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Thread: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

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    Default Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    Hey guys, I had a couple questions about my current scenario and all feedback/opinions are valued.

    I number closed a girl on FB that lived in my residence at university two years ago. We made plans to meet today, but she flaked today and wanted to reschedule for Friday. The reason I chose Sunday was because typically people are busy on friday and saturday nights when short notice is given. She didn't tell me why, just stated that she wouldn't be able to make it. I didn't ask why, she said it in her text.

    When a girl flakes on me, even if they pick a day to reschedule within the same text, should I say something about it or pretend that the flake didn't happen? Example: "If you flake on me again, then it's game over ; )"

    Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    BUMP! : D (plus thirty characters)

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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    If she asked to reschedule instead of just not showing up or blowing you off with a cheesy excuse, then I doubt it's a genuine "flake". Sounds either like life got in the way, and something legitimately came up OR...she wanted to move it to Friday to make it more of a true date.

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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    I guess "flake" wouldn't be the right word. I didn't consider the fact that she may want to change it to a Friday/Saturday so it's more official. Appreciate the insight. Sarge on b'ys.

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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    My policy is that if they reschedule, their rescheduled date never works for you because your "busy." Pick a day other than Friday, and if it wasn't a flake, she should be fine with it. Don't let her dictate the terms.
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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    Thanks Duke. That's a good message to portray. I'll remember that for next time.

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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    Given that she rescheduled it indeed sounds like something legitimate may have come up, so I'd give her the benefit of the doubt in this situation. But my theory is you should never telegraph your intentions with something like "If you flake on me again, then it's game over". You don't owe her an explanation or fair warning, and it's not going to signal abundance to her, only that you're worried about what she'll do. I think your situation is fine but if she tries to reschedule again or just blows you off, just drop her. That says more than any text could.
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    Default Re: Girl flaked on me but rescheduled- handling a flake

    Yeah thanks for the advice guys. She fllaked on me tonight. Said she was sick at 6pm. I'm tossing her. I'm texting two girls I met on POF that I have dates with next week.

    On to the next one.


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