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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    Tell me my man how are things progressing?
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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    Xavier, well they were progressing very well this Monday on a business trip. This is what I did:
    1. friendzoned her
    2. BFD - I would say that it went quite well and that she saw him in a different light. She did tell me that she would be able to cheat on her bf.
    3. I did subtle things. Brought coffee for her.
    4. I managed to open her up to me and qualified her.
    5. Kinoed her with quite a bit of escalation, but no kiss close (Did not see the approval, but was close to seeing an approval).

    Weird thing is that and asked me what I think about sex friends. I do not think that it is really of significance as it was just general talk.

    So I thought cool finally something is starting with her..... at least that is what I thought until the day after where we were at business party. We walked in holding hands and were going to dance together, but all of a sudden she ignored me totally. Started dancing with other guys. I played it cool and got to know a different girl myself. Near the end of the party I went up to her and said that I will be leaving... she said that she will also be leaving. I told her that it is not a problem that she can stay and enjoy the rest of the party..... and then Hell broke lose. She was bitching at me for wanting to leave without her and that I am jealous. I was like WTF! We did leave together and she was arguing for over an hour about how I behaved badly. I told her that if I did hurt her that I am very sorry but it was not my intention (did not go AFC at all when apologizing). Nevertheless the bitching continued so I told her to stop and to go to sleep.

    Next morning she apologized for her behavior blaming it on the alcohol. I was very angry and told her that I do not accept such behavior. In the long conversation that we had she explained that she behaved wrongly but it was because she wanted to push me away because she opened up to me which made her scared and that we crossed the borderline of just being friends with the kinoing and that it would not be fair to her bf. So these were the reasons for her behavior but she said that she understands that her behavior was out off line and that she should not have ignored me and made a scene.

    I replied to her that I would never hurt her so she can be open. She agreed to this. Concerning the kinoing I said that we would not cross the borderline of being friends because we are just friends. She said that it is hard for her to kino as she has a closed personality.
    And concerning the bf I did a bit of BFD (which also was not too bad).

    Since then I have seen from her IOIs and also jealousy. But I guess I am back at the start.
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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    instead of constantly using the boyfriend destroyer, try and use the boyfriend as a barrier to create sexual tension.
    say lines like "I would do (insert verb here) with you, but I your boyfriend wouldn't like that." or tell her not to tell her boyfriend about something, or even tell her "you're boyfriend would not approve of us doing this"
    by doing this you are using her boyfriend as a tool to make her more sexually attracted to you. her having a boyfriend makes you a "forbidden fruit" witch means you're a temptation to her.

    amplify that temptation until she can't handle it any more and has to give in. also, showing a little bit of sexual interest can cause you to be even more of a temptation.

    keep doing what you're doing and she should be yours

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    Good man. I'm with meteora on this you do not let the girl feel you are competing with the bf but their is nothing wrong in showing the girl that you have what he lacks. Get it?
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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    instead of constantly using the boyfriend destroyer, try and use the boyfriend as a barrier to create sexual tension.
    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    say lines like "I would do (insert verb here) with you, but I your boyfriend wouldn't like that." or tell her not to tell her boyfriend about something, or even tell her "you're boyfriend would not approve of us doing this"
    by doing this you are using her boyfriend as a tool to make her more sexually attracted to you. her having a boyfriend makes you a "forbidden fruit" witch means you're a temptation to her.

    amplify that temptation until she can't handle it anymore and has to give in. also, showing a little bit of sexual interest can cause you to be even more of a temptation.

    keep doing what you're doing and she should be yours


    Thanks meteora, for liking my post, but this was a step back done by her. I guess I handled it pretty well, but it still is a step back, which means that she is showing some resistance to progress further.

    Concerning the advice I used it the moment I read it I said that our partners would not approve of us going on trip together. And an hour later she proposed us, just the two of us, to go together to her home town (though only as friends).
    Would you not say that it is a bit harder for this to have an effect sexually as she is a denier?

    In order to amplify the temptation I guess I have to work on her subconscious to stimulate her sexually. Any ideas?

