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Thread: GF has less sex with me

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    Unhappy GF has less sex with me

    Hey,

    I've got a serious problem here. My GF, which I mentioned in another topic (I also date another girl younger than her, I dunno whenther it's relevant cause she doesn't know about it anyway) seems to need a lot less sex than ever before.

    We've been having sex since January and we've been officially together since May and so far we did it like at least one a day, very ofter a couple of times a day. But for the last couple of days or perhaps weeks I dunno - she's telling me things like "Let's just watch a movie but I don't want to have sex this evening" or such and today was the first time we had sex since Monday evening, which is ridicullous by the previous standards.

    What's the weirdest thing she's literally flooding me with compliments on my looks, skills in bed etc. all the while NOT having sex with me on a regular basis. I know for sure she doesn't have anyone else ATM but sure as hell could find a guy to sleep with in matter of seconds if she wanted to - she's really a hardcore predator that way, I've seen it happen before.

    And that's exactly what got me so worried - if for any reason at all she just needs less sex, she might at some point decide that maybe something is wrong with me and not with her after all and try it with anoter guy. Worst case scenario it'll work with him. That's someting I'm desperate to avoid if only possible. Sexually satisfied girl will less likely leave you or cheat on you, so yeah, I wanna keep her sexually satisfied like it was for all these months before this happened. I really don't know why it did, everything else is perfectly intact, like I said she almost worships me verbally, but fails to show such devotion in bed.

    What's wrong guys? Is there a solution to such a situation?

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    It goes both ways there are girl who may have .. but still may be in touch with options.The 'new age' has both parties huge sexual access..MEN.You may look at the events building up to the bed room.exploring and employing new ways and techniques.if she knows its coming well...
    you guys have been together for a bit how about trying new fantasies think roleplaying etc.

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    seems like she really fell in love(I mean the real thing bro not just what couples say after a few days of dating)

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    Hmm love may be pertinent or not.. but overall there are factors that may cause such dyn.view on love..

    There are times in such situations there are other things on her mind..

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    It goes both ways there are girl who may have .. but still may be in touch with options.The 'new age' has both parties huge sexual access..MEN.You may look at the events building up to the bed room.exploring and employing new ways and techniques.if she knows its coming well...
    you guys have been together for a bit how about trying new fantasies think roleplaying etc.
    I believe you're right. I will definitile try more experimentation and more build-up, perhaps that will catch her interest - sounds like a good startegy to me.

    Just as an update, last night I tried a different approach (not having read your advice til now) - and that's I vaguely suggested that I might have slept with a different girl on that day before I arrived at her place (which I did). She wasn't even very sad (maybe because she could be certain whether I actually did it or not, I was never specific), but got into bed with me after like 15 minutes.

    So what do you think - is jealousy a good option here? Or will it rather destroy us as a couple long-term?

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    Nope not best long term.May kill core foundations of relations..

    her mind may be occupied.

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    It is a cliche but "Actions speak louder than words".

    Always watch a woman's actions, that is the truth, not what she says. A lot of times, when a girl loses interest in sex, not always, but a lot of times, she is losing interest in the relationship. If she didn't get upset when you mentioned that you may have had sex with a different girl the day before, I would see that as an IONI (Indication Of NON Interest).

    And if your having sex with some other chic at the same time, you get what you give in life. Be careful Bro, cuz if the tides turn, you may end up being the one chasing her.

    I would say, decide what you want, then be honest with yourself, and be honest with her.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: GF has less sex with me

    Quote Originally Posted by Darek_Gabriel View Post
    What's the weirdest thing she's literally flooding me with compliments on my looks, skills in bed etc. all the while NOT having sex with me on a regular basis. I know for sure she doesn't have anyone else ATM but sure as hell could find a guy to sleep with in matter of seconds if she wanted to - she's really a hardcore predator that way, I've seen it happen before.
    The weirdest yet the best clue you got there. That definitely sounds fishy to me, no girl would ever suddenly flood you with compliments if everything's alright.
    That is the biggest sign that something's not right.

    Think about it. How many times did you act involuntarily over nice to someone after you've done them wrong (whether they knew about it or not)?

    And about finding other guys, it's not that hard for any girl at all to just sit there look pretty and then pick the one(s) she wants out of the list of guys trying to hit on her. That is just stating the obvious.

    You sir, need to, I'm sure you've heard this many times - "spice things up".

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    Quote Originally Posted by easyflow View Post
    It is a cliche but "Actions speak louder than words".

    Always watch a woman's actions, that is the truth, not what she says. A lot of times, when a girl loses interest in sex, not always, but a lot of times, she is losing interest in the relationship.
    That saying is so true and it's good you mentioned it, cause I guess I needed such a reminder - I got overly focused on what she says and gave little attention to what's actually going on - and that's very little indeed, stale, so to speak. If she's loosing interest then I fail to see the sings but am ready to do anything to avert such a process.

    Quote Originally Posted by easyflow View Post
    If she didn't get upset when you mentioned that you may have had sex with a different girl the day before, I would see that as an IONI (Indication Of NON Interest).

    And if your having sex with some other chic at the same time, you get what you give in life. Be careful Bro, cuz if the tides turn, you may end up being the one chasing her.

    I would say, decide what you want, then be honest with yourself, and be honest with her.
    She's a very introvertic person, so can never be sure. She was a bit upset, but she wasn't even sure whether I'm saying that I did it or not. Plus when we started having sex in January we made it clear to each other that being faithful is not in our nature. She, in time, changed her mind (round the time when we became a couple, so in May, or maybe June). Later on she even stated that it is very important for her to be 100% mine and to devote herself to me, which was a huge step and a big declaration - from my point of view at least. I never promised anything though and she was clear on that she wouldn't forbid me from sleeping with other chicks.

    BUT what I'm saying here is that for her especially, much more than for me, a normal lifestyle she had before is to sleep with tons of different guys, as much as 5 a week, to keep regular fark-buddies as well as bringing in new guys met at a club, at work, in a bar or wherever. She had only one serious relationship before and she commited to it being faithful to the guy for around 6-12 months (she couldn't specify for how long exactly), but other than that being a rather promiscuous person, maybe she's just not used to it and while she wants to be exlusively mine the situation overwhelms her in some way? I really don't know, just trying to explore possibilities here.

    She's a girl worth chasing for sure, and worth being honest with, but the moment I'll give sings that I don't have the upper hand, she'll be gone.

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtyOnPurpose View Post
    The weirdest yet the best clue you got there. That definitely sounds fishy to me, no girl would ever suddenly flood you with compliments if everything's alright.
    That is the biggest sign that something's not right.

    Think about it. How many times did you act involuntarily over nice to someone after you've done them wrong (whether they knew about it or not)?

    And about finding other guys, it's not that hard for any girl at all to just sit there look pretty and then pick the one(s) she wants out of the list of guys trying to hit on her. That is just stating the obvious.

    You sir, need to, I'm sure you've heard this many times - "spice things up".
    I don't know, it doesn't really sound faked at all - and I know her well. Plus we've been abroad for the last 3 months (we've been back for like 2 weeks now) spending literally each and every minute with each other, so how could she wrong me in any way?

    You're right, but she's less picky and more "active" than most girls out there. Or was anyway, but I don't believe attitude changes that much permamently - you may change your ways for someone for a short time, but if you don't make a strong decision that you want to change for you own self, it'll always go back to the old ways. I'm actually just counting days before it does.

    That's where my determination really comes from - the longer I can keep her really happy and satisfied the longer she'll be really mine.


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