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    Question F-closed But Now...How Do You Date While Broke?

    Sup my pua colleages. I been meaning to ask for some help. Recently I got laid off from my job and had my stupid roommate move out on very short notice while I was broke. So I have to move back in with mom >:-( Can't collect unemployment for some bullcrap that happened but on the main story. I been going out on the weekends and had fun, and managed to F-close this HB8 I was trying to game a couple of months ago at our local bar back when I had me big homeless man beard and bumy look. (I must admit after shaving, and working out it's now 10x easier to get girls, sometimes without even trying, which really helps with all the Pick Up material I have been heavily studying. Tattoos also help alot too guys , but anyway). She had a another guy trying to kiss her, she might have went home with him until I showed up smiling and giving her looks. She literally pushes him out the way and we talk, then kiss, then walk through downtown to her house and have sex.

    During that she said she loved me which freaked me out but I ignored it. We hangout the next day and I meet some of her friends. Through out the week we text and try to set up a meet while she's at work everyday. She works alot but usually initiates text and seems like she really wants to make time for me. It just seems she can find a day to hangout, and I assume she want to have sex only just a few times and take it more slow. Usually in cases like this I don't even consider hanging out with girls after sex but this girl is different. Our personalities just match.

    Basically I feel a little intimidated because:
    -I'm broke as hell lol. I have no job and have been looking for one hard everyday. My car gives me problems, phone is is off. I text her through iMessage on my iPhone at my house's wifi.
    -she's 30, I'm 22. She has a career in forensics. Not saying I'm dumb but she is ridiculously, and I mean ridiculously smart (I'm pretty sure she maybe has already figured out I'm a broke ass lol). While I design comic books but have yet to send my work into a publisher.
    -I haven't told her my broke status yet lol.
    -and also Im feeling so frustrated, trying to find a job, stress in my family, school, my job, alot of things Im wondering if I can handle all this while possibly having a relationship.
    -and I'm known for being a pretty popular, funny, happy guy. Always enjoying life but for the first time I'm starting to feel depressed. Bad luck after luck has been happening. Im now finding that Im shutting off my friends and being reculsive.

    By all means, I'm not trying to make people feel sorry for myself. I feel that choices you make in your life lead you to situations and you just gotta figure out how to overcome them. And god, I don't want somebody being all like man up. Im a very independent guy but I had to suck up my pride and move back in my moms as a last resort. I also hope this post helps anyone in a similar situation.

    Basically, this question is aimed at experienced PUA out there and even the average working man that has financial problems too. Everything is coming from the heart. If you were in my shoes, what would you do and how would you handle this?

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    OG_PlMP is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: F-closed But Now...How Do You Date While Broke?

    I pretty much am in your shoes so I feel qualified enough to answer this. I'm 22, just graduated college and actively looking for a job. My bank account is getting smaller and smaller while my bills are growing. Here's how I've been handling this so far.

    Lately I've been dating 3-4 girls at a time, all of which I've F closed. Usually I spend money on them the very first date, maybe $10 tops. Something like in-n-out then drive to a spot with a view. We usually lay out a blanket, eat our food, then start holding hands, cuddling, making out, fcking if the girl is down and its pretty secluded and private. If its not empty then I'll drive to a spot in a residential neighborhood and carry on.

    During the date (usually while we're eating and before we start making out) we typically talk about how I graduated and I bring up any job interviews or talk about my job search or w/e is goin on. You know, just small talk.

    After the first F close (or at least heavy make out session/foreplay if i get some LMR), I'll hit them up again the following day to build comfort, then a week later to meet up again. From the first meetup they know I'm currently unemployed. I usually do something more chill with them like take a walk in a mall or a park or wherever.

    If they want to do something that costs you money (more than $5, can't be too stingy) I'll usually just say something like, "I'm gonna be honest and I really hope you don't mind, but I really don't have a lot of money right now since I graduated and don't have a job. I can't really afford to do xxxxxx right now. I hope this doesn't change things" or some other little speech similar to that. If you've built any comfort at all (which you should have if you're on a second date with them) they'll completely understand. I've never once had a girl get upset or mad because of it. Often times the girl will offer to pay for me.

    It may seem beta but I've never had a girl be upset about it and 9/10 times we'll go on another date. Other great date ideas which don't cost money are movies at your/her place (can just stream them online, plus no one will really be watching it anyway), walk on the beach, any walks in general, picnics, hiking (if you guys have been dating a long time), just making out in your car somewhere, people watching, farmers markets, boardwalks, etc. It's easy.

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    Default Re: F-closed But Now...How Do You Date While Broke?

    OG I'm glad there's someone that can relate. I actually did suggest we go to the park the other day. Almost happened but she had to go to work earlier than expected. I'm gonna try and watch movies at her place. Not at my place though since I stay with my mother. So it'll have to be a her place. One thing though, she has a very boring text style, which is strange because she is really outgoing and talkative but she always seems serious and rarely uses "lol, haha, the usual girls texts". After not seeing her in a few days its hard to tell her mood. Should I maybe try to build attraction through text first then suggest going to her place. I guess my problem is I don't wanna intrude. I wanna slyly ease up in there of you catch my drift lol.

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    Default Re: F-closed But Now...How Do You Date While Broke?

    Haha I've been in your shoes too many times. I HATE boring texters. I've been working on my text game a lot and I've been seeing huge improvements in girls attitudes and responses when texting. I like role playing (marriage role play early on works really well) and basically taking a cocky/funny approach when texting. I'm not exactly sure what your texts look like so I can't really give an exact answer to the question based on your situation but I'll try my best.

    For the most part, I always try to build a bit of attraction (at least set a fun/flirty frame) before I ask for a meet up (unless i've f closed multiple times). This is usually to build the attraction then the third text I'll arrange the meetup, but again it really depends how the convo is going. First text is just to get her interested and curious (according to magnetic messaging its to spark an emotion). Basically response bait...something that stands out from every other guy's "hey wats up" text that she receives 50x a day.

    The second text usually is an inside joke between the two of us. Something only she would understand. Or maybe tease her on something she did in the past. Something like that Then the third text I'll usually set up the date. I'm sure you know how to ask so I wont get too much in detail but just be sure not to ask like you need her to go with you, but instead suggest that she comes along, and you're gonna have a great time regardless of whether or not she goes with you.

    As for wanting to go to her place for a movie, I'd first establish that she wants to go out with you, after she agrees then say something I've used in the past that had pretty good success is "Let's be traditional and enjoy a good old fashioned movie and drink at your place". But obviously if she lives with her parents don't suggest this. I like to bring a large bottle of wine for the drink. Usually get a good buzz for both of you and she'll be more open to your sexual advances.


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