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    Post Close Anxiety

    Hey guys,

    I need some help with this. I have been having crazy close anxiety lately. The approach is coming pretty naturally but I keep finding myself trapped at the point where iv been talking to a girl for while yet I have no idea how to close with her, whether it be getting her number or whatever, I just end up coming up with some reason to leave and tell her hopefully I'll see her later. If anyone has anything to share with me I'm totally open.

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    Default Re: Close Anxiety

    As much cliché as it sounds, you gotta stop thinking and just do it.

    To me, a much powerful close is done with the least amount of words and more eye contact.

    Really man, what have you got to lose? Fear of rejection? Rejection should be your fuel, your drive, that makes you go harder the next time.

    In my humble opinion, there is no concrete ways to solve it when or how. It's just a feeling you get. When you feel like she might be worthy of your interest, you close her. No hesitation, no fear, no regrets.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Close Anxiety

    about close anxiety, with regards to phone numbers, women give those out like giving candy out at a parade. I have literally gotten a girls number once by saying "hi i'm meteora, whats your name?" (she tells me her name is stacy and we introduce) "well Stacey I would love to talk to you, but I have an appointment that i'm already late for, here's my phone add yourself to my contacts so we can chill out some time" (she gave me her number and I called her phone so she would have mine)
    the only reason a girl might possibly not want to give you her number is if she sees you as a creep or as being desperate. it never hurts to go for it.
    btw, never feel bad if a girl doesn't want to give you her number, it just means she could be taken, or you didn't build enough comfort before going for it. also I recommend you to try to talk to the girl for at least 10 minutes before getting her number and leaving, otherwise she may not remember you and then flake when you ask her to meet up with you.

    as for kiss closes, you've just got to go for it, eventually after having gone for kisses enough times, you will be able to tell when the time is right. k-closing is all about timing, you want to kiss her when she is on an emotional high (rather than a low)

    also for whatever reason sometimes a girl will feel like she hasn't earned the right to kiss you, this is caused when she's super interested in you, but you fail to reciprocate that same level of interest.

    as for f-closes, if you get a good passionate kiss, go for broke. either its on or its not, the girl will let you know if you pay attention to her subtleties

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    Default Re: Close Anxiety

    Thanks for the replies guys. That totally puts things in perspective. Wolf24, that's totally the way I need to go in, I just get trapped in my own head at a certain point thinking of where to take it. I'll totally start going in with that mindset though man, rejection really is going to do nothing except just give me more drive.

    What I'm getting in total though is just go for it, thanks for the words of advice.

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    Default Re: Close Anxiety

    Just ask for the fucking number. Numbers are so easy to get it's like they fall from the sky. If you've been talking to a girl for more than 5 minutes chances are she'll give you her number.
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