Re: Need help with a potential one it is at work
Mmm this is a fun one, the sad thing is you are going AFC mate. "I don't want to fark it up" is a try hard attitude bound to fail. Sounds like you want to tie the knot with this broad. Sadly this girl is a player. Have seen it happen so many times. Girl has a BF, plays guys on the side. This is called playing the field mate. In short? You are just a tool. She is going to lead you on a bunny trail that leads well...no where. Watch.
You are over thinking it. How do I do this? How do I do that? Don't worry just be as they would say in Kung Fu Panda. You are too worried about what will be. Instead you should just focus on the present. If you are fine with this girl playing her cards on the side then very well but don't expect her to jump ship unless you got this broad like tied around your little pinky. There are plenty of single, available, and crazy broads out there that would dump their BF for you in a heartbeat. If it takes longer than say the time to mack her to the grave then you have gone too far. If you have deployed all your best tactics and tricks on her then back off and give her the classic Freeze Out. If not deploy more tactics. If you really want this broad stop acting like it, instead of going AFC go Alpha and be indifferent to the situation. Act like it doesn't matter because the more you chase and pursue the further you will push them away. The conclusion? I don't think this girl is good game. Move on and find more girls. This is why I stopped caring about hot women at work because they play games. I would rather play games with a stranger than with a chick I know I will see the next day. Just keep it fun and flirt and if she ever brings it up again let her know in a serious matter of fact you don't get down like that and if she wants it to go farther tell her she will have to tell you that up front. Essentially? Cut off all kino, flirting, Rico Suave moves and see if she picks up the torch. If not then you can safely move on without being treated like a sucker but if she does try to initiate something then you have something here. A classic Push-Pull is what you need for this girl. Push her away by being completely aloof telling her when she tries to flirt "Oh we're just friends." that should push her away and when she starts whining then you pull her in. That's the best position you can be in. Have women chasing you while you are chasing other women. This is called playing the field and any good PUA with some sense will keep his options open before getting wrapped up in the moment. Essentially you have to flirt and then not flirt like go hot and then completely cold (aloof, hey we're just friends comments, etc). So try the Push-Pull thing and the Hot & Cold thing but forget the oneitis thing by focusing on other girls (or not focusing on her but lowering her value) or you're bound to fail and will push her farther away by going more and more AFC for her.
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