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    Good man. I'm with meteora on this you do not let the girl feel you are competing with the bf but their is nothing wrong in showing the girl that you have what he lacks. Get it?


    He really is no competition for me. I’ve got all the stuff that he lacks and she should be aware of it. I am alpha, confident, a decider, attractive, with a low voice, right posture, intelligent, mysterious (started to be mysterious ), ambitious (she is too)… so the total opposite of her AFC. She did admit to me a while back that her feelings for him are not that strong towards him.
    Since my last post I also have started to talk with double meanings which she has pointed out to me. I told her that I have 1 year of her double meaning talk to catch up on. She giggled.
    She really is a tough one to crack. If she were not worth it I would’ve given up as there are easier ones out there. It is like I am using all techniques on her… every word… every move… is precalculated by me. Either she will break or I will... LOL!
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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    an hour later she proposed us, just the two of us, to go together to her home town (though only as friends).
    Would you not say that it is a bit harder for this to have an effect sexually as she is a denier?
    go on the trip with her, but be sure that you are the denier (not the other way around like she would want) keep telling her about what a great friend she is, don't let your words show any interest, while using ur body language to convey the opposite. also, don't allow her to bait you into showing interest. you have to stay firm that you are not only dis-interested in her, but that u want her to be your absolute best friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    go on the trip with her, but be sure that you are the denier (not the other way around like she would want) keep telling her about what a great friend she is, don't let your words show any interest, while using ur body language to convey the opposite. also, don't allow her to bait you into showing interest. you have to stay firm that you are not only dis-interested in her, but that u want her to be your absolute best friend.
    Meteora, one way you are saying that I should use her bf as a barrier to sex, but on the other hand that I should be a denier and underline that we are best just best friends. So do I use both to send mixed signals?
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    you can use either strategie at different times, you want to be the denier when she is trying to bait you into showing interest in her.

    but on the other hand, when she shows direct interest in you, use the boyfriend as a barrier, also if she trys to use the boyfriend as a barrier on you, just acknowledge that its a barrier and that you don't steal girls from their boyfriends.

    subtlety is king here, just keep showcasing your value while creating sexual tension by having the boyfriend barrier.

    also another line I came up with that would mix both strategies is
    "you have a boyfriend, I can't do that with you, after all you've been such a good friend to me,i would hate to get between you and him. that boyfriend is like the best thing in your life"

    there, I combined both strategies to create lots of tension, obviously this is just an example of whats possible, just think of ways you can create that grand sexual tension and keep playing ball

    btw, be careful not to get one-it is for this girl, if you stop pursuing other girls it will make it harder for you to play this game with her.

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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    You need to bring the girl in..there has been few iois.if you keep tunneling round you may end up in the deadzone.knoe you won't let this fall.

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    Default Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    you can use either strategie at different times, you want to be the denier when she is trying to bait you into showing interest in her.

    but on the other hand, when she shows direct interest in you, use the boyfriend as a barrier, also if she trys to use the boyfriend as a barrier on you, just acknowledge that its a barrier and that you don't steal girls from their boyfriends.

    subtlety is king here, just keep showcasing your value while creating sexual tension by having the boyfriend barrier.

    also another line I came up with that would mix both strategies is
    "you have a boyfriend, I can't do that with you, after all you've been such a good friend to me,i would hate to get between you and him. that boyfriend is like the best thing in your life"

    there, I combined both strategies to create lots of tension, obviously this is just an example of whats possible, just think of ways you can create that grand sexual tension and keep playing ball

    btw, be careful not to get one-it is for this girl, if you stop pursuing other girls it will make it harder for you to play this game with her.
    Meteora, I already have a oneitis for her. If you recall my thread: http://www.puaforums.com/game/18074-does-game-make-you-emotionless.html then this is the first girl in 2 years that has sparked some emotions in me. I thought I was a lost case. Nevertheless I will remain alpha, never show neediness and play it by the text book. Do not forget that I am also still in a relationship.


    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    You need to bring the girl in..there has been few iois.if you keep tunneling round you may end up in the deadzone.knoe you won't let this fall.
    Hardrock
    What do you mean by I "need to bring her in"?
    What do you mean by "knoe you won't let this fall"?
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