Can I just say that the girl I'm talking about in this post has motivated me to spend upwards of 25+ hours on this site? I've only found out about pua in the last month. Consider me an AFC going the steps to move up in life.
Onto the situation. Without going into many details (in which there is a good amount, if needed) I have found my carbon copy in a person. Not identical (which is good), but we hold very similar values across the board. We're both in our second year of University, and we met through a volunteer opportunity on campus.
So, we met, flirted a lot. She reciprocates me, I reciprocate her. And the past month has been fun. Before I go on, I'll clarify that we've only been in direct contact three times, and the most time we spent together was that 10 or so hours we had when we first met.
The good news is that all of our interaction through text has been fun. She demonstrated to me that she rarely responds to people through text, but has been consistent in our interaction.
So why haven't I made a direct move? Well 1) Not afraid to admit, I'm an AFC who is affected by my past experiences: a very self conscious overweight guy who got rejected at every advance (in which, I'm actually very fit now! and working to have PUA charm) and more importantly:
2) She is in a complicated spot, but we haven't really discussed it because we're in "the chase" mode. The short of it though is that, the day we met was the day right after she broke with her long term boyfriend (in which I assume was her high school flame). Not only that, but during our unofficial date, she mentioned she was on a lease with the guy. I'm not really bothered by this, because despite that she still went out with me knowing that it would be just us together.
I've learned all this because I directly asked her out (through text because most of our interaction was on there) on an official date about 5 days after we met... in which she had a surprising serious confession that she was in this spot (it was something like "... you're a great guy and everything but I'm in a very complicated spot right now. like I just broke up with my bf and am dealing with everything from that". She could have easily just said "No", so I took her response as a good sign.
After a 3 day freeze out, we recovered, , kept texting and I managed to get her out to see a show and sneak a "food date" in. At this point I learned about the concept of "sh1t tests" on this site.
So after a great night, she had fun (I didn't go in for a kiss since it wasn't an established date), and we just kept texting from there (obvious breaks in between)
About 6 days ago, our interaction was right back to when we first met, emoticons, smiley faces, exclamation marks and everything (she's telling me what she likes and such)....
And then, I invite her out to a local exhibition last minute through text the night before (still 6 days ago, I bumped into her in the same day and was hyped up on caffeine; not thinking straight at the time), and didn't get a reply at all. I even made the mistake of giving a follow up text late in the night because I thought I had to acknowledge it was last minute (I can feel she doesn't seem to like that last minute stuff)
Anyway, 5 days is the longest we haven't had any interaction. And before you say anything about one-itis, I thought about that too... so I went out of my way to get 8 numbers in the past week. I haven't felt as close to any of them.. so here I am!
So how do I handle this situation? I 've been the initiator, and will probably send something...
In general, I'm just not sure how to handle the situation. Her. The best approach would probably be to just keep spending time, but I want to get inside her mind (in which my attraction level is just not where it could be), because we're a really good fit for each other.
SO Experts, I humbly ask on your advice on how to handle this situation!
Thanks in advance
P.S It's her b-day coming up real soon. A friend recommended I get a little something for her that has some thought behind it. But since we haven't talked I'm not really sure if I should go ahead with something before she leaves town for the weekend (her hometown is a couple hours drive away and I never even asked about her plans, she just brought it up a few weeks without a direct invite, but since it's so far wouldn't it be an odd thing? )