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    Default Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Hi, I'm very depressed today, and the main reason is my love life.

    I'm 29 years old and am about to turn 30 (this month). I never had a serious relationship in my entire life. I've always been the "good guy" and never had the balls to aproach women, and that pretty much says it all. I'm not an extremely shy person, but when it comes to flirting with girls it's very, very difficult for me.

    When I was younger, I had some girls that were interested in me now and then, including some HBs, so I used to hook up with them whenever I could.. I never worried too much about this kind of stuff, as I believed things would work out naturally some day. Big mistake. IoI

    Since last year, for the first time in my life I started honestly worrying about my dating life, as I didn't have a busy social life as I had when I was younger, and all my closest friends were either marrying or in serious relationships. That's when I came across some pua material.

    At first I had many insights, and came to the conclusion that I was simply an absolute chump. IoI I realized I was doing all the things I shouldn't.. that I was the perfect stereotype of the good guy who never gets laid.

    But since then I decided to apply for this very competitive job in my country, and I've been preparing myself for it, as it's going to be this year. I made my mind on focusing on this and letting that other part of my life to be handled later. But it've been a very lonely year, and I started hanging out with this female friend I have, and started liking her. We ended up kissing one time, and after that she rejected me as I already explained on other topics.

    And now I'm feeling like sh1t. I feel like I'm not good enough for woman, and as if it's my destiny to live a lonely life. My self-esteem reached rock bottom, and I even started to wonder if I really have a chance on changing that. I think this recent rejection affected me that much because of my present situation.. I have no social life, no other girls in my life and am about to lose all my hopes..

    Just wanted to hear some opinions.. I'm focused on getting this job I mentioned, and after that I'm gonna focus all my time, strength and resources on changing my love life. I plan on spending about 4 months sarging everyday, non-stop, taking bootcamps, reading all the pua material I can, recording my sets and everything else I can do. I'll be already 30 years old, with no significant experience in sarging and almost no self-esteem. I'm average looking, book smart and disciplined. Do I have a shot? Or should I just give up on that, and accept myself as a lonely person?

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Hope is overrated, but yes you can definitely still rise from the dead.

    Just don't do the mistake of reading a few things and jumping to bars to apply them, work on your inner game first! Get in touch with your inner weaknesses and focus on dealing with them as you move forward with outer game methods and routines and all.

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Okay, good news man. I was once in your shoes...well not that bad but close lol. I'm just being serious. K back to you. *clears throat*. You're going to be just fine. The sexiest girls I ever laid and the most women for that matter was done in my 30's. Yup, and it took a lot of effort on my part to learn and more importantly apply this material.

    I burned away a lot of opportunities with woman while I was learning and experimenting. I used to get so pissed when a hottie got away, thinking I would never see a girl like that again. Don't worry, there's lots, you just gotta get out there.

    These are the 3 books I feel are the best;

    Double your Dating - David Deangelo
    Daytime Dating - Jeremy Soul
    Magic Bullets

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    I'll have to introduce a completely different approach to this. Fark thinking about women. Fark routines and techniques. Women can't validate your self-confidence or any other quality.

    Look into yourself as a man, an individual. Who are you?

    A sad and lonely dude who "helps" himself every night just because he's lonely?

    Or a dude who chooses to be lonely because he wants the focus on himself to be a better individual?

    ...

    Is your problem really loneliness? Trust me, you can easily hook up with many girls even now. However, they're most likely to be ugly, crazy and/or overweight.

    You feel lonely because you have high standards in women. You want the hot ones. I'll never say "lower your standards". Because you're a man. You deserve to have high standards in women.

    But do you have what it takes to match with these women? Top notch women also have high standards in men.

    Before you dive into all those readings and bootcamps, identify your missing qualities. Learn how to be happy even if you're alone. So you can be happier when you're not alone.

    This is a long journey. And it might get frustrating at times. Don't give up. You'll have us to help you every step of the way.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Dude what are u so worried about? There are plenty of people out there like u that's what a community like this is for. Just tonight it hit me. Rooster's greatest strength. He goes around hooking up with massive chicks through SNL game and ONS right? But his goal is to get laid the night he goes out or no longer than a Day 2. He has no attachment to a "nice woman" no neediness of "the hottest thing he's seen". Whatever. He is extreme. I am taking that sense of self-worth with me today. Next time I wanna get whipped over a girl I'll just remember Rooster and keep my spirits high though we have two different styles and I like relationships more still you shouldn't worry. Just remember Rooster and no girl will ever give u oneitis again. Marriage the only exception to that rule.
    "It is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are." -Mewtwo

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    I guess most of the guys around here have already been in your shoes.
    You shouldn't be that depressed. Yeah, you rocked the bottom - or at least you think so. But guess what, i bet it could get worse. and worse. And at some point, it's up to you when, it'll get better. If you invest enough time and energy. It's not gonna be like in movies, so that after one horrible night, you wake up as a changed person, a PUA with game. You have to built it up and work really hard for every single brick in that building.

