I want some feedback as to how I am handling a friendship* that I have developed with a very pretty and intelligent girl. I suppose she is becoming "more pretty and more intelligent" over time. It's complicated because she was my client.
I met her via business - I do web sites / web development, technical stuff.
Sidenote and Question to PUA Experts:
When I met her (Coffee place), first time we met- First time she saw me, I noticed she kinda blushed / and checked her hair, and went to restroom. (First Impressions - I figure either she needed to go to the bathroom, or she needed to check to make sure she looks good as I was dressed professionally).
We are both in our 20s.
After business meeting, as I was packing computer up, we both were talking and got to the subject of "Medical 420." (it helps with creativity and to unwind at end of day for me. it was end of day and after meeting). I learned she shared a similar viewpoint.
So we went in my car. I said something like "Imma MMJ patient but don't wanna get a DUI (or DWI) by being in the car-drivers seat- Let's smoke in the back-seat. She said Yes and we had a nice lil sesson.
I didn't intend on anything - Question: If a girl is in the above situation, does it automatically mean she likes me? (I did get her in the back of my car- Rather fast after meeting her, without trying. It just happened. Lol)
Anyhow, the business project was months ago- After it was over, (all good business wise), I took a break from her. Majority of time we spent and the way I treated her, was "client-zone." I aint gonna let Good Looking Women monopolize my Business-Time and I told them, which was hard to phrase. I told them, "There are good attributes that you girls have- You should know from a social media business perspective many of the people following your (business social media stuff) are doing so for "attribute" related reasons.
If good looking women want my business I can't mix business and pleasure especially as a one-man-business. I am sure some of you PUA's will dis-agree and my response would be, "My business reputation is one thing I value more than social reputation. I do not care what woman think of socially or else I over-analyse. I do care what anybody and everybody - male or female - thinks of me business wise. Also, it became apparent acting the way I was, was making them interesting in me non-business wise. It led me to observe that..."
The "Business Game," and the "PUA Game" are nearly identical (with different target goals. )
Anyhow long story short we started talking again after a few weeks. Me and the girl who contacted me originally. We started hanging out - Movies, Food places,Drinks, etc.
It's really easy for us to just hang-out, go out for drinks, etc. And I went from "having to view this chick as a client and making sure she aint taking advantage of me" (which I did good if anything I was too business-strict earlier), to viewing her in a better more natural light lol.
We don't talk about business at all. Anyhow,
Last Sunday, we went to the movies. I brought "Special Brownies" and I was starting to feel the effects, and was trying to describe the effects, and said, "I think something is starting to feel good body wise." That just came outta my mouth without thinking, I was trying to say brownies gave me a body-high. Obviously it sounds like I was trying to say something else which is what she thought!
So after I said that, we both blushed and were laughing, hard. (it was very very funny. She was giggling. I think I was too lol)
She said during the laughter that, "that is a good thing." This was on the way to the movies in car. (I shoud have pulled over and kissed her I probably would have if I werent driving :-(
That was last week. Now, there is one detail here I should mention to give a more balanced-overview and get more honest feedback from you all, as I know I am making this sound like she does like me.
She told me a few times she is "seeing a guy." He doesn't live in the same State though so I never cared much about that. I don't care about that except for the fact she is taking a vacation to go see him (he is paying for the plane tickets lol) in a couple weeks.).
She mentioned that a few times- I remarked that it must be difficult for her, being in a relationship with a guy who is so distant- Even joking, "Hope he is taking care of your needs in this long-distance thing you have." (I don't really care - Except if she is telling me that as a way to say, "Your just a friend." But jealously isn't an issue; I want to expand our friendship (not be exclusive or anything).
Anyhow a few days ago she needed a simple computer program installed on her computer; She offered to pay me for doing it (I guess because of the business-professional-strictness I displayed earlier.) It took a few minutes and told her not to worry about it.
She said she'll take me out for a message, literally saying that she'll pay for both of us -- message parlor.
I know she enjoys my company, (why else would she want to hang-out consistently). I don't know if as a friend or more.
I don't want her to pay for a message for both of us. Soooooo....
We don't talk on the phone verbally- We do text but mainly to plan things to do (logistics I guess). The vast majority of the time we have spent together socially communicating / hanging out as been in person.
I have what appears to be a limited time frame to make a move on her. Because she is the one that mentioned this message parlor thing, I was thinking of texting her, and I needa figure out how to phrase it right, but more or less "give her the option" of "paying for us having a message as she said," or "I appreciate that you want to re-pay me for helping with minor computer thing. But theres no need to pay money for me receiving a message, [you guys can see where I want to go with this.]
(I dont want to lose her as a friend either though by complicating things but im starting to develope feelings and want to make a move before I develope more feelings and start acting weird or too nice!)