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    Question Speed dating! What to say or do, what works best?

    This weekend I'll be attending a speeddating evening, i.e. getting to talk to 20 ladies for 5 minutes each. I've been on speeddates before and I can easily keep a conversation going, but often find it difficult to really "trigger a spark". I would really appreciate some advice from the experts on what you suggest works best, e.g. what do you consider good topics, questions, things to say or do in speed date environment?

    I always avoid dull boring questions (like where do you live, what do you do, etc) like the plague. More often I rely on things like "so what do you like in a guy?" or "got any passions, things that really make you wild or happy?" or "what brings you here, do you actually know what you're looking for?" or "what would you do if you win the lottery tomorrow?" as it reveals a bit more of their personality (and I can follow up on that). But there is the risk of things getting too serious or too deep.

    I think it's OK to reveal a bit of our personality to eachother, but not too much (need to keep mystery) - just enough to give them a quick impression that I'm a confident, social, non-needy, authentic guy, in touch with myself, got my sh1t together and living a versatile life (if the opportunity is there I'll occasionally drop that I travel through other continents, am into martial arts, cooking, philosophy, got my own business, etc). A fun thing I sometimes ask is "suppose we get in a fight, how would you settle it?"

    Basically I believe it would be better if I can make things more playful, funny, humorous, some teasing, bantering, busting their balls. I'm kinda clueless on how to pull this off though, but I think getting them laughing and intrigued is the kind of atmosphere would work very well, or am I mistaken?

    Looking forward to hear what you guys think about this. Feedback much appreciated!

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    Default Re: Speed dating! What to say or do, what works best?

    I am not a fan of speed dating but I think use your 5 minutes to DHV as much as you can. Have some very short DHV stories in your mind and use them on every girl. 5 minutes is not enough to make attraction but should be enough to make them a bit interested. So I would make them interested and make them want to know more.

    Also have some mini games in your mind and use them ONLY for girls that you really like (you cannot play games with each girl). I would tell the HB something like "I just chatted to other girls but you sound like a fun girl so let's play this game which helps me get to know you too. Then play a fun game like "who lies more, men or women" or do some funny palm reading.

    Also go there a bit earlier so that in case you see an interesting girl you can chat to her and maybe number close her before other guys have a chance to talk to her

    p.s. I would not ask anything about fight though! Make her imagine herself with you in a good situation not in a bad situation.

    Hope this helps

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    Default Re: Speed dating! What to say or do, what works best?

    Thanks, yeah I see how funny or somewhat controversial questions like "who lies more" can work very well.

    Palm reading could also work nice, although I have no experience with it, so I wonder if it won't come off too staged. I think you gotta be able to deliver it with a funny twist in order to be successful rather than awkward. Maybe I'll practice that in other situations, or in conversations with girls I'm not particularly into anyway

    Any other cool 'games' or fun things that you guys know of? I guess just short simple bar or flirting games might work here as well? (not that I know many, just thinking out loud)

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    Default Re: Speed dating! What to say or do, what works best?

    Palm reading is good because it allows you to Kino and if you Kino they will remember you. I don't know palm reading either. Instead I pretend that I do palm reading but I actually do cold reading!


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