Long story short, I met a woman 7-10 years my senior (I am 30) last month at salsa class. We went out a couple of times and then the summer holidays kicked in and we lost touch. During the 2 dates we had, I did some cold-reading and other games on her and saw she was definitely receptive. Now, because she was older and also a colleague (even though she works in a different building and we never run into each other), I decided to put a stop to this.
From our discussions, I got the impression that she wanted a committed LTR. I was 100% I didn’t want anything long-term with her, and I would certainly want to date girls of my age at the same time. So, I did not find it appropriate to use her feelings just to have sex. Besides, I had some back-up plans and was dating some other girls at the same time.
One month later, my back-up plans led to nowhere. This wouldn’t be so much of a problem if I wasn’t going through a 4 year dry spell… To be frank, even with all the PUA advice and tips, I fail horribly at dating. Actually, she is the closest woman I have been to K*close.
So, I start having second thoughts and tell myself that it could have been a chance to get back in track (I need practice, right?). I would really love to have a NSA relationship with her, but I am afraid she might want more. I don’t want to be a bastard and pretend that we are dating (moreover, I might get bad rep at work, gossip runs everywhere).
Should I still contact her despite knowing all that or should I forget about her? I am really busy with work until the end of the year, so I won’t have much time to date other girls. My dry spell keeps lasting longer and longer…
I am really tempted to send her a text but it could get messy… If we somehow hook up together, then how will I break up with her without hurting her feelings? Really don’t know what to do…
Thanks for any advice, mates