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    rocoloco is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default had a great start, but now need help

    I met this hot chick like month and a half ago. She lived near me for years but we haven't met before. She is 18, I am 25.
    Long story short: she added me on facebook the next day, asked me If I want to go jogging with her, I said ok but when the autumn starts, then I told her that she can stop by my house on the way sometimes. She always texted me first, during the night also, even after I said that I'm going to bed.

    So she did, twice, the second time we had good long crazy sex. She texts me on FB the next morning. In the evening she went to the seaside for a week and then we have lost contact for a while. Anyways, now we are back in touch and I want to bed her again.

    But I got a feeling it is not going to be as easy as in the beginning when I was acting naturally, no particular gaming.
    I'm getting mixed signals. She no longer texts me so much, but she does says hi on FB chat. When I asked her once if she wants to go jogging she said she won't be home yet by then. Then she asks me If I will come to the local bar in the evening. Then yesterday we set up a meet for a drink, but she flaked half an hour before. And then agreed we should reschedule and added winks and stuff.

    How should I play it?

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    Whenever in a situation like this a girl gives you a reason never go with it in your dyn becos you never know..

    sarge others and return to her..

    lastly you don't want to come off as all you want is that.once you engage invite her out to a walk, meet you at an open place and go ahead from there.

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    Whenever in a situation like this a girl gives you a reason never go with it in your dyn becos you never know..
    could you explain this sentence, I am not an english speaker...

    thanks

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    When she says she can't make it don't wink or say fine go do that thing because you never know in these dynamics.unless of course you know that was really what pertained.
    for example:
    HB:I can't do this because i've got to be somewhere.(extreme example)
    Pua:Well its ok you can go wherever lets reschedule another time wink wink kisses

    That bad part in this example is where he indicates she can go and do the thing that she specified to him as an excuse.its not necessary.

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    it was more like that, we knew it is going to be a short drink cause I had a meeting at 3 p.m.

    she (at 1 p.m., immediately when she finished school): can't make it today, I have to go to the town to take care of some things, sorry
    me: no problem, I am short on time anyway... some other time maybe
    she: of course

    she also replies 99% of the time in 1 or 2 minutes.

    So being aloof, or trying to get a meet, or maybe try to invite her to my place again eventually?

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    When she says she can't make it don't wink or say fine go do that thing because you never know in these dynamics.unless of course you know that was really what pertained.
    for example:
    HB:I can't do this because i've got to be somewhere.(extreme example)
    Pua:Well its ok you can go wherever lets reschedule another time wink wink kisses

    That bad part in this example is where he indicates she can go and do the thing that she specified to him as an excuse.its not necessary.
    HardRock, in this example are you saying the best way to respond is ignore her "excuse" and just make another statement pushing forward like yeah well listen there's a cool place I'll be at 7 by the water, let's go for a walk over there

    basically have a second option immediately ready to throw at her?


    ..

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    Quote Originally Posted by Jstrong View Post
    HardRock, in this example are you saying the best way to respond is ignore her "excuse" and just make another statement pushing forward like yeah well listen there's a cool place I'll be at 7 by the water, let's go for a walk over there

    basically have a second option immediately ready to throw at her?


    ..
    I kind of got lost on that too. I believe what he was saying was don't act like you had banked all your plans on that. When she flakes, don't agree with her flake and then encourage it. That's what I got.

    As for what to do next... let it be. I think you may be reading into this one a little too much. Your connection is lost right away. Most of the time when a guy wants something, it wants it all, and he wants it now; and its probably the least productive way of getting it. You push, she pulls. Next time she says hi on facebook, just flirt and banter. Don't suggest a meet up. Ride out the conversation, get out on a high note, and wait for your next time. If you start suggesting meeting up every time you talk you'll portray neediness, never good.

    For the flakes, those can be tricky. I like to give them a little sh1t, just so they didn't get a clean emotional detachment and think they can easily do it again.

    Her: "I have to run into town and do some things, I can't make it"
    You: "Aw, you stinker"
    Her: "I know, I'm sorry, another time"
    You: subject change "Important meeting in 30, wish me luck!"

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    rocoloco is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    thanks. but freeze outs here won't help?

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    @rocoloco, @Jstrong ,@Bballking

    In this, looking at the events unfolded one thing one can do is simply state

    HB:"Some Excuse"(whether genuine or not)remember she closed after school
    Pua:Ok "fine" go do "excuse" we will "reschedule" next time.coffee shop tuesday at 8?

    An option you could take:
    Pua:Cuul..something came up..

    There are other dynamics but this should suffice due to current happenings etc.

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    Default Re: had a great start, but now need help

    what if she thinks that you were just saying that to gain the upper hand?


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