    As you can read under my nickname, I'm just an aspiring PUA. So I can only tell what I've experienced. I also rocked the bottom not that long ago. I started reading and watching and hearing through PUA stuffes, just like you did. And there were plenty of nights when I went out to the field thinking "Ok, so, this is the time, this is my time etc." - and I freezed. I wasn't able to open sets, even say hi to girls. But i forced myself (ok, i shouldn't really forced, i enjoy friking much to diving into this whole PUA stuffs) to learn even more. Watching Mystery's lectures on my iPod while travelling in bus. Reading PUA books in the beach. Reading this forum, surfing in the net reading about the topic all my spare time. And somehow, with little steps, I feel like it's changing. I hope i'll carry on with it.

    You should really dive into it hard. If you read and watch about how others opening sets and going into direct games, you will feel urgent need to try it, at least once. Sorrounded yourself with your friends or your buddies. As for me, there is 2 options: I go out in the field with dudes, who really got game - that force me to try it myself. Or I go out with my other friends, who really are AFCs, just like I am, or I used to be (I can't really decide it now) - so i feel like i have to demonstrate them my DHVs, that I, in opposite of them, can go and talk to women. Both option could work, but I guess, the first one is better.

    So head up, go live your life, or something cheerfull like that - I really hope you can make it.

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtyOnPurpose View Post
    Hope is overrated, but yes you can definitely still rise from the dead.

    Just don't do the mistake of reading a few things and jumping to bars to apply them, work on your inner game first! Get in touch with your inner weaknesses and focus on dealing with them as you move forward with outer game methods and routines and all.
    How should I do that (work on my inner game)? I always come across this statement, and I think I understand it in theory, but I have no idea of how to apply it. Are there recommended books or practices for that?

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Quote Originally Posted by The Bartender View Post
    Okay, good news man. I was once in your shoes...well not that bad but close lol. I'm just being serious. K back to you. *clears throat*. You're going to be just fine. The sexiest girls I ever laid and the most women for that matter was done in my 30's. Yup, and it took a lot of effort on my part to learn and more importantly apply this material.

    I burned away a lot of opportunities with woman while I was learning and experimenting. I used to get so pissed when a hottie got away, thinking I would never see a girl like that again. Don't worry, there's lots, you just gotta get out there.

    These are the 3 books I feel are the best;

    Double your Dating - David Deangelo
    Daytime Dating - Jeremy Soul
    Magic Bullets
    Thanks a lot for the help. I was very depressed when I wrote this topic (also a little drunk), but it was very good to read the responses today.. it helped me put my thoughts together. You guys are right... I am in a sh1tty situation right now, but I never really took the effort to change that, and Im still young. The rejection from this girl doesnt really mean anything.. if I was out there sarging regularly I wouldnt even be worrying about it at all. Ill read the books you recommended. Thanks again.

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf24 View Post
    I'll have to introduce a completely different approach to this. Fark thinking about women. Fark routines and techniques. Women can't validate your self-confidence or any other quality.

    Look into yourself as a man, an individual. Who are you?

    A sad and lonely dude who "helps" himself every night just because he's lonely?

    Or a dude who chooses to be lonely because he wants the focus on himself to be a better individual?

    ...

    Is your problem really loneliness? Trust me, you can easily hook up with many girls even now. However, they're most likely to be ugly, crazy and/or overweight.

    You feel lonely because you have high standards in women. You want the hot ones. I'll never say "lower your standards". Because you're a man. You deserve to have high standards in women.

    But do you have what it takes to match with these women? Top notch women also have high standards in men.

    Before you dive into all those readings and bootcamps, identify your missing qualities. Learn how to be happy even if you're alone. So you can be happier when you're not alone.

    This is a long journey. And it might get frustrating at times. Don't give up. You'll have us to help you every step of the way.
    I get what you're saying. It actually makes a lot of sense. Just the part about loneliness, I consider myself more on the second situation (lonely because I'm focusing on myself). I have a very busy schedule, and am in a good track professionally speaking. But my problem with loneliness is that I feel lonely. I can't help it. I feel in need of human contact, sex and all that. So I guess I'll just have to learn to live a lonely life for a while, at least untill I put my other shit together. I can't any other way. And in the mean time, I'll just avoid that chick that's been messing with my head.. Your post was very helpful, thank you.

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    Default Re: Can I still have hope in PUA?

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjacK View Post
    Dude what are u so worried about? There are plenty of people out there like u that's what a community like this is for. Just tonight it hit me. Rooster's greatest strength. He goes around hooking up with massive chicks through SNL game and ONS right? But his goal is to get laid the night he goes out or no longer than a Day 2. He has no attachment to a "nice woman" no neediness of "the hottest thing he's seen". Whatever. He is extreme. I am taking that sense of self-worth with me today. Next time I wanna get whipped over a girl I'll just remember Rooster and keep my spirits high though we have two different styles and I like relationships more still you shouldn't worry. Just remember Rooster and no girl will ever give u oneitis again. Marriage the only exception to that rule.
    Great post, man. The good thing about this experience is that I'm learning not to be a chump with woman anymore. That's not how it works, and I think I understand it now.


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