any answer that you please, and if you are willing to receive an answer that consists of forgetting about and moving on from that one girl that you want, then you can disregard the rest of this post.
My message to you is this: before you even lay your finger down on that keyboard to begin your post, remember this:
Don't expect to get the answer that YOU want
The veterans on this forum are experienced and have an abundance of superior knowledge at their disposal. Just like you, most of them have had rookie beginnings. They have worked their way up to where they are today, going through many mistakes and hardships. If they tell you to do something, that decision is for the best possible outcome for you. If you don't like it, well, then you are going to have to take the advice with a cup of sugar and know that this is a learning experience for yourself.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X