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Thread: Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusing me

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    Question Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusing me

    hello all. I'm new to this forum and pretty new to gaming as well. I got into PUA this summer to help me get over my shyness, I just started my first year of university this year, and so far it is working, I am taking it slow but I have been approaching girls and trying routines. However I have recently run into a situation where I have NO IDEA what to do now or how to respond to this girl, and I could really use some help from more experienced PUA's. Here is the situation:

    I met a girl after class one day at the campus bus loop. Approached, opened and number closed. Both of us had time restraints as our respective buses came, so we didn't get to talk long, but before we parted she told me it was really brave for me to approach a strange girl, girls don't realize how hard it is for guys, and how she really respected it and wished all girls did. We texted over the next few days but although she would respond quickly and initiate her answers were always very short and serious. So to try and steer our conversation in a more light and fun direction I sent her this message, which I have field-tested and gotten great results with:

    Hey! I need to ask you something that has kept me sleepless and I want you to be totally honest with me. It might be awkward between us after this but I have to know how you feel. I have kept this in my mind for a while now but I think it's finally time I'll be straight up and just confront you.... I hope this doesn't ruin the relationship we already have. I just need to know and I don't see any other way I could get over this. It wouldn't be fair on me if I don't get an answer. I want you to tell me truthfully, no matter how harsh it is. I just want your honest opinion...

    Which do you like better, Pepsi or Coke?

    I swear 100% that this was her response:

    Neither. The average pH in those drinks is enough to dissolve humans bones and teeth and experiments have shown that these drinks are capable of dissolving rust and cleaning stains off china. As well the excessive intake of caffeine from these beverages can cause a drop in potassium, leading to muscle and heart problems.

    Obviously this wasn't what I was going for at all (I was trying to use innuendo to get her mind going, and then I could turn it around on her playfully when she brought up sexual stuff first) so I just replied how it was an interesting response. She then replied:

    I can see why it was awkward for you to ask and why it is causing you sleepless nights. You look like you workout and go to the gym, meaning you do care about your heath, so it must be hard for you when you get a craving for one of these beverages.

    So that didn't go as planned. Our conversation remained serious. After that we didn't text for a couple of days (we were both actually busy for real) Again to lighten the mood and be playful I sent her this:

    You never call or text any more and the kids are worried sick! If you keep this up we'll have to divorce. You get the kids, I keep the house and the dog.

    This was her reply:

    I think you sent this to the wrong person. OMG, you're married with kids?! What the heck?! I would have never given you my number if I knew you were married!

    I called her and explained that I wasn't married with kids and how it was only a joke. She said she didn't understand why/how it was funny or what the point was, but in the end accepted that I was single.

    Okay, so I have no idea where to go from here. She always replies to my texts/calls and initiates contact half the time, she gave IOI's the time we met in person and was receptive when I approached (again saying she respects guys who cold approach) But at the same time she is very serious all the times we texted and the one time we talked on the phone. When I called her she did invite me to an on-campus art show, and when I agreed she said she had been nervous about it for days because she "has never asked a guy on a date before". So I know it is a date and I know she is interested in me, but her seriousness and weird replies to my text messages have thrown me for a loop. I have no idea what to do or where to go from here. As I said, help and advice from experienced and master PUA's would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks all
    -Roy

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    Default Re: Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusin

    Hey Roy,

    Great post Bro. Very articulate. You number closed, and the girl is initiating contact, and even asked you out. You are in the drivers seat my friend.

    From now until the date, keep the texts and calls to a minimum. Go on the date, have fun, try and get some Kino going on. During the date, you might find that this girl, isn't an exact match, and that is OK. Her responses are too funny, actually kind of cute in a way.

    She seems intelligent, with the knowledge of ingredients to soda pop, but looks like she lacks "Flirt" intelligence.

    Go on the date, have fun. This is how she is, either it will compliment you, or it will get old, and you will look for someone else.

    Your on track buddy!

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    Default Re: Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusin

    she doesnt know you that well to be playful yet on text. your just a stranger with her number who has meet only once?meet up first, set something up, go out, then after youve been on a date the playfulness attitude on text will work much better.

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    Default Re: Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusin

    Lol, you are gaming one of those girls
    Im also at university, at a study-line which requires some of the highest scores in my country, and almost every girl is just like that one. Many of these girls have spend their whole youth at home, in front of a book and haven't been partying or dating at all.

    What seems to work is just ask them out on a romantic date, when you see them tell them they look nice. Don't use weird negs and sarcasm.
    They are like boring adults... that don't understand irony.

    She obviously likes you, and wants to to ask her out!
    I think they will fall for you if you just show that you are interested in her and share her values and interests, and present yourself as a gentleman.

    Im not sure if your girl are like the sheldon girls at my school, but from what you say, there is a quite a big chance.

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    Default Re: Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusin

    Here's the real situation: This girl is actually intelligent. She also has a very sarcastic (but dry) sense of humor.... AND all the power & control over your interactions.

    Basically.... she's the Alpha right now.

    You totally missed the joke.
    ALL she did was, reply back with the same type of message you originally sent her.
    (Think about it)

    Your message was long.... and started out all serious & profound... and then the last sentence was the punchline. Right?

    HER reply was "long & drawn-out... all serious & profound..."
    And the smarty-pants response itself was the punchline!

    You got freaked out because she didn't simply say "LOL I like xxxx". You were caught off-guard by HER cleverness.

    Trust me, it happens to EVERY GUY early on.


    It just takes effort, practice & experience, to be prepared for anything at any time.

    You have to UP your game with this type of girl... She's gonna be attracted to smart, quick, sharp, intelligent, confident guys.
    She's the type to appreciate cerebral humor. Meaning; you have to stimulate the mind...

    She's not a "Spring Break / Girls Gone Wild Bimbo", so you can't expect to get her all fired-up with simple humor at first. You gotta have stronger artillery.



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    Default Re: Know she's interested but her seriousness and text replies are confusin

    I agree with T-mal on this one. Reading about her replies had me smiling and nodding. There's really only two possibilities that I see here: 1) she is totally without a sense of humor and just doesn't get your jokes. 2) she's smarter than you and she's messing with you.

    I'm leaning towards #2 personally.

    But, if she's initiating contact and asking you out then I think it's safe to say she likes you. Drop the gaming and be straight with her. Have a straightforward interaction. I think if you clearly escalate things, the intensity of her response might surprise you.


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