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    Default i broke up

    hi everybody,

    i broke up with my girlfriend after i found out she has been having an affair with another guy for the last two and a half years. we have been together for five years.

    we talked on the phone several times since then. in the beginning she threatened me to report me to the police because i logged into her facebook account( to find out if she was cheating).

    now she is sending me pictures of our recent vacation trips. i don't understand why she does that. I replied with a line i found on another foum.

    so i wrote her: "We had a nice time together. Obviously we aren't right for each other but it would be nice to stay in touch as friends."

    half an hour later she replies back: "You break my heart with this statement . I wouldnt call it nice time...We were together. And was great. I'm not half an hour later she replies back: "You break my heart with this statement . I wouldnt cll it nice time...We were together. And was great. I'm not right for noone and I told you long time ago sad but true . You deserve better"

    obviously, my reply triggered something in her. but what to do next?

    On wednesday she sent me two mails.
    Number 1: "I miss you. 2 Moro I have dental surgery. Scared..."
    Number 2: "And yes I am sorry ...and I will always love you . There is no reason not to, anyway.. You are a wondeful guy."

    The only thing I replied to that was in reference to her surgery: 'i hope everything went well. Let me know if you need help.'


    Then today she writes: 'i cooked this and that. Do you want some?"

    I haven't replied to that one yet.I'm thinking I'm gonna tell her im out of town tonight so maybe another time.

    Any ideas? I don't think I want her back but I want her to really regret what she did to me. Also I wanted to use a bf destroyer to spoil the thing between her and this reject. Which bf destroyer is advisable in this situation?

    Thank you.

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    Default Re: i broke up

    I assume you started PUA cos of this incident.

    To be honest bro, 2.5 years behind your back and you still want her, really?

    Walk away. Make a better man out of yourself. Meet better women. Live your new life to the fullest.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: i broke up

    I betcha she recently broke up with someone and is now contacting you for a rebound. She's upset and seeks validation. She missed what you two had and wants to be loved again. If it were me, I'd talk to her just for sex. I'd arrange a meetup at your or her place for a movie and make sure you bring a bottle of wine or liquor and just try to get as a fuck buddy rather than a gf. This is assuming you don't have feelings for her and you want to see her. Of course, this is my own personal opinion and obviously it depends what you want out of it.

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    Default Re: i broke up

    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf24 View Post
    I assume you started PUA cos of this incident.

    To be honest bro, 2.5 years behind your back and you still want her, really?

    Walk away. Make a better man out of yourself. Meet better women. Live your new life to the fullest.

    like i said, i don't think i want her back but i wan't her to want me. you don't need to understand this. i want her to regret it really bad...

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    Default Re: i broke up

    Quote Originally Posted by OG_PlMP View Post
    I betcha she recently broke up with someone and is now contacting you for a rebound. She's upset and seeks validation. She missed what you two had and wants to be loved again. If it were me, I'd talk to her just for sex. I'd arrange a meetup at your or her place for a movie and make sure you bring a bottle of wine or liquor and just try to get as a fark buddy rather than a gf. This is assuming you don't have feelings for her and you want to see her. Of course, this is my own personal opinion and obviously it depends what you want out of it.

    i was thinking about doing this but right now my feelings are still strong for her. im afraid i might become weak and fall for her again. like i said, last weekend she asked if i want to come over and have dinner. i told her i was out of town so maybe another time...

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    Default Re: i broke up

    If she really loved you she would never cheat on you. She is used to you and now she feels that she has lost something. She would have the same feeling if she had a cat for 5 years and she lost it!

    So she won't feel regretful as bad as you want. Soon she will get used to it and forget you. Get over it and move on. Maybe find a girl who is ten times hotter and that may make her jealous.

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    Default Re: i broke up

    Seems like she regrets it, but I would take advantage of the situation and f-close her. Then ignore her for a bit and make sure she finds out of the other girls you are gaming...because if you only fuck her then you will absolutely get back together. And that would suck, she was fucking another guy for 2.5 years.

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    i started talking to a colleague 1 week ago. she is really into me and started to write emails. she initiated it. i never talked to her before. so when we took a walk on lunch break, we sat down on the same bench i used to meet with my ex( she works in another building).
    then she actually walks by in the distance of maybe 150 feet and sees me sitting with my colleague.
    when i came back from lunch break she already sent me an email:
    "I'm glad you are dating again. But short hair and skinny? Really?"

    i didnt answer to her email. in the evening she tried to call three times but i didnt answer either...

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    Default Re: i broke up

    I haven't read the other responses so forgive me if any of this is reiterating.

    What you're doing now is exactly what you should be doing. Showing little interest and not talking about working things out or getting back together. Break ups are hard and is a process. So it'll take time to completely move on.

    Take solace in the fact that the issues you have with her will be the same issues this other guy will have with her. And I can guarantee that he will eventually question her faithfulness if he knows that she can go behind your back then what is keeping her from going behind his. She WILL feel regret. Her loss right? So no bf destroyer will be necessary since the situation between them will unfold itself in time.

    There will be periods through this process where you will miss her and want her back. But hold strong. Keep reminding yourself why you both ended up here in the first place. That she was not loyal to you and that was very selfish on her part. Eventually you will meet someone that you can start fresh with and you'll forget all about her. Hope this helps and good luck to you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: i broke up

    @BatMan
    Thank you for your encouraging words. I really appreciate it.
    I have those days were im not caring about her and even laugh about the whole thing. And then i have those moments, where it hurts. But you know what? It rather seems like my ego is hurt and the fact, that she "prefered" this other guy over me and rejected me over him. It's like she has hurt my pride and insulted me. She abused my trust( i didn't trust anybody more than her and her mother who stayed with us half of the time). They were my family and she took a shit on it. I never thought somebody could do something like that to me. Nobody has ever dissappointed me more than her.
    The girl at my job...i don't care for her. We agreed that this won't be something serious. Anyway, right now im bad! I see women in a totally different light. I will not put them on a pedestal anymore and i will not take their shit anymore. I don't take relationships serious anymore. At least right now i am not able to. This experience has changed me alot. I start to become an asshole with women.
    But anyway, happy Holiday!


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