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    Exclamation FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT

    Hello, I'm Ace, I've been into PUA for sometime, a friend of mine introduced me. gained interest immediately started reading the game, wathed the DVD Series online... I love Neil, Mystery and Hypnotica.

    anyways this is kind of a detailed story so stick with me. Ive known this girl, 7 years now... fell for her the second I met her I still remember it. I have knowledge and blame me for friend-zoning myself. I messed up... ALOT I don't blame her, but for the first 6 of these 7 years she did not have a clue, to be honest she probably didn't know I existed.

    Last summer something small hit off... we ended up hanging out but we both showed to the wrong place during this time I felt that " Vibe switch" she gained interest in me for the first time... held onto my arm... bigger hugs long conversation and laughed alot we started hanging out... kissed once and for her it kind of tapered off and I made some aggressive " Attack mode " Mistakes and she ended up with a new boyfriend for a while...but still kept in touch anyway. this leads up to a few months ago.

    at this point, months of PUA has been studied in field and on paper and videos, Im notting a huge difference in her reactions to me, compared to before. Its getting to a point because of friendship as well that emotions consistently run high with both of us theres deep conversations alot of trust and a last month I asked her on a date and she said, " she just cant " this Devastated me but I kept my chin up and kept her having fun anyways... but I note I AM NOTTTT Playing Therapist for her.

    this ends up going into last week where she started txting me quite a bit, after a night I showed up randomly to her house and we just hungout... it ended up being for hours we really enjoyed ourselves. after which we ended up txting each-other quite a bit, I kept it short and sweet and out of no where... SHE INVITES ME... out to drinks bowling and dinner for a night. this past friday night was supposed to be that night but I had to cancel due to a passing of a friend, she easily understood.

    this part gets a little intense... last night she was at the party I was at we left and ended up going for a goof 45 min walk just around the neighborhood together...I had said something sweet in the moment and she grabbed me, gave me a huge hug squeezed very tight and wouldn't let go... told me I gave her goose bumps. I put my hand on the side of her face swiped the hair and went in slowly for a kiss I saw her think about it for that half a second, then turn away, grabbed my hands hugged me even tighter and we continued walking and talking. It stung but I brushed it off. On the walk back to the party right before we got there I said in confidence, so this is date one, lets reschedule friday for date 2 ( THIS IS AFTER THE KISS REJECTION ) she said yes !!!!!

    we then hungout the rest of the night she sat next to me stayed close laughed alot and then we went out for late night ice cream and a burger around 2:30 in the morning at a place close to my house after cabbing there. she then came back to my place we sat in the back yard listened to music on her phone and after about 20 mins or so she laid with me for the next hour holding my arm, just talking and looking up at the sky then had to leave... I was a Nerves WRECK because this came out of no where but I didn't show it and I wasnt about to go for the kiss again and blow it.


    Sorry for the long story guys but I wanted to be descriptive as possible to get the most help... next Friday or Saturday night this next date should be happening and keep in mind this date was HER INVITE. Im taking all PUA Advice... tips ... pointers. I think Ill shoot myself if I blow this guys. I cant attack it... I wont bring it up... I wont pressure it... and im trying to keep it fun at all costs through txt msgs calls or any meetings between the 2 of us. I got a week and I need to play my cards right here.

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    Default Re: FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT

    honestly your on the right track man, but from what i have seen maybe you should be nice but hint that you have other things to do because she asked you. thats all i know hope that helps!
    I may be a starter but I like to help whatever ways I can

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    Default Re: FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT

    I don't normally read posts with this many paragraphs, but I'm glad I read this one. Personally, I probably would have left after the walk or soon after because "something came up" only because it seems as if the mood was so fairy tale (girls love that stuff) and that's great! However, you would have left her wanting more if you had said goodbye after the walk. No biggie though.

    Seeing as tomorrow is Monday, I would set something in stone by at least Tuesday.. so pick, Friday or Saturday, and let her know. Keep her interested throughout the week, but keep her wanting more. Watch your text times! Remember, you're a busy guy.

    Good call with not worrying about the kiss rejection, you still had a solid night and she was feelin' the mood. That being said, (depending on how the next date goes) I would go for a Kiss Close again... not at the end of the night though! One of the best things I've ever learned about K Closing is that it's best done before you take her home. Why? Because most guys don't do that and it will set you apart. Also, it's less expected from her end, and ballsy on yours.

    Short story for you that I think will help: I was on a date with this chick a few weeks ago, at one point throughout the night we hugged and I went for the kiss.. she moved her head, but we were still hugging. I said "Hmm, no?" she said, "I want to, but there are people around." So I came up with this bad ass line on the spot... "Close your eyes and count to 3." She closed her eyes, so I started to count, "one, two" then I kissed her! "three." Super easy, super cute, super effective if she doesn't think she's ready. So try that if she pulls away again.

    Hope that helps!
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    Default Re: FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT

    And just remember, just because you're going on the the doesn't mean you're out of the friend zone yet. Don't worry about blowing the date, just go on and have a good time on the date. Don't go expecting a whole make out session or anything like that. Take it one step at a time with her
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT

    thanks guys... To Bimmer... I appreciate your huge reply I can tell by your language you have been at this to.

    But Updated news- I'm dealing with this but I dont understand whats happening. she called me again today asking to go for a walk tonight, I was unable group hangout with close friends because of the Holiday.. then said right away ohh what are you doing tomorrow night we can figure something out.

    followed up by re-assuring our date for friday. Im not used to this kind of attention, I have been from girls but not from her.

    Have to continue to listen to Neil and Mystery... take all words with a grain of salt, odds are shes seeing more then just me I have to accept this for now but I have skill sets I plan to use to win this one from what I've learned through other PUA'S Must Elevate Kino and remain alpha.

    thus far the our date is set in stone now...

    Bowling / Dinner ( in the same place ) with drinks and going for a walk after.

    I want tips guys I want it to be fun to keep her wanting more... but I don't want to create a pressured environment and that's a common easy mistake to make.

    Im a Nervous wreck about this but cant show it... PUA... Works I was settled with never having a chance in life with this girl... Im still wrapping my head around it... Thanks for the replies I hope you keep following throughout the week

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    Default Re: FriendZone Turned Into First Date... CANT BLOW IT

    Keep calm, keep up some type of discipline(learn it now, you'll need it for the future).

    What kind of stuff do you guys do together, anything sexual or close to it, verbally that is? You can sort of judge the tone of things if its alot of flirting/playing/teasing/tension, or if its just casual talk the whole time?

    Just brought ^^^^ that up because thats a quick way to determine sort of where things are heading. Although if its real early and your not too familiar with the girl yet I wouldnt get into such things or concern yourself too much on a 1st meetup type deal.

    As well dont worry, I use to concern myself with certain things then I realized half the time girls are just as anxious/nervous around you. A lot of them act smooth but cant act 100% smooth.


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