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    Default Where did I go wrong?

    Ok so the backstory is last year I had class with this girl I thought was good looking but I never really said anything to her. This year we have some mutual friends and have been talking a little and hanging out.
    Last night I was pretty drunk and I saw her at the bar and she was also pretty drunk and she came up to me and we started talking, IOIs were present big time. Telling me how she wanted to show me her room and she was kissing my cheeks and stuff. She also said that if she didn't have a boyfriend last year she would have asked me to study and stuff. I end up buying us a drink and a round of shots and when we took the shots she said she thinks he's going to be sick and goes to the bathroom. I was waiting for like 10 minutes and then I was like forget this I gotta go to the bathroom myself. When I went I saw her walking out and I told her to wait for me. When I got out of the bathroom she was gone and later I saw her with her ex bf. So I texted her and said way to ditch me.
    Should I ignore her next time I see her? What should I do in this situation? And do you think it's done?

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    First of all I hate this song.

    Back to you, I believe that you only get one chance to make a first impression. You failed at making a good or significant first impression when she was with you in class.

    Also, you actually counted on a drunken encounter where she made you buy drinks and shots and then ditched you.
    Well there isn't a single PUA that won't warn you about buying girls drinks like that, if she insisted yea you can buy her one but go like "next round's on you ". You don't have to pay for your time with her! Nor you have to be drunk to make it happen for that matter.

    She also isn't over her ex obviously. That's bad for you as well and a sign that you should not make any reaction and just move on to the next one.
    Don't let her feel that you got that pissed about it. Don't text her anything, just learn and move on.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Yeah I do know about the drink thing, I would have felt kind of awkward if I didn't though. The reason is because I wanted to get a drink for myself and kind of felt weird to order one right in front of her and not to offer her one too especially since she couldn't buy herself because she didn't have a wrist band. She did offer to pay though but I denied.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtyOnPurpose View Post
    First of all I hate this song.

    Back to you, I believe that you only get one chance to make a first impression. You failed at making a good or significant first impression when she was with you in class.

    Also, you actually counted on a drunken encounter where she made you buy drinks and shots and then ditched you.
    Well there isn't a single PUA that won't warn you about buying girls drinks like that, if she insisted yea you can buy her one but go like "next round's on you ". You don't have to pay for your time with her! Nor you have to be drunk to make it happen for that matter.

    She also isn't over her ex obviously. That's bad for you as well and a sign that you should not make any reaction and just move on to the next one.
    Don't let her feel that you got that pissed about it. Don't text her anything, just learn and move on.
    I agree, and I also think that the bar is WHERE you went wrong...Your chances of getting to know someone in a drunken state are pretty slim. Theres times you have to take advantage of a situation where you see a girl coincidentally and there's times you lay back...all depends on the girl. In your scenario you should probably be trying to meet up with her intentionally by setting something up.
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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Yeah you're right, I should have not even bothered at that point in time and made sure I had my bearings. I know I will see her again though, I just don't know how I should act? Act as if nothing happen or kind of give her a cold shoulder?

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    This is a prime example of the kind of game women have. Here we are talking about it, studying it, trying to live it and for chic's it just an ordinary day.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by skicat View Post
    This is a prime example of the kind of game women have. Here we are talking about it, studying it, trying to live it and for chic's it just an ordinary day.
    And that is because while we spent our early years of youth playing around they spent them gossiping and talking about guys, talking about us. Thus this "experience advantage", this very similar set of tricks they pull on men, it's like they get it all from the same book.

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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    sh1t like that wouldn't affect me because If that was me I'd know it was my fault things went wrong. If anything id be mad at myself, and whenever the next time would be that ihave an encounter with her I'd ask her how her night ended (in a geniunely curious manner) not in a "I want to hear how your night turned out!" type manner. Shed prob give me some bullsh1t excuse about how she got sick and felt sh1tty for leaving, either way id say "you shouldnt have drank so much cause we had a fun ass night"...

    After telling her that she'll get the hint that I'm unaffected by her actions and realize shes nothing special. --- At this point the power shift would start to gradually move towards me"
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    Default Re: Where did I go wrong?

    Act normal don't smile too much if she says hi which she probably may just reply.she may shit test you be ready.talk to other girls and guys in class be social.on the smiles if she doesn't smile don't.


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