This weekend I'll be attending a speeddating evening, i.e. getting to talk to 20 ladies for 5 minutes each. I've been on speeddates before and I can easily keep a conversation going, but often find it difficult to really "trigger a spark". I would really appreciate some advice from the experts on what you suggest works best, e.g. what do you consider good topics, questions, things to say or do in speed date environment?
I always avoid dull boring questions (like where do you live, what do you do, etc) like the plague. More often I rely on things like "so what do you like in a guy?" or "got any passions, things that really make you wild or happy?" or "what brings you here, do you actually know what you're looking for?" or "what would you do if you win the lottery tomorrow?" as it reveals a bit more of their personality (and I can follow up on that). But there is the risk of things getting too serious or too deep.
I think it's OK to reveal a bit of our personality to eachother, but not too much (need to keep mystery) - just enough to give them a quick impression that I'm a confident, social, non-needy, authentic guy, in touch with myself, got my sh1t together and living a versatile life (if the opportunity is there I'll occasionally drop that I travel through other continents, am into martial arts, cooking, philosophy, got my own business, etc). A fun thing I sometimes ask is "suppose we get in a fight, how would you settle it?"
Basically I believe it would be better if I can make things more playful, funny, humorous, some teasing, bantering, busting their balls. I'm kinda clueless on how to pull this off though, but I think getting them laughing and intrigued is the kind of atmosphere would work very well, or am I mistaken?
Looking forward to hear what you guys think about this. Feedback much appreciated!